I've ruined my relationship by sleeping with someone else.

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divadiow

divadiow

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I don't want any sympathy here, that's not my goal. I want advice.

I'm a pretty mixed up person emotionally and socially. I'm on a fair dose of medication that is supposed to help with depression and an anxiety related flinch. I also self-medicate to try and calm myself. When I drink I go loopy and do silly things. If I drink a certain amount, my memory will just go. Absolutely nothing is remembered, no hazy memories- just pure black. I go more than drunk- but proper loopy 'off the wall'.

Bascially I went out on my own Saturday night to meet up with a new friend. I am new to Bristol and don't really know many people.

I got more and more drunk and then I can't remember much apart from flashes of being naked with someone.

I staggered home and was blatantly guilty as I came in with no underwear and half my clothes inside out. A real mess.

I have broken my partners heart and I have no idea why. I am disgusted with myself and have said I will do anything to keep the relationship.

What else can I do?
 
Not a lot you can do.

Give her time and space to come to terms with what you did.

Most importantly if you know you cannot control yourself when you go out on your own - do not go out.

If she understands your medical condition and you have been in a serious relationship for a long time then she might forgive you.

Ultimately its a lesson to be learned. Make your apologies and tell her you will respect her decision. She is going to be very hurt, upset and no doubt her confidence will have taken a big hit.
 
You know that you are on some serious medication and that it affects you when drunk, yet you still go out and get loaded and the proceed to cheat on your partner breaking their heart.

I would suggest that you try to make it up with her. If they even want to talk to you again. I would think that the guilt will be punishment enough.

Relationship Counciling is the way forward if she ever wants to see you again.

You have made your bed now you get to lay in it I am affraid...
 
fini said:
have a drink - it'll make you feel better.








do not do this
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hahaha

Erm Buy her some flowers. But I think you're royally screwed now mate. Why would you go out and get drunk knowing your on medication and knowing it makes you go loopy? That's what I don't understand.
 
I'd split up with anyone who cheated on me... You'll just have to see what happens, but I wouldn't blame him/her if he/she didn't stay with you. Sorry :(
 
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Fisrt of all you need to stop drinking as you cannot control yourself due to the medication you are on and also if you have depression and anxiety then alcohol will act as an amplifier.

You also need to speak to your partner and thrash this out but she is in the driving seat because it's you who has. You have clearly broken her heart but what has she actually said or indicated that she will do, aside from cutting off your town halls no doubt.
 
:( Yes I understand and will respect whatever decision is made. I just cannot understand why I've done it.

I drink to try to feel normal, it never works.
 
divadiow said:
:( Yes I understand and will respect whatever decision is made. I just cannot understand why I've done it.

I drink to try to feel normal, it never works.
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Dont try be someone else.

Be your self, dont try drink to be "normal" because in reality there isnt a Normal with people.
Ever one is different and you cant and shouldnt try change it
 
You know that when you drink you go 'loopy' and can not handle it, you also know that mixing medication and drink wil lresult in all sorts of problems yet you do them both anyway?

You need to spend some time on your own, sort yourself out because if you cannot look after yourself properly then I have no idea how you expect to be able to maintain a succesful relationship.

As has already been said you need to get tested for sexually transmitted infections/diseases.

And next time you feel like having a drink, just remember this and the fact that you slept with a random stranger who could have been HIV+. Scary eh?

As for your relationship, im not sure with your name whether your male or female, either way, there is nothing you can do but say your sorry and that you are stupid.

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divadiow said:
I drink to try to feel normal, it never works.
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So why do it if it never works???
 
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