For those of you who don't drink alcohol, what does your social life consist of?

DanTheMan

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I don't drink due to having colitis and I find it extremely hard to have an active social life because of it.

I don't go out clubbing any more and very rarely go to the pub, my social life is basically work and meals out/days out with the girlfriend. I'll go down to a mates house a couple of times a month or they will come here but other than that it's usually me and the missus.

How do other tea total people get along?
 
friend of mine just goes out clubbing and drinks either energy drinks, or just pumps himself full of sugar beforehand, probably just as unhealthy as alcohol, massive sugar rush, and then the crash afterwards ;)

guessing that's not the kinda option you're after though :p
 
Before any warriors come in with the 'it really isn't that hard to go without alcohol', I can appreciate how the OP might feel. Due to a very social last week, I drank 5 nights out of 7, more out of coincidence rather than deliberate choice (if that makes any sense). Clearly, Alcohol consumption is extremely common at a wide range of social events.

But of course, you don't need to drink to have fun. There are plenty of activities you can do with your friends without alcohol - go on a day out, cinema, sports. Why don't you try taking up a sport like squash and convince your friends to play?
 
Not only is alcohol consumtion common for gatherings, being drunk is as well.

Find hobbies. I have a long list of things I've always wanted to do but just never have found the time. If those involve groups of people e.g. sky diving, then there you go - new friends!
 
I was on medication that left me unable to drink for months last year, at first I didn't really go out much, but after a while, I just sort of got back into going out pretty much like normal, only I wasn't drinking. If I was in a really good mood beforehand it'd be not much different at all, if I wasn't so up for it it was much harder to get into it.

Seriously, just try going out like you would if you were drinking, and don't drink. The atmosphere of silliness and stuff is still pretty thick in the air when you're sober and everyone else isn't. Quite refreshing to wake up just stinking of kebab, as opposed to kebab and whiskey.
 
When you don't drink you realise how much of a drug alcohol is, and the hypocrisy of it being legal where as Marijuana and amphetamines etc are illigal.

95% of the time I don't drink on a night out, if its a good night with loads of people then I don't really find I need it, if its not, well then, I have normally figured it out and either not gone in the first place or left pretty sharpish before going to any of the bigger clubs.

I have a few hobbies such as going to the gym, and have some very close friends I can socialise with without needing to drink.
 
I've quit drinking for years at a time and just kept going to the pub and drinking coke. I can imagine clubbing is harder work, but the pub is totally doable.
 
Indeed, there is MUCH pressure on people to drink, and if you don't, you can be made to feel like an outcast. I guess it's a matter of realising that going clubbing is in fact, one of the least social things you can do - and is as about as social as walking through a busy town centre.

Enjoy not drinking, find other activities, cinema, video games, trips, social clubs, something like that. You can always turn to soft drinks, drink enough and the sugar/caffeine will make you feel a little tipsy.
 
i cant drink much anymore due liver failure last year (not drink related) but i still manage to socialise with friends just as much, we usually have gaming nights or poker nights, and i can still go the pub but just have a softdrink or energy drink instead
 
DanTheMan said:
I don't drink due to having colitis and I find it extremely hard to have an active social life because of it.

I don't go out clubbing any more and very rarely go to the pub, my social life is basically work and meals out/days out with the girlfriend. I'll go down to a mates house a couple of times a month or they will come here but other than that it's usually me and the missus.

How do other tea total people get along?
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This seems to be more about you than anyone else, so i'll ask you a question..

If you could still drink, would you be out clubbing and down the pub all the time, or, would you be doing the stuff like you are now anyway?
 
I guess the main problem you have is that it sounds like your friends are all drinkers. I'm always at other peoples houses and them at mine, go out and about for meals, trips etc, but nearly all of my friends aren't the type that go out drinking all the time anyway so its easy to do this stuff.
 
To be fair, all my mates just see drinking as the only thing to do, they don't share many hobbies with me such as gaming or driving so that makes it even worse.

I think I need new friends.

Morba said:
This seems to be more about you than anyone else, so i'll ask you a question..

If you could still drink, would you be out clubbing and down the pub all the time, or, would you be doing the stuff like you are now anyway?
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I'd 100% be out more if I drank, sometimes there's nothing like just going out and getting steamboated then dancing the night away but sadly it'll never be the same without alcohol :D.
 
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Like others said, take up a sport you may enjoy? Snowboarding, Swimming, Football?


I don't drink either, when I do go out to clubs I admit it's boring as hell, but pubs and bars are okay.
 
I don't drink myself either and as well sometimes find it a little tough to find things to do. I moved to a different country for work and so don't have a huge amount of friends here, and not going out doesn't really help that. However, it doesn't bother me too much. I don't like clubbing and so don't really mind not being friends with people who think that the best times of their life are spent drunk in a noisy club. I have quite a few hobbies so some of those keep me busy and I also have a list of things that I really want to do so I hope to start joining clubs/starting new hobbies and meeting new people that way.
 
DanTheMan said:
but sadly it'll never be the same without alcohol :D.
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I think you'd be surprised, many nights I've had lots of fun without drinking any alcohol at all, you might be surprised that you don't need alcohol to have fun or maybe you do =/

The biggest pain when you're out with mates and they're drinking but you're not is them trying to ram alcohol down your throat and telling you to drink.
 
I don't drink and I don't have a social life.

Problem solved.

I'll quite happily sit in the dark in my playroom watching a film or even go to the cinema alone.
 
I dont drink but i still go to pubs occasionally.

I drink Sprite:D

Also you will find when people find out you dont drink they all seem toi want to buy you a drink :p
 
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