Girlfriend problems what do you guys make of this situation?

DezUk

DezUk

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Ok I never thought I would post a topic like this but the time has come.

I have been in a solid relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months now and things have been going great, we spend tons of time together and we get on really well, she is my best friend. From the early days of the relationship she has been going on about getting a Celtic Football Club tattoo on her back. Now I personally don’t like tattoos but I can handle certain styles and areas (she has one at the bottom of her back for instance) and I have expressed this to her. When she has ever mentioned the Celtic idea I have told her that I wouldn’t like her to have it done for various reasons.

It will cause her hassle as it is so visible and these sort of things spark trouble (especially in Scotland)
It doesn’t look good, especially on a woman
Its not in a good area
I don’t agree with it

After a while I thought she had forgotten about the idea as there had been no mention of it but the other night we met up and she turned round and proudly showed off her painful tattoo marks. She said she had been to her mates house and had the Celtic badge tattooed right in the upper middle of her back to which I was very disappointed.

I have been thinking a lot about it and feel really upset about it and don’t know what to do. Basically I feel as though she has gone behind my back and disregarded my feelings and just had it done anyway. This also gives me the impression that she regards Celtic more highly than me which I don’t think is right in a serious relationship. I am disappointed that she just ran off and had it done without even letting me know 

I don’t think she has fully thought it through and will later regret what she has had done as it is so visible but I have tried explaining this to her and she wont accept what I tell her. I really like the girl and would feel horrible telling her its over but I honestly feel I should as I don’t want to be dragged into all the hassle factor with her that the tattoo with bring.

I am being to harsh ?

What do you guys think ?
 
Let her do it. It's her body. I've known people get some pretty stupid tattoos and it's their funeral. You don't have to take the "but you'll regret it in the future" stance, it's not really your responsibility. Normally people who have one tattoo start getting the bug and wanting more, maybe next time you can convince her to get another one that you find more appealing, and in a more appealing place.
 
Well i feel it is partly my responsibility. The way I see it if we are ever out and someone was to shout something at here which can easily happen up here then I will be involves straight away. I woudlt want my girlfriend to be taking abuse and I would feel obliged to say something back which is inevitibly going to cause problems. I agree it's her body and she can do what she wants but I feel a little offended that she just ran away and had it done without letting me know :(
 
DezUk said:
Well i feel it is partly my responsibility. The way I see it if we are ever out and someone was to shout something at here which can easily happen up here then I will be involves straight away. I woudlt want my girlfriend to be taking abuse and I would feel obliged to say something back which is inevitibly going to cause problems. I agree it's her body and she can do what she wants but I feel a little offended that she just ran away and had it done without letting me know :(
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You've been with her 4 months and you're all offended that she didn't run it by you? Get over yourself, it's not like she got a swastika on her forehead.
 
DezUk said:
Ok I never thought I would post a topic like this but the time has come.

I have been in a solid relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months now and things have been going great, we spend tons of time together and we get on really well, she is my best friend. From the early days of the relationship she has been going on about getting a Celtic Football Club tattoo on her back. Now I personally don’t like tattoos but I can handle certain styles and areas (she has one at the bottom of her back for instance) and I have expressed this to her. When she has ever mentioned the Celtic idea I have told her that I wouldn’t like her to have it done for various reasons.

It will cause her hassle as it is so visible and these sort of things spark trouble (especially in Scotland)
It doesn’t look good, especially on a woman
Its not in a good area
I don’t agree with it

After a while I thought she had forgotten about the idea as there had been no mention of it but the other night we met up and she turned round and proudly showed off her painful tattoo marks. She said she had been to her mates house and had the Celtic badge tattooed right in the upper middle of her back to which I was very disappointed.

I have been thinking a lot about it and feel really upset about it and don’t know what to do. Basically I feel as though she has gone behind my back and disregarded my feelings and just had it done anyway. This also gives me the impression that she regards Celtic more highly than me which I don’t think is right in a serious relationship. I am disappointed that she just ran off and had it done without even letting me know 

I don’t think she has fully thought it through and will later regret what she has had done as it is so visible but I have tried explaining this to her and she wont accept what I tell her. I really like the girl and would feel horrible telling her its over but I honestly feel I should as I don’t want to be dragged into all the hassle factor with her that the tattoo with bring.

I am being to harsh ?

What do you guys think ?
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dump her.... i mean come on a celtic tattoo.
one of the soap dodgers ;-(
 
Almost exactly The same thing happened here today:eek:

Well apart from It being a Celtic tattoo, already having one and the fact that i wasd there when my girlfriend rang up.


But she still got a tattoo in the centre of her back, Its a name of a kid that she used to baby sit that died last year and she had it done in japanese.

But I hate tattoos with a passion and always have, Im kinda sad/disappoint shes gone through with it and there is no way im gonna be excited and all happy for her when i finally see it.

But i suppose Relationships are about compromise and understanding and thats how they work.

Well she better not complain about me eating things that might contain chemicals anymore:p
 
I agree with the OP and how you feel. But I think it's just one of those things you have to accept.

Perhaps you can use it to your 'advantage', maybe next time you want something and she says 'No' you can ignore her and go ahead. If she huffs and puffs you could remind her she did the same when she got a tatoo without your approval. Then take the higher ground and teach the lesson of thats why relationships are about sacrifices in order to succeed, rather than selfishness.

If that don't work then try hitting her.
 
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