When your children grow up..

[Admiral Huddy]

My daughter is nearly 13 and growing up fast but i've noticed recently that she is now starting to pull away from us. I've always been close with my daughter. When she was younger she was like a shaddow..

It's really quite tough because one day she is hugging you and holiding your hand and the next she won't be seen within 6 feet of me.

We don't want to be the sort of parents that will try and hold her back. Both her and her brother are growing up and we have to accept that. I's some thing that's inevitable but still it's still hard.

I find it difficult to understand however, why some parents don't accept that their kids do grow up.

 

[jcb33]

My daughter is nearly 13 and growing up fast but i've noticed recently that she is now starting to pull away from us. I've always been close with my daughter. When she was younger she was like a shaddow..

It's really quite tough because one day she is hugging you and holiding your hand and the next she won't be seen within 6 feet of me.

We don't want to be the sort of parents that will try and hold her back. Both her and her brother are growing up and we have to accept that. I's some thing that's inevitable but still it's still hard.

I find it difficult to understand however, why some parents don't accept that their kids do grow up.

Urgh, I could rant on to you for hours about a certain someones mother... as could everyone else that knew her, but never mind, its good your letting them grow up, just dont let them do it to fast or they will regret it, I certainly try not to grow up even though I will soon be 20, Im quite happy acting like a child, with my new toys like the nintendo DS, and going round the grandparents anoying them via the use of my never ending conversations.....

Though tbh your doing the right thing, if you dont try to stop them doing things chances are they wont do them, go daddy huddy

 

[Kell_ee001]

I find it difficult to understand however, why some parents don't accept that their kids do grow up.

My parents understood my sister and I had to grow up, and my Dad used it to his advantage in order to embarrass us at every opportunity

 

[Admiral Huddy]

My parents understood my sister and I had to grow up, and my Dad used it to his advantage in order to embarrass us at every opportunity

Yep that sounds like me.. I'm always embarrassing her.. but I do it on purpose.

The only thing I worry about is that we become distant. I'd hate that.

 

[fatiain]

My parents understood my sister and I had to grow up, and my Dad used it to his advantage in order to embarrass us at every opportunity

As will I when my kids get older! :evil grin:

 

[Kell_ee001]

Evil sods, the pair of you!

Be warned though, Max and I used to get our revenge

 

[ExRayTed]

My son has just turned 13 too.He used to want to spend lots of time with me but not anymore it seems.He has been growing more distant lately but hey,that's normal I guess.He still talks to me,we still eat together as a family.He has changed so much lately yet I can still see my little boy in him.Part of the problem is parents not letting go I think,and it is hard.He has to spread his wings though.All I can do is be there if he needs me.

Besides,he has to keep me fairly close..I'm the one with the cash after all

 

[B@Th*nG]

the only thing i think you should be worried about is that you must ALWAYS be forthcoming with your activities with them. they may be getting distant but you should always show that you want to spend time with them and do things with them. they want to be independant, that doesn't mean they aren't insecure - otherwise they will become genuinely distant.

B@Th*nG

 

[Bill101]

The only thing I worry about is that we become distant. I'd hate that.

I'm sure she won't become distant, she is finding out how much space she can survive with.Just let her know that she can come back close to you at any time.Mine was like that between 13-17 but now she is coming back around and does not spend as much time on her own in her bedroom

 

[iCraig]

The only thing I worry about is that we become distant. I'd hate that.

It takes a lot for a Daughter to abandon her Daddy, I wouldn't worry.

Just be a Dad, and she'll always be a Daughter.

 

[Admiral Huddy]

the only thing i think you should be worried about is that you must ALWAYS be forthcoming with your activities with them. they may be getting distant but you should always show that you want to spend time with them and do things with them. they want to be independant, that doesn't mean they aren't insecure - otherwise they will become genuinely distant.

B@Th*nG

Good point thanks.. We have our guitar lessons toegther so I guess it's important to keep that up I guess.

 

[Welshy]

Bah she's just becoming a teenager. Give it a few years and then she'll start coming down the pub with you, at least that's how my teenage years went

 

[Dj_Jestar]

Just remember to keep that shotgun polished and nearby, preferably next to the shovel, for when she starts gaining interest from the boys.

 

[feriso]

Well my daughter is only 3 months old so I suppose I have a while to go yet - but my some of my mates and I have already agreed on the "Boyfriend Committee" - whereby any prospective boyfriends are questioned before the committee with each of them testing a certain attribute and me as chair - will be daunting as hell...

Shall be funny

 

[Simian]

Just remember to keep that shotgun polished and nearby, preferably next to the shovel, for when she starts gaining interest from the boys.

You forgot a couple sacks of 'Quick Lime' also!...

Its the 'Kevin and Perry Syndrome'!... they hit 13 and change into a totaly different person (Moody, Loners or God Forbid Chavs!) they'll grow out of it and come back in a couple of years!... then you'll have a hard time getting em to move out by the time they're 30!...

 

[Roberta]

My parents understood my sister and I had to grow up, and my Dad used it to his advantage in order to embarrass us at every opportunity

All the best parents do!