To tell or not to tell?

gamerTM21

gamerTM21

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Hey guys!
Sorry about another relationship thread, but this is bothering me :/

Basically, theres this girl I know, she is probably the person I have most in common with, more than most of my male friends...
Shes into same music (DnB, RHCP etc.), she likes football, into cars, plays guitar.
She has said she thinks I'm good looking, and I dont think it would work because she is muslim (not really religious though.)
But I'm quite a religious christian, so I don't think it would work in that sense, even though she seems to check every box on my list of what I look for in a girl! (and my expectations are HIGH!)

Now my question is, do I tell her that I have feelings for her? I would still love to be very good friends with her, cause shes probably the coolest girl I know, and maybe telling her that I liked her would make things awkward?
Or would it be better to just not say, and just be friends and see what happens?
It's just playing on my mind sooo much, argh!

Sorry for the long post:p
Dave
 
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tell her. Damn 10 years from now it'll be eating you still that you never told her.

I know from personal experience.
 
Ricochet J said:
Tell. You'll never know if you don't. You're a religious Christian. Jesus is on your side. :)
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I wouldn't go out with her because when people of 2 different religions get together in a more-than-friends way, it does not work at all, so much conflicting views and beliefs.

Thats whats messing me up though, I don't know if I could find another girl whos that close to perfection!
 
gamerTM21 said:
I wouldn't go out with her because when people of 2 different religions get together in a more-than-friends way, it does not work at all, so much conflicting views and beliefs.
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that proves what ive always thought; religion sucks :D

stop all that religion BS and live your live how you want, not because of beliefs etc
 
Actually its normally the family/friends and dirty looks from passers by. Eventually it grinds everything down. Why so many eventually move away from both family.
 
[FnG]magnolia;13956354 said:
You mean "perfection" in the sense that she her faith and beliefs are completely in opposition to your own? :confused:
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I stated "close to perfection" as in, other than that, I can't think of anything else that is not an attractive feature.
 
I know a couple, one of whom is a devout catholic and the other is a devout Muslim - it works purely as they're tolerant of each others beliefs and understanding when something clashes.

It's down to the person, not the religion to make it work. Religious or not, her family could/might be, which is something you should consider, as your religion won't automatically over-ride hers purely because you consider yourself more religious.

I'm a humanist though, so I think you're all daft for bothering with religion anyway.. it's the person that counts mate. Tell her, but be VERY careful about the speed the relationship moves at.
 
I know this isn't what you want to hear but i would.t tell her. Just flirt and stay friends but not TOO close. See where things go from there, telling someone your feelings who may not be expecting it could be a disaster.
 
gamerTM21 said:
I wouldn't go out with her because when people of 2 different religions get together in a more-than-friends way, it does not work at all, so much conflicting views and beliefs.

Thats whats messing me up though, I don't know if I could find another girl whos that close to perfection!
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It does not work at all? With that kind of attitude, I am not even sure if I should be encouraging you. There are loads of mixed religion couples out there - I was in one for over 2 years, one of my closest friends is in one, I have several relatives who are married to non-Hindus.

Muslims are stricter but if you don't try, you'll end up regretting it. Just ask her out on a date as opposed to "telling her". Respect her religious habits but don't make a deal out of it.
 
You are a highly religious Christian, while she is a Muslim but not very religious.

As long as you don't force your beliefs on her, I'm sure things will go swell. Just go for it, and stop worrying about religion.
 
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