Girlfriend "cheats" on me in our engagement party

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GOT RID OF THE OFFENDING WORD!!!!!! ****

My girlfriend and I have been very happy together and everything has been brilliant. Shes always there for me and I always have the feeling she would do anything for me even if it puts her out. She always says she loves me.

Anyway we get engaged and a month later we had our offical engagement party. The party goes better than expected (house party then out for a late meal). At the end only a few of us go to a club.

By that stage I notice shes actually quite drunk. Suddenly she tells me to go away and darnce or something and I say no its ok... so she turns her chair away from me and chats to the girls. Then she turns to me and says " Im going to have a dance... Im going to find a man and feel his ****! How does that make you feel?" I show no reaction so she says " aint you jellous... Im going give him a s***fy".

She gets up and says Im off to get a dance... a man asks her at once - and shes dancing right up close to him grinding and flirting! She was dancing with him for about 30 mins... he kissed her on lips ( dont think she really twigged that he did to be fair to her) then he went in for a snog and she then pulled away and went to dance with 2 other guys.

After the dance she told me why are you not jellous?".

We get home and shes pucking up all over the place... Im very quiet. Next morning she comes to me and says last night was fantastic and I start talking about what happed in club... she cant remember a thing! Then thru out the day she starts remembering stuff and shes horrified... crying all over the place saying shes been the happiest shes ever been in her life being engaged to me and she has no ideal why she did what she did and blames being drunk.

Basicly I kinda broke up with her.... shes in worst state ever she even phones her mum up and tells her what she did and asking her why did she do it as she has no ideal why as shes so in love with her boyfriend. She also dose not understand why she was testing me because Im totally not a jellous guy unlike her other boyfriends. She tells me before knowing me drink got her into a lot of trouble and I know she hard drinks round me for the 2 years we been together. She took all the wine in our house and poured it down the sink saying shes never going to touch a drop again.

My head is all over the place - I never expected her to do this - its totally our of charactor. But saying that I cant excuse what she did.... Ive told her theres two issues here one the drink... which shes sorting out and the other is why she did what she did while heaverly drunk - there must be an underlying reason and if she cant tell me or find out what it is so we can talk it thru then its totally all over.
 
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Forget about it and move on.

One off when she was plastered and didn't actually do anything serious.

Oh and get a spellcheck. ;) before the grammar nazis read this.
 
Wow! :eek: Is all I can say.

I really can't think of any advice for you, at the end of the day it's how will it play on your mind?

If she can't come out with a reason for it, you'll have that situation stuck in the back of your head for a long time to come.
 
Alcohol brings out peoples true personality I find.

I would tell her to get lost personally.

Who's to say she has not done this/gone further before while drunk if she cannot remember.

Not worth the stress IMO but its your choice man.
 
the whole "aren't you jealous" thing

It was a test.
She wanted you to stand up for her, get mad etc.
Alcohol obviously brought it out in the open, maybe went a bit to far.

Don't be a ****. Get her back.
 
Possibly some deep sub-conscious ***** up psycho woman stuff going on in her head, maybe thinking about how she's about to commit for life (apparently) etc.

Then again, thousands of people do it every day without mucking it up..
 
Give her a 2nd chance but make it known (as you have already) that it's not acceptable behavior.

You'd be a prat to throw a good girl away over whats happened in my opinion.
 
Spot on there.

Alcohol, does make you do stupid things... but only things that you have thought about already.

The alcohol never plants the idea/thought... it only makes it easier to carry it out. Talk it through and find out what the underlying issue is. Hope it works out for you.
 
Vegetarian said:
For the last two years - the most she ever will drink on average is 2 glasses of wine... I dont drink.
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What you need to bear in mind is alcohol releases the inhibitions.

So, she acted that way because the rules no longer applied as she was free to act how she wanted to act.

Not good, not good at all.
 
trescodrucey said:
the whole "aren't you jealous" thing

It was a test.
She wanted you to stand up for her, get mad etc.
Alcohol obviously brought it out in the open, maybe went a bit to far.

Don't be a tw**. Get her back.
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Screw that, in this day and age a woman can earn her respect. I'm all for defending my girlfriends honour etc, but the day she'd do something like this to 'test' me she'll be out on her ear.
 
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