Firstly she's much wealthier than i am, like mega loaded. Her dad drives a vintage Porsche (one of many cars), he's bought her a flat in St John's Wood (london very posh, very expensive), her two sisters have been given sports cars etc, went to ridiculously expensive schools etc etc.
Now my parents aren't poor, they're doing ok and are planning for their retirement.
I'm not poor, I've got a good job, I own my own house in London and pay the mortgage (and all bills of course) myself.
Both me and this girl are in the same line of work, and are on a very similar salarly. However, there is currently no guarantee of jobs in a few months time.
I'm obviously getting stressed by the thought of not having a job in a few months. I don't want to be repossessed, if i lose my job my parents can only help me for about 2-3 mortgage payments and I wouldn't want to ask for a handout as I'd be massively denting their financial plans.
If I was to lose my job, I'd have to move out of home try and rent my flat ASAP and get whatever menial job possible to make any payments on the house.
She has boasted that she's found out she can rent her flat out for £2,500. That this will pay the mortgage and other bills and give her money to go travelling should we not have jobs.
Note her "mortgage" is her dad considering after buying the house outright a year ago, he may want to get some money back for the half a million he shelled out. He's only asking for this "mortgage payment" as if we get kept on our salary nearly doubles so he sees it as more affordable for her to start paying about £1k a month. Fair enough.
Do you think if his daughter didn't have a job she'd be forced to move out as she couldn't pay the money back to her dad who has never asked for any payment? Ermmm, no I don't think so.
She doesn't understand the levels of stress I am udner that if i don't get a job I'm screwed. That i don't have a pit of money to fall back on. That I worked my behind off securing a mortgage, getting a government loan to get my place, spent about 4months searching for a house as I couldn't afford what I wanted and then when i found a place spent a hell of a lot of time negotiating to buy it. As well as dealing with lawyers etc.
She just said, oh St John's Wood is nice i want to live there, had her place bought for her, and she moved in. Money was not an object, she never had any stress she never even dealt with the lawyers.
It is really annoying, and to be honest something i would consider breaking up over as she cannot see my life from my perspective. And if a relationship is to go anywhere I think you should have some understanding of the feelings/predicament/situation of the other person. Not boast about how you can go galavanting round the world on the back of what daddy bought you.
Am i overreacting?
Oh and if you think she pays for everything - WRONG. I'm not that sort of guy, i pay for most things. That doesn't bother me, i think that's usual for a boyfriend.
I'm about to go out for dinner with her mates in a restaurant, i shall try to stay off money topics!
Now my parents aren't poor, they're doing ok and are planning for their retirement.
I'm not poor, I've got a good job, I own my own house in London and pay the mortgage (and all bills of course) myself.
Both me and this girl are in the same line of work, and are on a very similar salarly. However, there is currently no guarantee of jobs in a few months time.
I'm obviously getting stressed by the thought of not having a job in a few months. I don't want to be repossessed, if i lose my job my parents can only help me for about 2-3 mortgage payments and I wouldn't want to ask for a handout as I'd be massively denting their financial plans.
If I was to lose my job, I'd have to move out of home try and rent my flat ASAP and get whatever menial job possible to make any payments on the house.
She has boasted that she's found out she can rent her flat out for £2,500. That this will pay the mortgage and other bills and give her money to go travelling should we not have jobs.
Note her "mortgage" is her dad considering after buying the house outright a year ago, he may want to get some money back for the half a million he shelled out. He's only asking for this "mortgage payment" as if we get kept on our salary nearly doubles so he sees it as more affordable for her to start paying about £1k a month. Fair enough.
Do you think if his daughter didn't have a job she'd be forced to move out as she couldn't pay the money back to her dad who has never asked for any payment? Ermmm, no I don't think so.
She doesn't understand the levels of stress I am udner that if i don't get a job I'm screwed. That i don't have a pit of money to fall back on. That I worked my behind off securing a mortgage, getting a government loan to get my place, spent about 4months searching for a house as I couldn't afford what I wanted and then when i found a place spent a hell of a lot of time negotiating to buy it. As well as dealing with lawyers etc.
She just said, oh St John's Wood is nice i want to live there, had her place bought for her, and she moved in. Money was not an object, she never had any stress she never even dealt with the lawyers.
It is really annoying, and to be honest something i would consider breaking up over as she cannot see my life from my perspective. And if a relationship is to go anywhere I think you should have some understanding of the feelings/predicament/situation of the other person. Not boast about how you can go galavanting round the world on the back of what daddy bought you.
Am i overreacting?
Oh and if you think she pays for everything - WRONG. I'm not that sort of guy, i pay for most things. That doesn't bother me, i think that's usual for a boyfriend.
I'm about to go out for dinner with her mates in a restaurant, i shall try to stay off money topics!
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either way good luck