Dating sites

Solari said:
Do people still think these sites are a bit of a strange way to meet people? I think it's probably an effective way - better than drunkenly ranting at some poor victim in the pub I suppose.

I think there's probably still a stigma to the whole internet dating thing as far as non-net savvy people are concerned. For those who have done it... what do you say to family and friends when they ask where you met.... do you fabricate some story or are you honest? :)
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I've always been honest about where we met.
I think there used to be a stigma about using dating sites but this is long gone.

If nothing else it's going to give my best man some joke ammo :D
 
Do you tell everyone that you met on the net or on a dating site? I have some friends who have met this way but they've made a mutual story that they use for "how" they met.

I think it's great to have these sites as it gives people with less confidence, and maybe less self esteem the chance to be more picky than meeting a few people from time to time. Or just for people who maybe don't have the time to socialise much because of their jobs, or have moved into a new area and haven't yet developed a big social circle. You can take things in your own time and learn about the person before you meet. There is still a stigma attached to this sort of thing, which is understandable but I think it could be fun. I know a few people who have signed up just for a bit of fun and have had a LOT of fun ;)
 
Oooo, free. Will have a look there too. Might be a bit odd though, do the blokes pay then PaulStat?

I personally don't care about whatever stigma, I've always been the internetty geeky type and no one who knows me expects any different ;) I'm quite sure the 6th form year book from back in 2002 has my name under "Most likely to find husband on the Internet". But then it was one of my best friends compiling the list, and I was indeed going out with a guy I had met online at the time, so it was a fair cop, guv...

The only situation which was a little odd was meeting an ex-dalliance (we met on okcupid, had some 'fun' which has since ceased, and have remained great mates) on the off-chance in a local greasy spoon (him and his mate, and me and my mate were there to fend off terrible hangovers). His mate asked how we met... He replied with something about us bumping into each other, going for a couple of dinners, and friends ever since. I had a giggle about that later on :D
 
I'd just tell the truth, who cares what other people think, my friends are geeks anyway so they wouldn't bat an eyelid.
 
I don't just mean on the internet I mean dating sites, and agencies in general. I'd feel very awkward... but maybe that's because I've been lucky enough to meet people without help. :) However I did go speed dating once to accompany a friend, I must say that was REALLY fun. :)

Not many of my friends would really understand the whole internet dating/forum thing anyway, bar my real life friends that I have on here and other forums. Maybe it's an age thing? At school the internet didn't really exist, so it's less "normal" for me I guess. Though it's not to say it's a bad thing. :)
 
I dunno, if I was a shy person, and didn't get out much, then I'd be pretty embarrassed about online dating.

But I'm not shy (well, until I realise I fancy someone, but that's a whole other story), I'm out most days of the week, and meet (new) people fairly often - all I see this as, is a widening of the net, as said.

It's like how most of us research new toys or other purchases online first - we don't want to get caught out with a poor deal purely by being unaware of better ones, right? I'm gathering information on the sort of guy I'm after, and it feels good to get the chance to be a little picky!

That said, if someone I'd consider "not my type" charmed the socks off me, then most of that information would be out the window before you can even begin to wonder what else he could charm off me...
 
Oh absolutely I can see the advantage, you can cut to the chase and find out if the person is your cup of tea and get a decent idea of the person before you even go on a date. It's the most exciting part after all! It's like a vetting process, it's great the people feel confident in using it - it's just something I'd never consider. :)

Good luck! And have fun, but be careful :)
 
Hrrrmmm I could get my two best girly mates to fill in mysinglefriend for me... Ooo, that might be amusing :D

And cheers Freefaller!

Yeah you're lucky to just meet someone - I have become mildly obsessed my male friends and friends-of-friends in the past and once the infatuation wears off I nearly always wonder what I saw in them... That was one of the reasons for me to join such a site, I kept seeing my male friends as potentials and nearly frightened one or two off who didn't see me that way!

To be honest, two potential lads at the moment (i.e. we've had drinks together and both keen to do so again, but waiting for the next opportunity around holidays and moving and such disturbances) are people I've met in the normal way, through friends and activities - BUT it's the dating site and meeting people from that which has massively boosted my confidence. Knowing there are all these people a few mouse clicks away makes me less hung up on trying to make it work with every nice single male I meet, so I can be my laid-back self instead of a slightly desperate hormonal man-hunter!
 
Hate said:
What happened to the bloke you had "the crazy" over?
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The Crazy!

That bloke has disappeared off the face of the Earth! He'd not logged on to OkCupid since early November the last time I checked his profile last month, no messages, no nothing. The last time I tried to call (a week or so after the non-date), the phone was off.

So I blew raspberries in his general direction and carried on - we clicked on the phone but I do that with lots of people so meh :)
 
I guess you get to pick through dozens of people! Lots of fun, and you can be as naughty or as nice as your mood compels you to be ;) Not that I'd ever think a lady would think such things! :p
 
When asked me and the wife say we "Initially met online" - which we did.
I don't know why that sounds better than "Via a dating site" but it's what we have always told people.

It was all very fast moving with regards us.
I joined the site, my other half had been a member for about a month.
On only my second day on the site I dropped her a line.
We exchanged messages for about a fortnight and then she said about meeting up.
We did so in a public place and spent the day together.
The following weekend I was invited to her place.

15 months ago we got married :)
 
Haha!!

I wouldn't say dozens. Being a tomboy with short hair is a surprisingly good filter for shallow and time-wasting men. But there is enough interest that I don't feel like I'll forever be lonely :)

And yes if I choose to be "badly" behaved, I can be, but having done that once (...or maybe twice...), I've come to realise it's empty and not worth adding another notch on my bed-post for! Quite happy with my fairly low figure :D

Ideally I'd love to find a man who can dance with me (or who is willing to learn), but that's asking rather a lot methinks...! We'll see...

More sites people!
 
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