who here is estranged from their parents??!!

I'm quite surprised how many people are in this situation. I thought it was a bit strange my GF not speaking to her parents but it seems more common than I thought.

She spoke to them when I met her but I think seeing how I lived life and acted with my parents she realised how bad her parents treated her. Sadly, to her dad, I'll probably be the evil boyfriend that stole his daughter but we're going on 3 years now and I've said if she wants to speak to them I'll drive her there and support her/leave when she wants to leave if they kick off.
 
shuzzbutt said:
Simple question really, would like to know how long since you last saw your folks on good terms and over what the sqaubble is.

I'll start off, haven't seen them for 3 months and probably won't for many years. Based on the their views of my wife :(
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Forgot to add to my post what the squabble is all about.

Alcohol off course. What else.
 
Always very sad to read threads like this. I couldnt imagine not speaking to my parents. Well actually I would give everything I have to speak to Mum again as I lost her a few months ago. What ever has gone on with those that dont speak to one or both of there parents PLEASE think what would it be like if one or both of them past away could you get on with your life knowing that you will NEVER speak to them again?
 
kPATm said:
Always very sad to read threads like this. I couldnt imagine not speaking to my parents. Well actually I would give everything I have to speak to Mum again as I lost her a few months ago. What ever has gone on with those that dont speak to one or both of there parents PLEASE think what would it be like if one or both of them past away could you get on with your life knowing that you will NEVER speak to them again?
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I have no interest in speaking to either them again so it's no different to now.
Only one that upset me was my sister - she would never spoke to me again because of something out of my control, something that I barely understood at that age. As time has gone on I've learnt to understand why she reacted that way but I will never forgive her for breaking contact with me.
 
Wow, lots of people with one or both parents that are crappy. Makes me feel a bit more normal!

My mother allowed me to be subjected to years of physical, emotional and mental abuse at the hands of her husband (not my father). I moved out of her house at the age of 17 and went to live with my dad. I couldn't leave before then because I wasn't strong enough, but one day I had enough and just decided to do it. Best decision I ever made. I didn't speak to her for years afterwards. I suffered from depression during my early to mid twenties because of it. I struggled to hold down my job and even to get up in the mornings, but I gradually learned how not to be depressed and turned my life around.

I do speak to my mother now, I decided to give her a chance, but it is feels very awkward for both of us and I don't think things will ever be right. I have a baby on the way, due in April, but she will not be allowed to take my child on her own while her husband is alive. My child will not be in any position to come the harm that I did. I'll tell her exactly that when (if) she asks.
 
kPATm said:
Always very sad to read threads like this. I couldnt imagine not speaking to my parents. Well actually I would give everything I have to speak to Mum again as I lost her a few months ago. What ever has gone on with those that dont speak to one or both of there parents PLEASE think what would it be like if one or both of them past away could you get on with your life knowing that you will NEVER speak to them again?
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Sometimes, this really bothers me.

I've always stated that there's room in my life for any of my family who have shunned me to one day come back should they rethink things and decide that they want to be part of my life again.

Parents wise, while ever they're healthy, I don't think they'll ever do that. It may be a different story when one of them is really ill or has something terminal. Then things become difficult to weigh up.
 
There is nothing in the World that would stop me talking to my old Ma even though my upbringing was not what you would call conventional. People that know me are quite shocked when they know the facts & see how I treat my Ma, She gets loads of hugs & a kiss on the cheek any time I leave her no matter what she may or may not have done in the past.
My Gypo Dad I can take or leave though as he is the Head of the family down there & a right Mardy **** most of the time. :p
 
Haven't spoken to my mother for going on 15 years now, it's weird I was never close to my father he had anger issues, but after my mother did something that ended up causing a divorce I decided to go live with my dad and it was the best decision I've ever made.

My mother and her side of the family tried to turn me against him by telling me secrets which was pretty disgusting thing to do to a 15 year old, she stole my cat and never even told me when my grandparents died. She has now remarried with the person who split them up.

Good riddance.
 
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I've seen my father around 4 times in 25 years. Last was 13 years ago for my nieces baptism. I think my sister has lost contact again since.

Him and my step-mother chucked out my sister and I without warning. Never knew why, suspect it was money related; they'd had a kid together and he probably needed his own room. They kept my step-brother and half-brother. I was eleven at the time. Didn't have a chance to say bye to any friends, I guess to them I just disappeared one day.

Really sucks to be disowned like that, but eventually you realise that he's the **** and then you get on with your life.
 
Zefan said:
I can't imagine what this is like. I see my parents often and am on very good terms with them. My Dad is one of my best friends. I think this has blurred my judgement a little though, and it's taken me this long to realise that they actually have faults at all! You know when you're a kid, you think of your parents as sort of all seeing, all knowing gods, well I've only just come to realise that in fact I know better than them on quite a few things. This might be obvious to most people, especially those who have had issues with their parents, but it was a bit of an epiphany to me!

It does seem I like girls with Dad issues though.
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Who doesn't? They do butt stuff willingly.
 
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