Marriage & Arguing

WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry - You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = you're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = you better not
8. Do what you want = you will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course, I am upset, you moron!
10. You're certainly attentive tonight = is sex all you ever think about?
 
Bony Maloney said:
WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry - You'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = you're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = you better not
8. Do what you want = you will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course, I am upset, you moron!
10. You're certainly attentive tonight = is sex all you ever think about?
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:D So true lol
 
Remember a having two kids (especially young ones with little age gap between them) is 6 times harder than having one.

Have a little read up on Post Natal Depression as its a lot more common than people think and your wife might be suffering from it. You will be able ot identify this faster than she will.

She might also be feeling like nothing other than a "mummy" and no longer a young woman. You have to take the time and effort to make her feel like that.

Give her a lie in, get the baby through the night sometimes, help out with the washing and ironing etc.

Don't have an evangelical transformation as you wont be the person she fell in love with, but do spend a little more time and thought and make her life easier.

There is nothing wrong with arguing as long as you always end up making up and its not too serious. For me being able to argue is a sign of trust as I know my wife will understand just like I understand. We have no fear that a disagreement will split us up.
 
Give her a lie in, get the baby through the night sometimes, help out with the washing and ironing etc.
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Im up for work at 5.30am every morning so i always give her a lay-in in the morning on a weekend...But I have problems being up in the night with the youngest because I suffer from Night Terrors and that ALWAYS causes argument cuz i can never wake up with him, plus im always nasty in my sleep :(
 
.Kencs said:
Im up for work at 5.30am every morning so i always give her a lay-in in the morning on a weekend...But I have problems being up in the night with the youngest because I suffer from Night Terrors and that ALWAYS causes argument cuz i can never wake up with him, plus im always nasty in my sleep :(
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I know the feeling - Im up at 5.30 for a 200 mile round commute.

Her knowing that she cannot depend on you will be messing with her mind. Sit down with her and explain that on the weekend you will try and get up for the baby but you cannot promise anything.

You cannot be expected to overcome things that you cannot overcome but you can show that you are trying.

Just showing that you are willing to make the effort might help more than you would think.
 
.Kencs said:
Sorry to ask this, but when you were away from home for weeks on end, was you never paranoid she would cheat on you? I couldn't join the forces for that reason...Sorry, just a question because I can't see how people can join the forces and leave loved ones behind fearing they could be cheated on...

Sorry if im wrong in thinking this :(
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Just a matter of trust chap, I trusted her without question and she trusted me. Yes she probably could've cheated on me but she did'nt, equally I could've cheated on her on a weekly basis while I was away but never did and never wanted to.

Now we get closer by the day and I would'nt swap her for anything.
 
My girlfriend is an angel, I don't get anything like that :D
That was a big big lie but she's behind me and if she read me slagging her off she'd go mental.
 
Right, You lot MAY NOT be interested, but I shall tell you anyway, When I get home, I'll sit down with her and talk things through. I'll cook dinner for her tonight (Very rare as i had 2 fire engines out last time lol) and I will also drop by the florist on the way home and buy her some flowers/or the petrol station LOL and I shall let you know how it went whether talk solved any of our issues...
 
Thats marriage and women for you. Will never work them out. It got worse for me when I got married, I was always in the wrong no matter what and she would always go off in one. Then went into a mood for a couple of days until I apologised!. What for!,as i hadnt done anything wrong most of the time.

Ended up with.....

Divorced.
 
Oh a very very useful book to read is "Why men lie and women cry".

Quite insightful and certainly helped me understand a little more. Its also quite funny.
 
Can I ask how old your wife is?

In todays society that is young to to tied down, I'm not saying it's wrong but I'm 28 and would have missed out on so much if I had settled down at that age. Hell I'm nowhere near settled down yet.

I guess she is probably a similar age and maybe feels a bit trapped especially if she sees her friends free single and living it up. Does she get out and about on her own much?
 
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