The one that got away
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No worries, we fell out rather anyway.PleasureJust sharing the love
Burnsy
Possibly the weirdest moment of my life was with her. She went to university in London, and I visited her one weekend. On the night before I was going back home, we stayed up late. We were watching Shakespeare in Love (the things we do for it!), and she put a pillow on my crossed legs and laid across me to watch, "more comfortably", as she put it. Then she started stroking my leg. Then I got an erection. And she said - I'm only stating it because it still makes me laugh to this day - "is that what I think it is in my ear?".
Anyway, it was a good evening, and we haven't met each other since actually. Just spoken occasionally. Due to reasons I won't go into here, we're no longer friends. Ah well.
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But you said you aren't bothered, this thread is about girls (or guys) who it does bother you that it didn't work out, even if it is just a minor "what if" sort of feeling.
//edit nice platypus, I'm rather surprised she didn't expect that reaction though.
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Got one of those.
Known her since I was about 17, we got together for a very short time, but then she went off with other men who she thought she liked. We always remained very close (and still are) and she recently told me that she has always liked me and if things would have worked out different blah blah blah.
Well, shes stunning with a fantastic body, but thats life.
Good friends is how it is and we are both more than happy with that. I'm glad she felt she could tell me without it risking our friendship :]
Known her since I was about 17, we got together for a very short time, but then she went off with other men who she thought she liked. We always remained very close (and still are) and she recently told me that she has always liked me and if things would have worked out different blah blah blah.
Well, shes stunning with a fantastic body, but thats life.
Good friends is how it is and we are both more than happy with that. I'm glad she felt she could tell me without it risking our friendship :]
We all have these people that we wished we had done things differently with (had my fair share)
But I try not to live with out any regrets these days and if I like someone I ask them out. You never what will happen and even if they say no, its better than having that "I should have made my move" regret.
But I try not to live with out any regrets these days and if I like someone I ask them out. You never what will happen and even if they say no, its better than having that "I should have made my move" regret.
I need to think like that a bit more.....But it takes me a while to know if I 'like like' someone...And by that time we're probably friends or something!
Of course she did, I just think she was trying to be saucy
.Yeah the friends territory is a hard one to move from as it might affect your long-time relationship if you make a move and she doesn't feel the same way.
Theres a lass I really like and im pretty sure she feel the same way. I have known for years. Shes lovely in everyway, funny, smart, kind etc. Sadly the fact that shes got Uni starting up again and im down here in London (till sept 2009) means we cant be together or even try to get anything to happen. Its too selfish on eithers part. Id hate to hold her down or be some sort of burden holding her back so I just have to suck it up and get on with life.
She keeps saying once weve finished Uni and stuff we should travel around, but im not holding my breath. Thats a long way away, shes amazing and theres a lot of guys in the world. Have to just wait and see...
She keeps saying once weve finished Uni and stuff we should travel around, but im not holding my breath. Thats a long way away, shes amazing and theres a lot of guys in the world. Have to just wait and see...
There was a girl I got to know very well and we ended up doing a D of E gold expedition together in a random center up in the peak district, decided to go together so we at least knew someone else in the group. During an evening when the weather was awful and we were huddled in a tent she sat behind me and cuddled up and said "doesn't it feel like we should be more than friends?".
My response was "no we are are just very close friends that is all." Even if I was only 16 I deserve all the mocking in the world for saying that, I kicked myself for months afterwards (I still do sometimes) as it was such an obvious hint. We clicked so well and remain great friends even now (though we don't see each other very often nowadays) but that was a real opportunity missed.
My response was "no we are are just very close friends that is all." Even if I was only 16 I deserve all the mocking in the world for saying that, I kicked myself for months afterwards (I still do sometimes) as it was such an obvious hint. We clicked so well and remain great friends even now (though we don't see each other very often nowadays) but that was a real opportunity missed.
I'm a very shy guy and don't have a lot of self confidence so I've had many times where I've been in the "The one that got away" situation.
At the moment I'm pursuing this woman that works in town. She gave me a nice smile but I can't tell if it's just being friendly or she's checking me out...
At the moment I'm pursuing this woman that works in town. She gave me a nice smile but I can't tell if it's just being friendly or she's checking me out...
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She's uneasy, she thinks you are stalking her.
In seriousness, I know what it's like to be like that and to be honest you just have to work out how to overcome it really...much easier said than done though I know.
I used to be like that, but realised it does me no favours and so have come out of my shell loads over the past 5 or so years. I'm sure some people view it as for the better, and others for the worse...but it certainly helps when I meet new women I'm interested in as I can easily talk to them.
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she secretly loves you and wants you to touch her the next time you see her
Rookie tbh. Someone from the Oxford Concise really needs to update the definition of "schoolboy error" with this post and a picture of you next to it. In fact, she might as well have said "I could really do with you smashing my pasty in right now", oppertunity missed....
And to stay on track, almost let the one get away but instead I saw sense and dumped my GF (of 2 years) at the time for her. Been together 5 years now and I am glad that I did what I had to do, to be with her.
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I think everyone has this, its part of life. The things that make us different are some of us do something about it others dont.
If its meant to be it will be if not then you just got to try and shrug it off. If you can keep in touch with said person its got to be better than totally loosing contact with them altogether?
If its meant to be it will be if not then you just got to try and shrug it off. If you can keep in touch with said person its got to be better than totally loosing contact with them altogether?