Wierd one this......Kids drawing on their walls with mums permission!!!??

Hikari Kisugi said:
Yup, send her to tard school, the mum that is, drawing all over the walls is not the in thing.

Child has to stay in the room with that mess, people don't redecorate that often. If she scores the wlal while drawing (easily done) might need the plaster touched up and sanded down before repainting, which might need an extra layer.

I'm sure mum will be quite happy to do all of that on her own.
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oh lord

"scores the plaster"

you should have seen some of the marks in our first house. They were far worse than scores i tell you now !!!

Did the house fall down ? No. We just filled em with plaster and painted over. job done.

Dont be so damn dramatic.
 
Gavin said:
well its obviously me then as i thought its totally unacceptable. But still the forums never cease to amaze.

Im still not budging on my decision. Maybe im slightly different as its taken me years to get the house to a half decent standard, and i dont have the money to repaint walls willy nilly.

But thanks for the views.I must just be so old fashioned i make doc martin look cool
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I have an 8 year old child, who'se already got designs on changing his bedroom decoration for a 3rd time !

Seriously just relax. Its not like she's asking to go running amok in your whole house with a tin of spray paint. She just wants a cool and unique way to decorate her bedroom.

If your bothered by it, i would encourage her to turn it into a piece of art. Design a logo so to speak. Get a some really large letters drawn up and use them as a template. Print one letter per piece of A4 say, in her chosen font, then get her to choose colours etc.. and really make a go of it.

Doing that will make it look much better than you imagine, and is no different to the murals you find in younger kids bedrooms, just more mature......

Like this

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its just paint on the walls at the end of the day, thats going to have to be painted over as they grow up ...

You could even get it printed onto acetate, and borrow an overhead projector from somewhere and get her to paint a proper mural ?

Possibilities are endless, it doesnt have to be a quick scrawl of her name in spray paint badly done with paint dripping down the walls and chunks of plaster missing :D
 
Just thinking about my mates son who we nickname 'Damien'.
About 3 years ago my mate had decorated his sons bedroom and left some paint in there.
His wife went upstairs and started screaming and shouted my mate to come up and sort 'Damien' out.
He got upstairs and was greeted with the band name KISS painted in 3 different places on the wall.
My mate just said 'My boy'.
 
Kids wanting to express themselves in their own room is going to be the downfall of this country. You heard it here first!

Plaster is cheap. Paint is cheap. Giving your step-daughter her own little space - priceless Daddy points!

She will get bored soon enough and wack up a load of posters.
 
I the wall is designated for drawing I don't have a problem with it. Actually I was thinking about this the other day and came to the conclusion if I had my own place then one wall would be a 'thinking wall' for my software/writing projects..

As I think visually and spatially, drawing seems normal to me. If I had a kid that then decided t draw on it, then I'd start prompting them to draw and encourage them in that area.
 
Woah.. Over reacting much! Just because you don't think it's right, doesn't mean it's actually wrong.

My parents would never have allowed me to do anything like this, but then I wasn't exactly "artistic". My best mate however, did all of his bedroom like this. He is now painting murals for a living, which was most likely brought about by being able to have his own "blank canvas" to play about with, which will have improved his interest and skills in that kind of thing.

As long as she knows she is the one that repaints it when it needs doing, I don't see where the problem is.
 
I think bad things would happen to me were I to start drawing on the walls. I'm tempted nonetheless. As such I probably couldn't object to someone else drawing on "their" own wall.

If you see it as your wall though, and not your daughters, then being annoyed is reasonable.
 
Gavin said:
Hmm no wonder the country is like it is. I must be old fashioned.

either that or i have a bit of pride and discipline in my house.
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What the hell are you on about? I had my room painted a lurid lime green when I was younger, I parents let me because it was my room.

How is letting a kid be creative going to be the downfall of this country?

