Who lives life and who just exists??

billysielu said:
I just exist :(
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Here, have some cake, it will cheer you up

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get out the rut while you can... i get into ruts so fast, but i'm at uni so theres usually enough open doors and change to stop me, i completely wasted last summer though, all 3 months of it and no achievements, tragic.... feel for you, it's a horrible feeling,
 
I kinda am in the same boat as you. All I do is work, come home, eat, sleep, work repeat. It gets boring but trying to find few things to keep me busy.

I'm currently in the process of looking at mortgages and houses as I rent at the moment and would like a house of my own.
 
starving kids in africa 'exist'

your living life , you might not feel your living it 'to the max' but that is your own decision which is a part of life . be thankful that you have the ability to make such choices!
 
The key is finding something you enjoy doing that connects you to other people and lives. Seriously.

I ditched my comfortable-yet-boring 9-5 electronic engineer job to retrain as a physics teacher. I'll still be grinding the millstone, but I'm not going to get bored by it.

Also my dancing - any number of hobbies have a social element.

It is deathly boring and soul-destroying to end up just in a cycle of work-eat-TV-sleep-work-eat-TV-sleep etc.

But honestly, don't panic, you don't need much to bring you out of it. Find something regular to go and do, enjoy, and get better at. You'll find your work becomes an enabler to the life you want, instead of the centre of your life.
 
EDIT: To those stuck in a rut;

Get a hobby?
Do something after work that doesn't involve sitting in front of a box?
Find something you enjoy and can maybe make a bit of cash from, not enough to quit your day job but a nice subsidy that will keep you entertained and self-perpetuate itself?
Learn something new? Take flying lessons (they aren't as expensive as you may think!) Sailing? Hill walking? Jogging? Something that gets you out the house!

To OP; your home is your comfort zone, it's easy to stay in, less chance of confrontation, less chance of embarassment etc. But you know yourself that becoming a social recluse is no fun!

I had the misfortune of losing a good friend via a similar method, he started dating a girl and all they did was see each other, stay in and watch TV, as friends we were soon phased out. They moved in together last year, it's just him and her, neither of them see anybody, and apparently (what I've heard from his OH's family) is all they do is work, watch tv and sleep. We tried for ages to get him to come out, he did on occasion, but only to somebodys house, never ventures up town any more. Such a shame, he was really outgoing when we knew him. :(
 
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n1blo said:
I had the misfortune of losing a good friend via a similar method, he started dating a girl and all they did was see each other, stay in and watch TV, as friends we were soon phased out. They moved in together last year, it's just him and her, neither of them see anybody, and apparently (what I've heard from his OH's family) is all they do is work, watch tv and sleep. We tried for ages to get him to come out, he did on occasion, but only to somebodys house, never ventures up town any more. Such a shame, he was really outgoing when we knew him. :(
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This just shows you at a click of a finger you can loose someone even though all he did was meet someone. Peoples life changes in an instant.
 
IMO life is all about change, as the OP has recognised he wants a change, and intends to get a hobby, socialise more etc. AFIAK its a normal thing.

It's a psychological thing, I think media and social preassure play a big part in branwashing people into thinking they are somehow missing out if they are not on the go 24/7.

Sure go to parties etc, but if you want to, it's not natural to do things because it is deemed expected.. I go out socialising fairly often, last week I went climbing for the first time ever and it was grat fun, but just as often I am quite happy spend a weekend in, messing with the computer or the car and just lazing about.

If you are unhappy, then of course take steps to do something about it, but if you dont go to a party purely because you cant be bothered, that does not mean there is something wrong with you! it just mean you cant be bothered and maybe want to stay in.
 
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Make a list of things you would like to do, give them three different categories of prioritisation:

a) Things you'd like to do in the next six months
b) In the next six months to three years
c) Things that you're happy to wait over three years to do

Then work through them! I bet there's a lot you'd love to do but have never got round to it, or you have fleeting ideas but nothing concrete. Write them all down and tick them off.
 
mattyfez said:
IMO life is all about change, as the OP has recognised he wants a change, and intends to get a hobby, socialise more etc. AFIAK its a normal thing.

It's a psychological thing, I think media and social preassure play a big part in branwashing people into thinking they are somehow missing out if they are not on the go 24/7.

Sure go to parties etc, but if you want to, it's not natural to do things because it is deemed expected.. I go out socialising fairly often, last week I went climbing for the first time ever and it was grat fun, but just as often I am quite happy spend a weekend in, messing with the computer or the car and just lazing about.

If you are unhappy, then of course take steps to do something about it, but if you dont go to a party purely because you cant be bothered, that does not mean there is something wrong with you! it just mean you cant be bothered and maybe want to stay in.
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+1 do what you feel is best dont be pressurised. its your life after all
 
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