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Do people like this really exist! Marry your hand until your ready to pop the question. Will she do other things???
What would you do? (relationship)
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Tricky one, it really is a personal matter, only you can decide how much of 'the one' she is, and whether the issue of no penetrative sex before marriage is a deal breaker for you.
For me, if I felt strongly enough for her, then I would wait, but only you can know whether you feel that strongly, and how important the act is to you. A good relationship has compromises on both sides, but they have to be compromises that you are happy to make, rather than ones you have to accept, and I don't think any of us can really help you judge that.
For me, if I felt strongly enough for her, then I would wait, but only you can know whether you feel that strongly, and how important the act is to you. A good relationship has compromises on both sides, but they have to be compromises that you are happy to make, rather than ones you have to accept, and I don't think any of us can really help you judge that.
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if you love her, respect her and wait otherwise its ovbviously not love. in the mean time get loads of head.
plus just because she is waiting for marriage doesnt mean she will be boring in the sack after that, i'd say the oppersite as she has many years to catch up on.
dude.
plus just because she is waiting for marriage doesnt mean she will be boring in the sack after that, i'd say the oppersite as she has many years to catch up on.
dude.
Either you wait patiently and put absolutely no pressure on her at all, or you walk away. She'll not thank you if you end up sleeping together and damaging her relationship with God. Whether you believe in that or not is irrelevant - it is clearly important to her. Besides, if she is a Christian then this won't be the only issue that will cause tension, and you better be prepared for her to try to contest you if you do stick around.
well, is she hot? TTIUWP (someone had to) 
but seriously, I'm all for taking things slowly, wait a few months before having sex to make sure we're not just lusting after one another, but no sex before marriage? it's nice in concept, but in practice, it's not really viable, though you could go between engagement and wedding with no sex as a sort of build up
you seem to have confused yourself
so sex is very important to you and you need it to function normally, but personality is more important than sex? which one is it?
but seriously, I'm all for taking things slowly, wait a few months before having sex to make sure we're not just lusting after one another, but no sex before marriage? it's nice in concept, but in practice, it's not really viable, though you could go between engagement and wedding with no sex as a sort of build up
you seem to have confused yourself
physical relations? dude I have touched her ya know
I've done everything **to her** appart from sex. But personality to me is more important than all the sex in the world and she has that... I think I will just put up with the frustration but it's hard man... I mean I get cramping pains from the frustration, mood swings and all that **** and I really hate that.... I really really hate that.
so sex is very important to you and you need it to function normally, but personality is more important than sex? which one is it?
I'm sorry for being harsh, but the op needs to get a grip. Was in this situation with my first longterm gf.
If she is everything you want in a women, then wait and marry the girl. Even if the sex isn't all fireworks and brass bands after that, the fact you will be in love, will more than make up for it.
I'd agree that you would have a problem if you werent allowed any physical contact at all, but that doesnt seem to be the case here.
You get cramps and mood swings because you cant have full sex? Grow up. I'm sure none of the singles guys in here feel your pain.
If this girl is the one, she should be stimulting far more than just your nether regions.
If you simlpy value getting your oats over her religious values, jog on and let her be with someone more mature who will value the commitments she has made and abide by them.
n
If she is everything you want in a women, then wait and marry the girl. Even if the sex isn't all fireworks and brass bands after that, the fact you will be in love, will more than make up for it.
I'd agree that you would have a problem if you werent allowed any physical contact at all, but that doesnt seem to be the case here.
You get cramps and mood swings because you cant have full sex? Grow up. I'm sure none of the singles guys in here feel your pain.
If this girl is the one, she should be stimulting far more than just your nether regions.
If you simlpy value getting your oats over her religious values, jog on and let her be with someone more mature who will value the commitments she has made and abide by them.
n
Whatever you do, don't push her into sex before marriage. It's what she believes and she's obviously committed to that belief if she's still a virgin at 28. If you push her and end up sleeping together she might feel awful about it afterwards, and even worse if you then break up.
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I fail to see the issue or question at all tbh. she's the love of YOUR life. no one elses. SHOW that you want to be with her by getting married and not pestering her for sex. Regardless of what you think sex WILL now be a reason for staying with her because you've now made it an issue.
Way of the world. People get married, people have kids, people dieetc repeat until bored. It's called life.
Way of the world. People get married, people have kids, people dieetc repeat until bored. It's called life.
agreed physical relations are a big part of a relationship and shows how compassionate you or they are and is also a way of communication to your partner, its a very big thing indeed ... personally she might be saying this to see if youll stay with her for that (her values) as a test ? possibly might be worth while to hang around for a month or two but dont get to serious to observe it abit more ?
So how old are you, 30 ?
If I had found the love of my life at 30 and all I had to do is wait for 4 years then I'd be a happy camper. In terms of the rest of your life it's nothing.
She's a Christian so you're pretty much guaranteed she will take your marriage very seriously, would you get that from anyone else or would they do a runner at the first rough patch?
Stop thinking with your dick and realise just how bloody lucky you are.
If it were her posting instead of you then I'd be suggesting she find someone else (no offence intended)
oh, and what vonhelmet said
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No sex does that mean no head ; ) if so dump her end off!
I weep for the future....
Are you actually debating whether you want to stay with the "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE" based on whether you get to see what she is like in bed now or after you marry her?
I got news for you mate, everyone was a virgin at one point. Any girls that you have slept with and thought were amazing in bed, were rubbish to begin with.
If she isn't so great, and it's a high likelyhood she won't be, then feel free to teach, explore, learn together to become better at the act.
If you can't even be bothered to do this for the love of your life, frankly you're immature and you don't deserve to have found her so you should step aside and let someone else sweep her off her feet, she deserves it.
It's honestly no wonder why I hear from women all the time "Oh it's so hard to find a good man these days". That's cause all our young men seem to be obsessed with sex.
Are you actually debating whether you want to stay with the "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE" based on whether you get to see what she is like in bed now or after you marry her?
I got news for you mate, everyone was a virgin at one point. Any girls that you have slept with and thought were amazing in bed, were rubbish to begin with.
If she isn't so great, and it's a high likelyhood she won't be, then feel free to teach, explore, learn together to become better at the act.
If you can't even be bothered to do this for the love of your life, frankly you're immature and you don't deserve to have found her so you should step aside and let someone else sweep her off her feet, she deserves it.
It's honestly no wonder why I hear from women all the time "Oh it's so hard to find a good man these days". That's cause all our young men seem to be obsessed with sex.
yep. sex is important, lets not behave like it isn't. its your girlfriend thats being selfish and her narrow minded religious beliefs will only come back and bite you later on in life - get out while you can, you will find another 'love of your life'.
The 'no sex before marriage' thing is a very old and outdated view for most people. Sadly I'd be thinking what ivrytwr3 is saying and that is, is it real and she really wants to wait or is it to hold you off whilst shes going with other people.
Sex is part of marriage (though once you get married this normally drops off - so god knows what would happen if she isn't having sex before marriage). I guess she is / says she's a virgin? I'd hate to wait and wait until marriage and then you find out she isn't - talk about a kick in the teeth.
M.
P.S. With that much doubt I'd suggest thinking long and hard about if this person is 'really' right for you.
Sex is part of marriage (though once you get married this normally drops off - so god knows what would happen if she isn't having sex before marriage). I guess she is / says she's a virgin? I'd hate to wait and wait until marriage and then you find out she isn't - talk about a kick in the teeth.
M.
P.S. With that much doubt I'd suggest thinking long and hard about if this person is 'really' right for you.