who here is estranged from their parents??!!

about 6 years here, was kicked out for a bizarre reason that wasn't my fault and never been back since. Whole family was turned against me by my parents in the excuse of trying to justify it, including aunts/uncles etc, therefore I have kept the olive branch firmly in my own possesion since.

To be honest I have been made a better person as a roundabout result, I have achieved things I probably never would have otherwise.
 
I only speak to my mum because I have to a lot f the time; she has so many wrong ideas about life and keeps company with people I really do not have time for. Now and again I see a spark of what she used to be but she is dreadfully bitter about the way her life turned out, blames everyone else but she created a lot of her own problems.

I speak to my dad occasionally on the phone and see him a couple of times a year.

My younger brother has not talked to me since 2009; his choice he phoned me when I was involved in a court case as a primary prosecution witness and told me he never wanted to speak to me again because I had taken the case to the police, I said ok and put the phone down, the defendant got two life sentences, bro or not I will always do the right thing.
 
Its strange really, many people judge me because I don't have a relationship with my family, but its the way I like it. We never really got along all that well, my parents divorced when I was young, both remarried, both have their own lives.. I'm an adult now, I have my own life.

I don't think that there is any bad blood there.. Just that I don't feel the need to impose upon them..

Blood is thicker than water, custard is thicker than blood.. Respect your deserts.
 
I have a weird family but seems total alien not to be close to your family to some extent.

I haven't seen my sisters in over a year and my older sister not for 4 years before that. Our issue is simply we are spread all over the world, have busy lifestyles and have commitments that make it i difficult to meet up at the same time. I usually try at christmas time but both my sisters are vets and they often have to work over Christmas.

My parents try to meet up with me once a year but that is not always simple.


We do tend to argue and fight a bit but it is mostly harmless and we really do love each other but tend to let petty things gets in the way, still enjoy each others company for short periods of time though.
 
My dad's not spoken to his parents for going on 30 years.

I see them a couple of times a month and he's never deprived either of us contact, even walking me to their door and waiting with me when I was a child.

I've never trully understood the reasons for it, I know it's all from his end though. What's quite ironic is that he is very very similar to my grand mother in terms of personality and I think that may actually be part of the reason. They're both stubborn and quite quick to anger. Probably not a good combination!
 
I speak and see my mum & stepdad all the time, have a really good relationship with them.

My dad, haven't seen in around 2 years now. Spoke to him not long ago simply to tell him to stop being an **** and give my sister a call, just to see how she was doing at university. I didn't hear a thing when I came back from Afghanistan, or while I was out there.
 
I only see my mum every couple of years, but it's because she lives in Sequim, WA.
We're on great terms, its just a huge distance. It's been like that for about 10 years now, so I am kinda used to it.
My Dad however is like having a son, I seem to have to look after him more and more these days!
 
Haven't seen my dad since before my boy was born, that was over 7 years ago so he hasn't met either of my children. I'm in no rush to change that.

My mum lives more local (not that my dad is far away, just a few miles more) but we don't see each other that much. Could happily not be there when she pops around to see the kids.
 
Haven't seen my older brother, my dad and anyone on my dads side of the family for about 12 years now. When my parents split up they gave me an ultimatum of have nothing to do with my mum or I'd never see him again. I told him he was being ridiculous as no matter who was "in the wrong" they were both my parents and the rest is now ancient history.

Looking back it was the best decision I ever made.
 
Estranged from my parents for a fair while now. I'd be happy enough if I never saw them ever again after the amount of rubbish they've thrown at me for the last couple of years before they disowned me.

Next year though, my cousin has asked me to be her bridesmaid and has put down the subtle ultimatum to the other guests that if they don't like the idea of me being there, then don't bother turning up.

I really hope they are as stubborn as me and go to the wedding. I can't wait to walk past them and flash them the biggest smile of my life. Maybe they'll realise that the child they loved for, cared for and nurtured has, despite them and their prejudices, grown up into a very happy, content and decent human being.
 
Luckily I get on with my parents.

A couple of years ago I lived with a girl who had just got herself legally estranged from her parents. Her situation sounded far from ideal, but after getting to know her for a couple of months I began to wonder if it was just because she was a bit of a *****.
 
I can't imagine what this is like. I see my parents often and am on very good terms with them. My Dad is one of my best friends. I think this has blurred my judgement a little though, and it's taken me this long to realise that they actually have faults at all! You know when you're a kid, you think of your parents as sort of all seeing, all knowing gods, well I've only just come to realise that in fact I know better than them on quite a few things. This might be obvious to most people, especially those who have had issues with their parents, but it was a bit of an epiphany to me!

It does seem I like girls with Dad issues though.
 
My mum and dad got divorced just after I was born and I didn't see my dad until I was about 13. Him and my mum tried again which outraged my older sister and I've not seen her since. Mum and Dad didn't last as he seemed more interested in the other family he had (I have a half sister who is less than 9 months younger than me) and I saw him on and off until about 1995. I've seen him twice since, I took my new born daughter to see him in 1998 and I saw him at my grandmothers funeral I was asked to attend in 2004.

My mother had a drink problem (as did her mother) so I left home at 18 and barely spoke due to the amount of drunken phone calls at 2am. When my grandmother died she tried to sort things out and it didn't. I last spoke to my mother around 2002.

My wifes parents treat me like the son they never had and I feel closer to both of those than I ever remember being to either of my own parents.
 
My mum is going to die in the coming months due to a terminal illness. I'd strongly suggest anyone who doesn't know/speak to their parents to seriously rethink their situation. Luckily I'm very close to mine and see her every day but I know when she's gone I'll wish I had done more to be with her even then
 
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Not spoken a word to my father in 17 years. Ok, that's a lie, maybe 10 words max. He has extended the olive branch on a few occasions but in truth, I'm not particularly interested in fixing things with him. He was the personification of a dead beat father that treated his kids like slaves and ****. My mom told me recently they found a suspicious tumour and I didn't care one iota. Not in an evil or petty way, I just have no emotions towards him.

It build up in me a clad iron resolute to be a great father one day. And I mean the best father in the whole world. From the first hour he/she is born, till my dying day.

Too many deadbeat trash parents in this world that has ZERO business having kids or having their inferior genes continue for the sake of it.
 
When i was 14 my parents got divorced because my dad was having an affair and it realy destroyed my mom. I moved in with my mom and my sister went with my dad. I spent the next 4-6 years putting up with psychological and verbal abuse from my mom. Seeing my dad on rare occasions and less and less as time went on. He eventually moved back to the uk and my mom kicked me out of the house due to smoking cannabis and not getting a job twice. The first time i moved in with a friend for a year, the second time she kicked me out, i ended up getting in trouble with the police and ran in to a spot of trouble which i still partly blame her for, complicated.

We are all on good terms now as that was about 5-6 years ago. I speak to them fairly frequently over the phone and see them a few times a year. My sister and my dad relationship is pretty messed up though. But that is because my dad is a bit of a stupid inconsiderate ahole and my sister can be a stubborn self centred bitch.
 
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