WOW you need to go out and find yourself a proper job, £370p/m is shocking. I'm at uni and i work part time and earn double that nearly.
How long can someone live with parents till they charge u for rent
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WOW you need to go out and find yourself a proper job, £370p/m is shocking. I'm at uni and i work part time and earn double that nearly.
If you earn, I think you should want to give your parents some money.. when I started here, it started at £150, but I could afford to give them £200 or so, so the second month, I just upped to to £200, not a bad I deal I think seeing as I get everything I need, Food, Water, Heat, Internet and my own room
IMO, you cant live somewhere for free
Agreed.
I didn't wait to be asked to start paying my dad rent, as soon as I got a job I made him an offer as to what I considered a reasonable fee for board (roughly 20% of my takehome pay).
A lot of people say things like "my parents would never dream of asking me to pay to live with them". But the point is, they shouldn't have to ask.
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this is depending on the parents opinion imo, being a parent myself(only 4 atm) I would like to think that they would not have to pay me at any time in their life, but on the other hand, once working if they are still living at home then they should learn the responsibility for having to pay bills etc.
Personally I started to pay board at the age of 18 - first job, I offered to pay them as it was only fair, If I didn't offer I owuld have not been expected to pay.
Personally I started to pay board at the age of 18 - first job, I offered to pay them as it was only fair, If I didn't offer I owuld have not been expected to pay.
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What's it got to do with being tight? It's just respectful and decent to pay them something - afterall they've put you through eductation, looked after you for at least 16 or so years, where's the harm in showing some commitment and adulthood? It's the more of the symbol/act of doing it that counts rather than being a scrubber living off you parents. If you pay for your own food, do your own washing, pay your share of the bills then that's fine - at least it's something. If you don't then frankly you're a spoilt brat. Some people really need to live in the real world and grow up.
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My parents have never asked me or any of my older brothers to pay rent, I wouldn't mind if they did.
They are moving away soon though so i'll have to start paying bill and paying for food etc anyways.
They are moving away soon though so i'll have to start paying bill and paying for food etc anyways.
seconded
when I told my parents, after being quiet shocked myself, that people in UK (arguably, information coming mostly from this forum), paid rent to their parents to stay at home, they were shocked as well and couldn't really understand it.
Some people are making the point of helping out with bills etc. at the house cause thats needed, that is perfectly understandable. It's a different thing if the family needs it. But if that was the case, I would help out regardless if I was staying there or not. Even then though, it's not a case of paying rent or anything, just a question of contributing something to the general household. Not a specific amount that "you have to pay so much to live here" or anything. But if it's not needed, I really don't understand the concept of paying to stay with your family personally.
Friend of mine borrowed a lot of money from her parents to come on a holiday, and is now working during summer/winter to pay it back. Told my parents and they found it very very strange that you had to pay back your parents.
And please don't make the excuse of me being luckier than most. While exceptions do exist, I would contribute this to a culture thing, (came here only a couple of years ago. India before that) since I don't know anyone back home who would even think of charging their kids rent. Expect them to help out if its needed, sure, but only if its needed.
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Well, errr, yea actually it is. Ok, getting a job you love or really want to do might be hard but when in a hole it's an idea to just take when you can get - over the last 2 months all the major retailers have been on a huge recruitment drive for Christmas. If you wanted a job, you could have got one.
Once you've got your foot in the door somewhere, even if its crappy, it can be easier to get interviews and stuff for the jobs you really want.
Getting a first step on the ladder in your ideal career is not easy. Getting a job so you can pay the bills is, however, not.
I guess it depends entirely on how much self respect you have...
There seem to be a lot of people these days sat at home, living off their parents, got a good wage, driving fancy cars around - as opposed to getting a place to live for themselves and fighting life the hard way.
Ah well...
There seem to be a lot of people these days sat at home, living off their parents, got a good wage, driving fancy cars around - as opposed to getting a place to live for themselves and fighting life the hard way.
Ah well...
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Sometimes it can be reasonably hard to get a job in retail depending how you come across. Not saying this in a bad way at all, but having a slight speech impediment such as Andy has can quite often put potential employers off. I'm currently hiring atm, and the person that I have pretty much decided to hire has quite a bad stutter, and a few of my staff have mentioned that it might not be too great an idea.....i've put them inline and i'm still going to hire him, but for example if that member of staff was in charge of hiring he wouldn't get the job. It's easier for some people to get jobs than others, and through no fault of their own quite often!
I know it's "illegal" to discriminate on disabilities, but face facts, it happens and people just don't let on that's why they weren't chosen!
Anyway, back on topic:
I live with my girflriend and her parents (quite big house, we even have 2 fllors, our own lounge and 2 bathrooms to ourselves!). I pay £160 a month to them for this, and my girlfriend currently pays nothing as she is in full time education. Once she is in full time work, she'll be paying similar to me....so £320 a month really
We share the same room etc so i'm looking at it as a combined price.Tom.
This thread is very apt considering I've just started a full-time temp job and my parents are asking for a contribution. I earn about £280 a week. 10% of that seem reasonable?
seems very reasonable
why is that necessary though? I mean sure, if you have to you have to, but if not, then surely not needed? My family has always been my parents, my grandparents, and myself. As far as I know, and for sure since I was born, my grandparents have always lived with us. While earlier it was my dad living at his parents house, now its my grandparents living with my dad.
And tis not a question just of money, also just being close to family. Surely theres something to be said for having a family around you? someone to come to etc.
why fight life the hard way if you're lucky enough that you don't need to?
When I lived with my mum I paid an amount equivalent to the cost of the mortgage (she paid all the bills), paid for the ADSL, did a lot of the shopping, did all of the cooking, did the DIY and general 'man' jobs (opening pickle jars, etc ), drove her around until she got her licence, sorted out any car trouble. She did the cleaning, washed clothes, washed dishes and listened to my problems when work was stressing me out.
Seemed fair to me - after all she had raised me for 18 years. I only feel guilty that I'm no longer around to help out as much as I did. Going to visit today.
), drove her around until she got her licence, sorted out any car trouble. She did the cleaning, washed clothes, washed dishes and listened to my problems when work was stressing me out.Seemed fair to me - after all she had raised me for 18 years. I only feel guilty that I'm no longer around to help out as much as I did. Going to visit today
.When you live on your own, your friends are real friends, they are there for you, and you are there for them. If you got your parents still holding you up, you aren't really afloat, therefore you don't really *need* anyone.
For want of a better (less geeky) example, in WoW, there are two types of servers, PVE (player versus environment) and PVP (Player versus Player). If you are on the PVE server, you never have to compete against other people, therefore you never really *need* other people because you are always in a safe environment. On the other hand, in PVP environment you could be killed by some other random player at any time, so being able to call out to your community for help is important, and vice versa, it builds community. By living at home, if you don't get along with your friends or have no friends, you always have your parents to be "buddies" with - but if you live alone, you are alone, so you actually make an effort to go out and meet people (supposedly, though I manage to be a geek and still live alone).
Its a step into a much, much bigger world. If you want to go all the way, go to a foreign country on your own and survive, believe me, nothing will toughen you up more than that. Even the armed forces always has a "brotherly" component... in the big wide world, you are on your own, so you might as well get used to it.
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Im still living at home with my parents at 24 and they've just decided they want me to pay some 'rent', fine by me, i should have my own house next year anyway.