I think she is cheating……

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Magic_x_uk said:
and that is no way for a relationship to work. Trust (to me) is everything.

yes yes I know I went through her phone, I know I am not perfect. I have also seen her message logs from MSN Live Messenger to her friends, mentioning "YEAH he just text me :) " etc (thats HIM by the way) and them saying "cool", "great" "what you going to do etc"
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To be honest if i was in your situation i might have done the same, just to find out what the hell was up (after talking to her of course). I've even gone as far as hacking into an MSN account (i was 16 forgive me :() and found out by pretending to be her that she was screwing/planning to screw about 5 other blokes behind my back. Wouldnt do it again tho.

Benjarghmin said:
Reason to be suspicious or not I would (hopefully) never justify breaching my other half's trust by checking her phone calls, texts, MSN logs etc. :)
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I wouldn't either but this has obvious been troubling and i think he's just wanted answers without talking to her about it. I think he just wants to put his mind to rest.
 
Magic_x_uk said:
I have also seen her message logs from MSN Live Messenger to her friends, mentioning "YEAH he just text me :) " etc (thats HIM by the way) and them saying "cool", "great" "what you going to do etc"
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wtf I didn't notice that before... that is absolute and utter concrete evidence I mean goodness grief... "what are you going to do?". How long ago did you see this?
 
It would be interesting to see how many relationships have went bad from mobile phones. The impact they must have had on people is insane.

No wonder marriages lasted longer years ago. Because the technology wasnt there for people to sneakily contact others
 
Hedge said:
It would be interesting to see how many relationships have went bad from mobile phones. The impact they must have had on people is insane.

No wonder marriages lasted longer years ago. Because the technology wasnt there for people to sneakily contact others
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This. and i think there was more moral fibre, people actually worked things out and spoke about things rather than just running off and being unfaithful, as the years go on i notice more and more relationships break down because of unfaithfulness.
 
I feel sorry for you Magic right now, but just know that tomorrow you'll be a single, free man devoid of any lingering doubt, or paranoia, or fears. To be able to find somebody who really does love you and appreciate you for what you are. Not this hideous excuse of a human being who's done things like text another bloke, converse to friends about him without any doubt or remorse, or leech 300 off you just to look nice for him. Honestly you deserve far better than that.
 
thats true he may be single, but that doesn't stop the hurt - the doubts, and all the stress. Thinking could he have done something differently. I don't envy what you will go through, but I wish you good luck. Take it on the chin, and move on.
 
Some laughable comments in this thread from people have obviously no idea what it is like to love someone and want to do the best for them, regardless of the circumstances.

It's not easy to turn around and make a decisive action like some are suggesting after being with someone for so long. It isn't easy cutting ties and walking away from someone especially when there is no physical evidence, only suspicion.

Horrible situation to be in though, must be very difficult suspecting her without her actually having the balls to admit it.
 
Dude, from what you said earlier. Don't sit on it tonight, for gods sake!

Confront it tonight, there may not be a "great" time to do it but you have had your thinking time, you have had your suspicions, you have the right questions - get on it!

This way you have tomorrow to REALLY start thinking about what to do. You can bag up her clothes, get rid of her stuff, etc, etc.

Finally, don't do anything stupid until you've had it out. From what you said things seem evident, but we have only seen your POV. It could be innocent.

Confrontation will bring you to the resolution, whatever it may be. Just stay calm and keep a cool head.
 
Even my travel insurance doesn’t cover "break up's" lol Damn that £700 (just for flights as apartment is free) that’s money if we don’t go, wasted that I paid for.

To the people saying I don’t have concrete evidence. You are right in some respects. But come on, receiving calls and texts from someone you never speak about.

Would be concrete evidence if I saw her T-Mobile bill next month though wouldn’t it!?
 
Magic_x_uk said:
Even my travel insurance doesn’t cover "break up's" lol Damn that £700 (just for flights as apartment is free) that’s money if we don’t go, wasted that I paid for.

To the people saying I don’t have concrete evidence. You are right in some respects. But come on, receiving calls and texts from someone you never speak about.

Would be concrete evidence if I saw her T-Mobile bill next month though wouldn’t it!?
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You've snooped enough already. Ask her the questions you need to ask, listen to her, decide.
 
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