A question for the wise elders...

[BowdonUK]

I was watching a podcast recently based on mens rights and the female host asked a question to the 3 guys at the table.

So the situation is there was a couple who had a daughter who died at 3 years old. The guy was grieving and helped pay for the funeral.

Then soon after the woman let slip that the girl wasn't his daughter, so he recorded himself smashing up the grave site including the headstone.

The question is, was he justified to do that?

My answer is no. But was surprised that all 3 men on the panel were justifying it.

My opinion is in life things happen and sometimes you have to take the hit, learn, and move on.

He has justified anger towards the mother, especially when she had him paying for the funeral. But whether the girl was his or not he did a good thing. The girl didn't trick him.

In my view his reaction, and the reaction of the guys on the panel justifying the action is a clear example of toxic masculinity. Overly negatively emotional to the detriment to himself and others.

Am I right to take this position or is that the male position these days?

 

[throwaway4372]

Watch better things. Literally anything else will do.

 

[Beans on toast Dave]

jeremy kyle stuff right there, horrible situation whatever people think was right or wrong

 

[decto]

Ditch the woman, move on. Life too short to be angry.

 

[KiwiTaff]

Watch better things. Literally anything else will do.

/thread

 

[Rroff]

As above horrible situation regardless but smashing up the grave site doesn't accomplish anything while kind of understandable shows a lot of character improvement is needed.

Branding it as toxic masculinity in isolation though is very wrong, as it is presented it is just an upset person who probably can't deal with all the emotions they are experiencing.

 

[Mysterae_]

That's a horrendous and despicable thing to do to a 3 year old's gravestone no matter what the circumstances.

I'm going to guess America, **** yeah.

 

[Roar87]

It wasn't justified at all, yet I can't imagine the anger and emotions the man went through. Women who lie about the paternity should be jailed imo.

 

[Dis86]

Dick move by the guy. Dick move by the woman.
Both are trash.

 

[Goodie]

Click bate in a podcast form.

 

[SuperElectric]

I don't care whose daughter it was, you've got to be a *** if you must swear, star it out fully *** pyschopath to destroy the grave of a 3 year old

 

[Jack_green]

She probably told him ,as she no longer needed him. He used him to cover the bills and make sure the girl have everything.

 

[Efour]

Yeah smashing up a kids grave...

Completely justified...

Lol wtf?

Don't watch crap TV.

 

[tonys]

Of course he wasn't justified and why are you watching stuff like this when you have the forum to keep you occupied?

 

[danlightbulb]

The question is, was he justified to do that?

No.

Ps I believe it's quite common for a child's real father to be someone other than the husband/partner, especially going back in history. Think I read that somewhere once.

 

[rare]

It takes a special kind of scumbag to smash up the grave of an innocent 3 year old because they had their emotions/pride hurt.

 

[potatolord]

... so he recorded himself smashing up the grave site including the headstone.

In my opinion, this shows he did it primarily to hurt the mother, which makes it even worse.

No justification for this, under any circumstances.

 

[413x]

All the people in that article are disgusting.
Smashing up a kids headstone? Vile.