Work not letting me off for my Grandfather's funeral.

they dont have to give you leave, but it is pretty harsh of them, I would look for another job, either go sick or tell them your taking it off anyway
 
As said above immediate family stops at your parents. Work should try and arrange something given the notice period you have supplied, usually an authorised absence in my experience (ie day off unpaid). Set the Union on them.

Sounds like the kind of stunt some up and coming manager would try and pull when I worked in retail many years ago.

My next employer were someone more considerate. I had a great-aunt who we were close to that died, I got the day off on compassionate leave no worries.
 
My sympathy and condolences.

Yes, take the day off anyway. You're entitled to it and by all means do so, your employer seems incredibly immoral. Tbh they sound like complete idiots. It's stupid how they say just because someone is not 'immediate family' you can't take the day off, they have no idea at all about your relationship with your grandfather at all and as such shouldn't jump so quickly to conclusions and be massive knobends about it!
Do as you would, and once again sorry for your loss :(
 
As others have said - tell them you are taking the day off and you are giving them time to arrange cover for you. If they make life difficult for you, tell your rep and raise a complaint using the compaby greivience proceedure.

Is it a large employer? You should name and shame them for their behaviour.

It's unbelieveable these days how employers think they can treat staff.

Times like family bereavement, you would be amazed how quickly a GP will sign you off work for stress/greiving ;)

EDIT: Oh, and look for another job :) This is a time they should be supporting you, not being an a**e
 
It's not immediate family so accommodating the request is a good will thing imo.
If they don't have the staff to cover then unfortunately it's tough. You'll have to ask other team members to cover for you where possible.
 
Legally they are well within their rights. Morally they are bang out of order.

Sadly there is nothing you can do bar offer to take it as unpaid leave.
 
Robert1986 said:
My grandfather died on 10/02/2011 at 11:20pm from cancer. Funeral is on the 18/02/2011 and my work won't let me off because it isn't immediate family.

My union say I can take the day off because its still family but my supervisors and boss are saying no because too many people have booked annual leave off for that day. :rolleyes:

Where do I stand? Take a sick day with no pay? Tell them to **** off? A colleague of mine got a day off last week when her grandmother died. They let her off because there was enough staff to cover for her. They won't do the same for me even though I worked last friday, the day after he died...

Whats my options?
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Grandparents are immediate family, you need to tell them that.
 
Metalface Mark said:
Grandparents are immediate family, you need to tell them that.
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Metalface Mark said:
Grandparents are immediate family.
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Legally speaking, irrelevent.

He has nothing but goodwill to rely on - they've clearly got none, so he must look for other ways to attend rather than having a go at them for something they are not legally obliged to give them. He has no rights to the time off.

We know that morally they are way out of line but sadly morally and legally are two different things and it's the legal aspect that defines his next step not the moral one.
 
Out of interest are you trying to take it as compassionate leave or annual leave? I think most employers generally try to let staff do the latter for funerals. As mentioned a good option might be to try and arrange for a colleague on leave to cover for you and you take the holiday instead.
 
Tell them your intention is to go to the funeral, and that you won't be at work. Leave it at that.

They wouldn't dare actually punish you for taking it off. Especially considering you've already asked.

My old job wouldn't let me take my 21st birthday off work, even though I had applied for the day off 6 weeks in advance. It got closer to the time and they said they would be too short staffed. I asked to speak to my manager and simply said that I wouldn't be at work and he knew why. He tried to get me to "understand" that there would be circumstances, but guess what, there were none. Except maybe he spoke to me less, which was more of a reward.
 
what time is the funeral ?

If its a morning one i'd be tempted to turn up after the funeral "late"

They aren't going to be able to sack you for being late 1 day, even if it is 4 hours late or whatever.

Follow your company procedure, ring up at 9am or whenever you start, and inform your employer as per regulations that you expect to be late, and that you will be in as soon as you are able to - once the funeral has finished.
 
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