When you take a girl out....

Virdi · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:06

When you take a girl out to dinner..... (on your first few dates etc...)

....is it wrong if you go somewhere really nice or upmarket? - As you obviously are trying to impress...

However, it's not really 'you' though... Cos that is not where you would normally go right..?

What do you think?

Greenlizard0 · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:12

Almost all first dates/impressions are false...

[TW]Fox · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:12

I went to pizza hut on my first date with my GF. I also used a buy one get one free voucher.

a1ex2001 · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:13

Be yourself from the start, she'll only find out later.

[TW]Fox;13718259 said:
I went to pizza hut on my first date with my GF. I also used a buy one get one free voucher.

smooth

Dsteviedee · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:13

If it gets serious it could be one expensive relationship!!

But seriously nothing wrong with trying to impress, just gradually do different things

that are more "you".

branddaly · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:14

a1ex2001 said:
Be yourself from the start, she'll only find out later.

It does matter if you are false or you are yourself. She'll still decide that she can change you for the better.

frosty03 · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:15

Greenlizard0 said:
Almost all first dates/impressions are false...

Therein lies the problem. You start out on a false pretense at the start. If you are a BOGOF kind of chap, then you should do so. Who knows, she may actually like that kind of prudence as well. OTOH, if you then spend your monthly saving to go to some posh place, but she is a BOGOF kind of person, she may not like you spending so much.

Do what you are, not what you think you should be.

Virdi · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:20

[TW]Fox;13718259 said:
I went to pizza hut on my first date with my GF. I also used a buy one get one free voucher.

LOL

Only the Fox!!!

[TW]Fox · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:21

Don't knock it, it worked perfectly!

Greenlizard0 · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:22

[TW]Fox;13718302 said:
Don't knock it, it worked perfectly!

You should have asked for a threesome

antijoke · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:23

Greenlizard0 said:
You should have asked for a threesome

Wouldn't have been covered with his BOGOF.

tisonlyme · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:24

I think it's fine as long as you let her know that it's not going to be a regular thing. Something like 'How about we go somewhere posh, just as a little treat?'

If a guy took me somewhere fancy on a first date, I wouldn't automatically assume it was going to be a regular occurrance. My bf took me to a harvester on our first date, and they weren't even serving food at the time as they had no gas! But I didn't assume that he was a cheap skate

shifty_uk · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:24

[TW]Fox;13718259 said:
I went to pizza hut on my first date with my GF. I also used a buy one get one free voucher.

lol

I always go upmarket, always have - even though I'm a student living on part-time wages, you'd never think it.

[TW]Fox · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:25

I don't think the choice is as important as the company. What you don't want is for the girl to want future dates with you because she thinks you are loaded and will buy her loads of stuff. Therefore if you take her somewhere nice but modest if she asks you out again its because she wants you, not your wallet.

Well that was my opinion anyway.

R.O.S.S.I · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:29

a1ex2001 said:
Be yourself from the start, she'll only find out later.

smooth

Savvy move, why pay full whack when you can pay half price!

Virdi · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:32

I guess it depends a lot on the girl as well.

As she may not like posh.

lozza23_uk · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:33

first "date" with the current GF we went out and got blatted, drank so much we forgot to go for dinner.

Thats when I knew she was the one

inph · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:34

Do whatever you're comfortable with. If you're watching the bill you'll be less comfortable

SlyReaper · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:37

We went to McDonalds. I'm not lying. It was her idea actually; I normally avoid the place like the plague.

Richdog · 20 Mar 2009 at 10:41

Virdi said:
When you take a girl out to dinner..... (on your first few dates etc...)

....is it wrong if you go somewhere really nice or upmarket? - As you obviously are trying to impress...

However, it's not really 'you' though... Cos that is not where you would normally go right..?

What do you think?

No need to go somewhere cheap OR somewhere upmarket. Go to a nice local Italian or similar that is cosy, intimate, but isn't going to cost the earth. If you call ahead to reserve and explain that it's a special date they will probably throw in a little treat or two and make a little bit more of a show than usual, it's worked with me before. Just make sure you leave a generous tip if they do go the extra mile.