Just tell her she can buy the paint out of her pocket money (assuming of course that's allowed, or maybe pocket money would shatter her work ethic?)
 
dmpoole said:
I'm going back to 1971 and I went in my neighbours bedroom for the very first time (ooh err).
I was 13 and he was 19 and he had just taken me to see Led Zeppelin because his mate couldn't go.
His bedroom was totally black - black carpet, walls, curtains, lamp shade, blankets etc but he had drawn images/graffiti all over his walls in white and it looked bloody awesome.
So much so that I kept going on about it all my life and this year my wife has let me have a black theme in our bedroom - not totally black but not far off.
She won't let me draw on the walls though.
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haha funnily enough i know someone who did all black and stars and other things and it was totally awesome.

got no problem with it myself and if you think its getting to messy like others have said just paint over it .
 
I think there's two issues here:

i) The painting.
ii) Your partner giving her permission without consulting you.

Are you so opposed to (i) because you're bothered by (ii)?

I think she wants to mark her territory. Humans use visual markers rather than urinating as high up as they can, but it's the same sort of thing. Posters, blackboard paint, etc, are temporary things. Paint is more permanent, so it better marks the space as her room. Even if you think it's hideous. Maybe especially if you think it's hideous.

I think it's fine as long as limits are set and she knows she doesn't have general permission to paint wherever she feels like.

My question would be how much to help her. Enough to make it a better job, not enough to stop it being her thing. MrLOL has the right balance in post 44, I think - you help her make what she wants, to get the idea in her mind onto her wall.

The "in thing" just means that her best mate has done it, and so she must too.
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Or maybe that she and her peers have talked about it and thought it would be cool, so she'll gain status by being the first of them to actually do it.
 
It seems that the majority of people here really wouldnt mind their kids graffiting their rooms! I defo was not aloud and nor my brother. And when my kids reach of age, i am not going to tolerate it at all. Perhaps i am also 'old fashioned' but i am only 24 and i believe kids/ teenagers should respect things. If they really want to do things like that, do it when they have their own place.
 
just decorated my ten year olds room and guess what,,,, he wanted his name in graffiti on a wall, must be a bit of a new craze going on, so i wasn't thrilled on the idea so i kinda talked my lad round a little about how hard it would be to actually get a good finish, i mean it ain't going to be easy to make it look nice, told him would let him have a choice of posters instead and he went for that and also he is into skateboarding so i search ebay and vinyl silhouettes are available and he is happy with them,,,
so maybe a little bit of discussion and compromise someway
 
If you don't agree with it, put your foot down or reach a compromise. You have a hand in bringing up the child and if you're not agreeing on something it can lead to other issues.

However, there's no point flipping out at her or us because we disagree. Ironically, you may be the one who needs to mature here. Either reach a compromise or put your foot down.

Personally, I'd make sure there was an "area" that it is acceptable to paint/draw on, and going outside of it means you get into trouble.

Apologise to the missus.
 
if she does want to do it, teach her to do it properly let her design something and you help her or she does it herself. theres nothing wrong with graffiti style or murals on a bedroom at all.
to be closed minded about this makes you a ****. its a damn wall, thats all, it can be painted over.

p.s dont come here wanting people to agree/support with your old fashioned stance so you can feel better about how you acted.
 
cheers for all comments. im still not going to allow it but nice to see the discussion going towards the view that its ok to draw on walls. which has quite surprised me!


still cant see whats wrong with a few posters and drawings on paper tbh but we all have our views:)
 
The problem is is when said kid is at a friends house and graffitis all over someone elses house.

Absolutely shocking mentality I think.
If I ever did anything like that as a kid I would have been caned!
 
Gavin said:
Hmm no wonder the country is like it is.
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Yes, teenage riots where ever you look....:rolleyes:

I don't see the problem, it's her room, therefore she should be allowed to have a say on how it's decorated, after all how you decorate your room expresses a lot about that person. This was always the case when I was a kid, although I never wanted graffiti on my walls, but I always had a say on colour, design and even furniture.

If that's the sort of culture she's into, then why not let her express it, she'll only find another way to express it otherwise, and besides, it can be painted over.

Also, I don't think you should be "putting your foot down" so to speak, if you're dead set against the idea, you should be reaching a compromise that you both agree on in a civil manner, this will likely teach her a lot more about life rather than you just saying "No, and that's final".
 
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