Girlfriend problems what do you guys make of this situation?

I agree that it's her body and she should do what she wants with it as you haven't been together nearly long enough for you to have a say in it, but, again, you should feel under no obligation to stay if what she's done is a turn-off for you. At the end of the day, getting her team's name tattooed on her back was more important to her than you telling her you would find it unattractive and socially awkward, and, well, I think that says a lot about the prospects of your relationship. Sure, she was well within her rights to make the choice she has, but you're also well within yours to call the whole thing off and find someone whose tastes (and sporting affiliations:p) more closely match your own.
 
Datamonkey said:
Totality

If thats true you need to get out of that relationship dude.
Even if she isnt sleeping with the guy in question you have trust problems.

Trust problems = end of relationship been there an done it myself :(
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Yep indeed. But after 6 years its quite hard especially when she continually calls whenever i end it. Anyway dont want to derail the thread, just wanted to point out to the OP that he doesnt really have girl issues :D Give it time and I'm sure you will if you dont let the whole tattoo issue go away. Its done now so she can hardly have it removed if you like it or not...
 
Chances are that the idea of having the tattoo was around long before you were on the scene. So a little thing like a, currently, short term relationship isnt going to get in the way of an idea like that.
 
DezUk said:
This also gives me the impression that she regards Celtic more highly than me which I don’t think is right in a serious relationship.
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Arsenal we always be more important to me than any woman. And I've had several long term relationships, heck one was even with a Spurs fan..
 
If you stay in Glasgow, I would try and talk her out of it. Could cause loads of unwanted hassle and its a bloody football team, get something meaningful.
 
Mohinder said:
The OP didn't compromise. He told her not to get a tattoo. That is disregarding her feelings.

It seems the reason this girl did it behind his back is that he would have 'put his foot down' and told her not to get one if she'd told him she was definitely going to get it. Which is not his right.

And of course being in a relationship gives you the right to voice your opinion. Being in a relationship - especially a four month one - does not give you the right to control your partner's actions.
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Kinda contradicting yourself there man! :p The OP never said anything about "putting his foot down" or putting a leash round her neck or locking her up in the basement so she couldn't go to the tattoo parlour. You're making some big assumptions about him - next thing you'll be saying he's an alcoholic wifebeater and would have given her a black eye if she kept going on about wanting a tattoo! How the hell was he supposed to "compromise" on this issue? You either get a tattoo or you don't - he told her he wouldn't like it and that it would cause him hassle when they're out together. That's neither "controlling her actions" nor "disregarding her feelings", it's just him telling her he wouldn't like it. How were they supposed to "compromise"? Temporary tat? Celtics t-shirt?

She not only disregarded HIS feelings, but went and did it on the sly without even having the decency to tell him "I see where you're coming from but I'm going to get one anyway".

It seems to me if she complains it's "voicing her opinion" but if he does it's "controlling her actions", and if she does something that he doesn't like it's allright, but if he tells her he's not happy about it it's "disregarding her feelings". I reckon this is about all the **** you had to put up with by friends and family who didn't like YOU getting tattoos more than about the OP's situation, because, frankly, the arguments you are making are contradictory and show a double standard that would seem ridiculous even to you if you took a deep breath and stepped back for a second there!

Personally I don't find tattoos unattractive (though I'm not mad about them either), but, although it's everyone right to do anything they want to their own bodies, I would expect to have a say in the matter if I was in a relationship with that someone. I wouldn't (and couldn't)outright forbid my girlfriend from getting a tattoo, of course, but if she went and got one over my objections that would show me where I stand in the pecking order of her affections, and if she got it without even telling me that she was disregarding my objections it would show me how little respect she has for me as well.
 
Ok im sorry. I cant bite my fingers any longer. You are going out with a girl who has willingly decided to plant a football club tatoo on her back..........................

erm, niiiiiiiiice. Ditch it and find a bird with some class. Seriously. Ewwww - does she drink cider for breakfast and smoke 2000000B&H for lunch? Kebabs Ahoy!......jimmy.
 
fastwunz said:
Ok im sorry. I cant bite my fingers any longer. You are going out with a girl who has willingly decided to plant a football club tatoo on her back..........................

erm, niiiiiiiiice. Ditch it and find a bird with some class. Seriously. Ewwww - does she drink cider for breakfast and smoke 2000000B&H for lunch? Kebabs Ahoy!......jimmy.
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lol, I was wondering if someone would say that.
 
