What would you do? (relationship)
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Well it's that or pain. She's the one enforcing the no-fun ban for you, I'm sure she would be understanding that you would need to do the five-finger shuffle to alleviate pain and suffering. She really has no right to complain either way, it's better than you getting your jollies with some random bird each week.
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what do you mean by "the way people suggest it"? like you aren't really allowed to have a free mind? and I'm trying to go down the same road. But there needs to be some compromise.
hehe would never work. but yeah it just seems like one HUGE gamble.
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It hasn't been answered that's the problem. I have no real way of telling other than what has happened already. But I don't want to say 20 years from now I didn't give it a go. The relationship is worth it.
Thinking about the relationship yeah. It's worth it I guess I just need to get used to this wait and maybe things will develop from there. Maybe my sex drive will even out or she will decide to allow sex before marriage or what ever. But I guess thinking about what I have as a relationship to all the other relationships I have had, it's worth the cramping pains etc.
btw to someone that said having a wet dream. I had one and inadvertantly hit my girlfriend in the face. when asked why I said I had a wet dream over some girl. she then hit me back for dreaming about some other girl lol
Coming to a conclusion then
As for the gamble of post-marriage:
If she responds positively to your touching her etc - that's a good sign she'll have a good drive...! Does she get frustrated? Does she look forward to the day she can give herself to you without guilt? Does she get the tingles 'down there' and the feeling of wanting to pull you in but not letting herself? Etc...
Also, tbh the actual penetrative bit of sex isn't the whole thing, is it?
If you can be intimate, loving, and get those tingly excited/happy/contented feelings, enjoy each others bodies and the closeness, then the actual sex bit is just the cherry on top - yes it's awesome when it's awesome but it is never fantastic unless the rest is. And, assuming you have that intimacy, if for some odd reason the actual sex shows 'incompatibility' then you'll be intimate enough to find ways around that, to just play with it until you find something that works...
...good luck
If you can be intimate, loving, and get those tingly excited/happy/contented feelings, enjoy each others bodies and the closeness, then the actual sex bit is just the cherry on top - yes it's awesome when it's awesome but it is never fantastic unless the rest is. And, assuming you have that intimacy, if for some odd reason the actual sex shows 'incompatibility' then you'll be intimate enough to find ways around that, to just play with it until you find something that works...
...good luck
that's a fair point really, this gives you ample opportunity to learn about her body and what she likes, granted, you'll get frustrated and have to crank one out, but you'll learn better ways to pleasure her, which in the long run will work out even better for both of you
btw to someone that said having a wet dream. I had one and inadvertantly hit my girlfriend in the face. when asked why I said I had a wet dream over some girl. she then hit me back for dreaming about some other girl lol
What you sleep on her face??
...i mean how does ones wet dream inadvertantly hit someone in the face...genuinely confused here
You're telling us that you have found the love of your life, your perfect soul mate who also loves you back... and then ask if you should stay or go? Truly the stupidness of this forum plumbs new depths each day.
Seriously though just make her an expert at foreplay... by the time you marry her you will both be so game for it that it will be mind-blowing. Other than that, simply do a five knuckle shuffle when you feel the urge is taking over too much... even if you need to do it 3-4x a day. Sure, it's not the same as the real thing, but it works... and helps to prevent prostate cancer.
No sex probably means no foreplay.Seriously though just make her an expert at foreplay... by the time you marry her you will both be so game for it that it will be mind-blowing. Other than that, simply do a five knuckle shuffle when you feel the urge is taking over too much... even if you need to do it 3-4x a day. Sure, it's not the same as the real thing, but it works... and helps to prevent prostate cancer.
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Richdog read the whole thread.
no I was sleeping next to her. why do I need to sleep on her face to be able to hit it? that wouldn't be physically possible
What you sleep on her face??
no I was sleeping next to her. why do I need to sleep on her face to be able to hit it? that wouldn't be physically possible
I have known a couple of "good" catholic girls who would never have sex before marriage, but would have foreplay. In modern times it's pretty much the only solution that keeps a woman sane.
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Pretty much, but just to put your mind at ease:
if you clicked this link I have posted 3 times now - it's not a medical condition that can be treated with antibiotics. It's a natural process.
I never have and never will say it is her fault and to think I have/would is your own misreading. Trying to get over someone you love is easier said than done and I think in this case very unnecessary.
Have sex with her best mate
You guys on here crack me up sometimes. By far the funniest forum going. RE the OP's original question though, its a tough one as despite me not wanting to come accross as shallow. If a woman is not much good in the sack & isn't really motivated for much sex then on a serious note eventually it will become a problem... On the other hand you have to respect her religion.
Tough one dude... wouldn't wanna find myself in your position I must admit as if you really like the girl its a real emotion bender this one
