Caporegime
I think that kids under 12 should not have their own computer, tablet and a basic phone.
My sister in law has taken the same approach with their kids and they're social but at 11 they just have their own tablets etc. They are at an age where they're developing their own 'self' but that also needs a careful blend of knowing they should be part of the family and their own time.
They're very active with family - the son is definitely in the playing WoT but at the same time they limit that so he will interact, so he lives for doing things outdoors like climbing etc but is also starting to be more social.
I think there's a blend that the parents need to be very strict with - so the kids understand their role within the family, they learn the social skills - by getting out and about with parents but at the same time learn to relate to the kids around them.
See I've got mixed views about it. I agree kids do not need their own tablets etc, but I can't say I agree with blanket applying that to all children. The girlfriend also has a daughter who I think is 13 or so (so younger than the boy) and she has her own iPad but shes brilliantly social.
They're all different, therefore each need their own approach. Whilst a healthy mixture of social + electronics isn't a bad idea, some may need it more than others.
It's also a bit hypocritical for me to say because I always had consoles from a young age, but it was limited exposure to it. Gaming was also different then, multiplayer was more social as it involved friends coming over, them bringing their controllers to school etc...now its pretty much all online, so ultimately you're still sitting on your own.
Its difficult for sure. If I ever have children they will inherently be exposed to a lot of tech from early stages in life (I'm a big kid who likes gadgets afterall! ) but hopefully I'll be able to show them the responsibility that it requires as well.