I think she is cheating……

Status
Not open for further replies.
The answer is in your post title :)

You think she is cheating. It's when you know she is cheating you have a definite problem to sort out. This is when you collect all the evidence possible to present your case, so she can't wriggle out of it or claim you are being the parranoid, jelleous boyfriend etc.

Then it's up to both of you how you move forward. Try and be mature and adult about it. Everyone makes mistakes and although you may not want to see her ever again, try not to burn your bridges completely.

Good luck mate. A situation like this is never easy :(
 
It's amazing what the mind can do, it will make you believe anything you want and see things that arnt there.

Just ignore it until you have solid proof.
 
I think being a man it is natural to get jelous about your GF seeing other guys. Especially when things start going outside of your comfort zone or your usual patterns. (I.E - Working late, etc)

Funny how the smallest thing can set our minds racing and we start thinking the worst and your gut starts to churn with all the possible scenarios you put yourself in.

I am deffinatley +1 to wait for concrete evidence or until your thought process takes a more realistic turn. Everything you have so far is circumstancial and could be viewed in any light....its not like you walked in home early to find her getting ploughed on your bed by some other bloke.

Try and keep a cool head and monitor the situation mate, best advice I can give you. If this girl is so important to you; don't go wasting what you have with her becuase of your own paranoid dellusions.

Good luck and keep us all posted!
 
Once you get proof, be calm, decide if you want her back or not. If not then plan your escape or her butt out the door. closing joint accounts, securing your financial positions and then the day you confront her about it, you know she is the one that is going to be shafted, not you.
 
Magic_x_uk said:
Okay, will see how things go...
Thanks :)
Click to expand...


This isnt what you want to hear, but I used to be a serial adulterer, my wife of the time (and indeed the husbands and boyfriends of the women concerned) never pinned anything on me or the women involved, most of them didnt have a clue what was going behind their back.

Deleting incriminating texts is almost cheating 101, with two of the girls i knocked around with we would even have text discussions about what we were going to do and when while our others halves we in the room.

The only time my ex wife really knew what was going on was when i left her and told her about the woman i had been screwing at the time.
 
i dont want to come across as rude.. but my honest opinion - ** mind seems to be set on this and as much as ud like to "forget about it" and "wait for concrete proof" as everyone is saying, i think your paranoia is going to get the better of you. You've got yourself into a mess for checking up on her and the way u talk, i dont think you're going to be completely happy until its resolved..

likewise i agree with everyone, not to do nefin, but its so easy to say.

good luck
 
rick827 said:
Im just waiting for the "My boyfriend is spying on me, I feel claustrophobic - what should I do?" thread :D :D
Click to expand...

That would mean a girl would be internet-savvy and be posting on these forums, which aint gonna happen.

If she did, my advice would be completely different and my message would be along the lines of 'email in trust'.
 
You have no proof atm from the sounds of it. Keep snooping if you must, though it doesn't sound like you trust her much at all. Don't confront her over it because you have no evidence and you could just be paranoid.
 
Sorry to sound negative, but your relationship obviously isn't as perfect as you think it is, if: a) you can't talk to her about this b) you're spying on her.

I personally wouldn't listen to the advice of not confronting her and "seeing how it pans out", these are the same kind of people that think it's wrong to look on each other's phones.


I've been friends with many couples who even go as far as putting a code to unlock their phones, so their partner can't read text messages as it's "so against the relationship rules" - and guess what, they're not angels.

At the end of the day, why should you hide conversations you have with other people, if it's not going to cause any damage?

Of course, people have to have lives outside of their relationships, but you should be able to communicate with your partner about trust, and be as open as you possibly can, because this will only strengthen your relationship.


If you don't confront her about it, you'll be worrying for nothing, or being played like a complete and utter fool. When I say "confront", I don't mean be sitting there in the dark when she comes home with a cigarette in your mouth, and go insane... I mean just do it in an open and honest way, put it out there and tell her how you feel, and how you just want to know how she's feeling etc.

At the end of the day, you know her best, you know her personality, you know how she will react to confrontation, you know when she's lying.


All in my opinion, of course. ;)
 
How well do you actually know this girl? I've been in a similar position myself, and it does hurt. You follow your instinct and 99% of the time you are right. It does sound a bit odd that she would delete some texts but not all, unless she was worried you would find them?

A relationship is built on trust, and unless you trust that person 100% it will fail.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top Bottom