The ex, identity theft and fraud.

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Left my ex after various things like being cheated on; 18k taken from my bank, her drug abuse, physical violence and other general garbage.

This morning was a snow day as I live in a little village so my plan was to kick back a little and maybe catch up on some work.

Postman made it though the snow and left me a gift; thought it was my usual credit card statement which I never open until I saw the back, the return address said Vanquis on it. Never had a card from them; opened the letter and and there was was my gift from the postman, £1300 bill for a card ive never had.

Phoned up their card fraud line and explained the situation, CS guy passed it to fraud team saying I will get a statement to sign to verify I believe im a victim of fraud.

Checked with Equifax and saw that the card had been set-up at my previous address after I moved out. Checked the rest of my credit information, to my surprise I also have credit accounts with two catalogues and a mobile phone contract about to go into default. All these have been acquired at my previous address where my ex still lives.

The mobile phone contract is an interesting one; it was set-up in November and must be for an expensive phone because for 3 months billing its at £204. I phoned O2 and explained, also asked wtf someone had done to get a contract for another phone at my previous address when I already have a contract with them that I have had for years and is at my current address. They know this; I have letters and statements from them to my current address but they still allowed a new contract to be initiated at my previous address.

So far ive called the police who are passing on to the fraud team; contacted both O2 (who have blocked the phone) and passed the details to their fraud team and contacted Vanquis. I cant get an answer from the catalogue companies but I expect I will be landed with big bills from them as my oldest son told me earlier in the week before this happened his mum keeps getting parcels from catalogues all the time. In the past two weeks she has had a PS3 and a Galaxy tab amongst other things come from a catalogue so even though I know she is broke it now makes sense.

Has anyone had to deal with anything like this; I have been reading around and it seems these things hardly ever go to court leaving the victim with the bill, im absolutely fuming and I don't know how this will turn out.
 
You're most likely right, you will be landed with the bill. This drug abusing vermin that you were with sounds horrible. I'm sorry that you were landed with her.

Depending on the size of the bill, get all the proof you can with backing from police and take her to the small claims court.

Hope things work out for you!
 
Actually its fraud and there is a chance that since it is more than one case of fraud then she might get a prison sentence if she cannot afford to pay the money/goods she has obtained illegally.
 
I was recently took to court for a ccj for a debt thats not mine.
I still have not paid a penny and I am still fighting it.
This was from years ago too so good luck.
 
I don't understand how in this day and age you could be landed with the bills? If it wasn't you that bought and took on all these services and products, then you have been the victim of fraud and your bank should take care of it? Why is it more complicated than that?
 
I don't understand how in this day and age you could be landed with the bills? If it wasn't you that bought and took on all these services and products, then you have been the victim of fraud and your bank should take care of it? Why is it more complicated than that?

What can his bank do about catalog credit debt?
 
Left my ex after various things like being cheated on; 18k taken from my bank, her drug abuse, physical violence and other general garbage.

This morning was a snow day as I live in a little village so my plan was to kick back a little and maybe catch up on some work.

Postman made it though the snow and left me a gift; thought it was my usual credit card statement which I never open until I saw the back, the return address said Vanquis on it. Never had a card from them; opened the letter and and there was was my gift from the postman, £1300 bill for a card ive never had.

Phoned up their card fraud line and explained the situation, CS guy passed it to fraud team saying I will get a statement to sign to verify I believe im a victim of fraud.

Checked with Equifax and saw that the card had been set-up at my previous address after I moved out. Checked the rest of my credit information, to my surprise I also have credit accounts with two catalogues and a mobile phone contract about to go into default. All these have been acquired at my previous address where my ex still lives.

The mobile phone contract is an interesting one; it was set-up in November and must be for an expensive phone because for 3 months billing its at £204. I phoned O2 and explained, also asked wtf someone had done to get a contract for another phone at my previous address when I already have a contract with them that I have had for years and is at my current address. They know this; I have letters and statements from them to my current address but they still allowed a new contract to be initiated at my previous address.

So far ive called the police who are passing on to the fraud team; contacted both O2 (who have blocked the phone) and passed the details to their fraud team and contacted Vanquis. I cant get an answer from the catalogue companies but I expect I will be landed with big bills from them as my oldest son told me earlier in the week before this happened his mum keeps getting parcels from catalogues all the time. In the past two weeks she has had a PS3 and a Galaxy tab amongst other things come from a catalogue so even though I know she is broke it now makes sense.

Has anyone had to deal with anything like this; I have been reading around and it seems these things hardly ever go to court leaving the victim with the bill, im absolutely fuming and I don't know how this will turn out.

Do they have your signature, they need to prove it was you, when the items on the card were purchased were you somewhere else, to prove that you could not be in 2 places at once.
 
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I don't understand

Obviously.

If this go's pear shaped any more than it has already the first debt collector that knocks on my door will wish they had never taken the job.

I will never pay any of this; that low life sack of junkie garbage already took everything she could from me and recently even went so far as to sell my youngest daughters, laptop, DS, ipod touch, tablet computer and mobile phone along with the wii I bought for all the kids.

I'm just not in the mood for this; I am way past angry, I am honest to a fault personally, can't lie, I even try to tell an insignificant white lie and I burst out laughing, if I ever slip up and make a mistake I just can't even cover for myself never mind lie on the scale of my ex, I hate thieves and dishonesty with a passion.
 
Do they have your signature, they need to prove it was you, when the items on the card were purchased were you somewhere else, to prove that you could not be in 2 places at once.

This is one thing im hoping for in the evidence side of things, the bank won't give me any details because its been passed to the fraud team but I know I can place myself with proof of location for most of my time.
 
I would put a mail redirection on the address for my name. At least for a few months after i leave to cover anything I may have forgot to inform.
 
She didn't start out that way and we had some good years and 4 kids, then she lost the plot started cheating and started with drugs (amphetamine). Had she been like that when I met her I would have not been with her past the first date.
 
Wow sounds like one horrible ending to a relationship.

Have you considered confronting her about these contracts and accounts? Or are you not in a position to do so?
 
She didn't start out that way and we had some good years and 4 kids, then she lost the plot started cheating and started with drugs (amphetamine). Had she been like that when I met her I would have not been with her past the first date.

I have to ask, if she is this way, why does she still have custody of the children? Have you not thought about involving social services and them coming to live with you?

Not having a pop, just asking for the sake of the kids :)
 
How did they know to send the bill to the new house, if it had been established at the old address?
Surely for her to get the card in the first place it must have been delivered to your old address, not your new one?
 
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