Damonic said:
lol, I was wondering if someone would say that.
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well someone had to - sod all the PC stuff - this girl sounds like a proper chav! or as the scots say - 'Ned'. Likes the Argos special Gold hooped earings eh? likes a bit of the old' Frosty Jacks in the morning eh'? her idea of exercise headbutting a few Rangers fans eh? jesus. Tatoos (especially football ones) on ladies = woman who will be beating seven shades of excriment out of you when you return from the Quick Save without the tinnies of stella and White Lightning.
 
manveruppd said:
Personally I don't find tattoos unattractive (though I'm not mad about them either), but, although it's everyone right to do anything they want to their own bodies, I would expect to have a say in the matter if I was in a relationship with that someone. I wouldn't (and couldn't)outright forbid my girlfriend from getting a tattoo, of course, but if she went and got one over my objections that would show me where I stand in the pecking order of her affections, and if she got it without even telling me that she was disregarding my objections it would show me how little respect she has for me as well.
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It's a relationship that's a mere 4 months old. Why should he have ANY say in whether his girlfriend has a tattoo or not? If they were married then fair enough, I could understand that, but not even out of the honeymoon period? Behave.
 
4 months? Ease down dude you'll scare her off.

I'm with my girlfriend a year, and I don't expect her to take my advice seriously. I don't have the right to 'have a say' in what she does yet.

On an ironic note, don't take too much from a bunch of online strangers like us, talk to your mates if you need proper advice!
 
DezUk said:
(she has one at the bottom of her back for instance) What do you guys think ?
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**** tag. I hate them, there nasty, they look cheap, they strech, crack and go minging! I find it so funny all the women that have it done.

A mate has it and in some her wedding photos you can see it and she has now destoryed all her photos, paying for it to be removed. Why, she had a 2 part dress, corset thingy and it lifted when she bent over and stuff.

Plus it's highly dangorus in that aera!

I'd dump her now dude. Shes not listing or willing to do anything and in 5 years she will regret it after manny kickings and blame you
 
manveruppd said:
Kinda contradicting yourself there man! :p The OP never said anything about "putting his foot down" or putting a leash round her neck or locking her up in the basement so she couldn't go to the tattoo parlour. You're making some big assumptions about him - next thing you'll be saying he's an alcoholic wifebeater and would have given her a black eye if she kept going on about wanting a tattoo! How the hell was he supposed to "compromise" on this issue? You either get a tattoo or you don't - he told her he wouldn't like it and that it would cause him hassle when they're out together. That's neither "controlling her actions" nor "disregarding her feelings", it's just him telling her he wouldn't like it. How were they supposed to "compromise"? Temporary tat? Celtics t-shirt?

She not only disregarded HIS feelings, but went and did it on the sly without even having the decency to tell him "I see where you're coming from but I'm going to get one anyway".

It seems to me if she complains it's "voicing her opinion" but if he does it's "controlling her actions", and if she does something that he doesn't like it's allright, but if he tells her he's not happy about it it's "disregarding her feelings". I reckon this is about all the **** you had to put up with by friends and family who didn't like YOU getting tattoos more than about the OP's situation, because, frankly, the arguments you are making are contradictory and show a double standard that would seem ridiculous even to you if you took a deep breath and stepped back for a second there!

Personally I don't find tattoos unattractive (though I'm not mad about them either), but, although it's everyone right to do anything they want to their own bodies, I would expect to have a say in the matter if I was in a relationship with that someone. I wouldn't (and couldn't)outright forbid my girlfriend from getting a tattoo, of course, but if she went and got one over my objections that would show me where I stand in the pecking order of her affections, and if she got it without even telling me that she was disregarding my objections it would show me how little respect she has for me as well.
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Has it not occured to you that there's probably a reason why she got it behind his back?

Look how much he's freaking out over her getting a tattoo, and they've only been together four months. He's a whiner.

manveruppd said:
I reckon this is about all the **** you had to put up with by friends and family who didn't like YOU getting tattoos more than about the OP's situation
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Who's making assumptions now?

None of my friends or family have tried to stop me getting a tattoo, or given me any grief about them.
 
Make sure you prod it a lot. That'll teach her.

Personally I want a tattoo, been designing it for a while, but I asked my girlfriend if she would still fancy me if I had it done, she said 'no' so I havn't got it. Although it's still on my mind.
 
I have to agree with the majority of responses on this one. The fact that she said she wanted it beforehand shows she has some respect for the relationship, she didn't just go out and get it done.

Although I can completely understand your negative reaction surely it can be summed up as the fact maybe she is not the kind of girl you thought she was? I maybe digging far to deep into something I know little of here but perhaps you are trying to make her into something she's not and the fact she's not obeying upsets you? Maybe she isn't the right girl...
 
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