Would you want a girl you'd been seeing for 3 months to stay...

I spent last christmas alone.

It wasn't the height of fun. I did have the offer of staying with a friend though, which I declined as I had to look after my dog.

Let her stay.
 
Are you seriously thinking of leaving her alone on xmas day? come on.
Just bring her along, pick another day to have time to yourself.
 
Nitefly said:
That sounds miserable, hope your not alone this year!
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Indeed, it must be horrible to be on your own during Christmas. :(

As "andy" has said, weather she is just someone you know, friend or girlfriend, defiantly do not let her spend Christmas all by her self, that is not the right thing to do in my opinion. :(
 
Hard to say.

In your situation (you don't love her), probably not. 3 months isn't all that long and when I was single I don't think I would have invited a foreign gf that my dad hadn't met before round to stay for xmas. I'd want a couple of meetings beforehand for them to get to know each other.

For people in a different situation (in love, or really desperate) then maybe it would be more important to keep the girl sweet.
 
Let her come and see how things go, if you have been with her for 3 months then obviously you must have some feelings for her. Its not like she is just a one night stand that you dont want the family to meet.
 
Hmm well now I don't know what to do:

On the one hand, I know that once I leave Madrid, this situation with her is going to end- I can't and don't want to carry on any kind of long distance relationship when my work in Madrid is done. By inviting her, I think it would kind of set a bad precedent for the way forward. Additionally, I don't know what my family will make of me brining some foreign girl to my mum's house over Xmas. They'll pretend not to mind, but I don't know...

On the other hand, I know its bad to leave her alone over xmas.
 
Hyper said:
Let her come and see how things go, if you have been with her for 3 months then obviously you must have some feelings for her. Its not like she is just a one night stand that you dont want the family to meet.
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This is something else...

I don;'t know if I am only with her because I don't know many people in Madrid and she basically liked me, and we share some common interests (i.e. she not actually being Spanish either is keen to travel with me at weekend etc etc) or if there is something more. Like I said I don't and doubt very much I could ever love her.
 
You tell me.

She's reasonably pretty I guess...

Argh I'm really stuck now I might just tell her she can come tomorrow. I'll sleep on it anyway.
 
She's a keeper although if you dont feel there is a relationship to be saved then dont bother taking her but tell her straight.

On the other hand does she have a Brazilian :p
 
Nitefly said:
That sounds miserable, hope your not alone this year!
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Nope, everyone is here this year :p

Last year my sister had gone to France skiing and my parents went to Spain for a couple of weeks.

I could have gone to London to stay with my friend but I had to look after the dog, which was the reason for me being at home on my own in the first place.

I didn't let it bother me though really, just got hammered in the morning and stayed drunk. Seemed to work :D
 
Well I have been seeing my current GF for around the same length of time and wouldn’t have any problem with her spending Xmas with my family. Although things are going really well and I can see us going out for a pretty long time.

You say that it will probably end when you leave Madrid so perhaps this is just a sign that you aren’t really interested in her anyway.
 
either

tell her she can come, and everyone knows she is your GF, and it becomes a more serious thing

or

tell her she cant come, and thats basically the end of your 'relationship'

you decide
 
tbh if you dont even love her then whats the point of the whole thing?!

it's out of order on the girl if you ask me. (the relationship that is)

does she have mates in spain she could stay with?
 
You missed one out A2Z. :D

Tell her that it will be best if we were to stay just friends but you are more than welcome to stay with me and my family over Christmas. :)
 
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