Does everyone front happiness...

I was reading about this is all to do with media overload.

We are everyday kept in touch with the world's depravities and eventually this constant bombardment affects our thoughts.

It's like Post Traumatic stress on a lighter but more constant dosage.

If you look at newspapers or RSS feeds even from BBC 95% of stories are about taxes, death, bombings, rape or murder. News at ten used to end on a light story which had the effect of lightening our mood.

How many times have you heard the word crises? Yet, we still have heat, electricty, water and food 100% of the time.

I sometimes get anxious but think I've got food I've got water I've got family house, health and a bit of money. I'm really doing alright.

Try not to read newspapers or even forums for a few days helps as well disconnect from the media bombardment.

Unless you are terminally ill things are never that bad.
 
Nitefly said:
Or just the opinion of yet another OCUK poster who has openly admitted to having depression.

There is no need for such doom and gloom in all of us.
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Who is to say it's doom and gloom? Once you realise that you can start to live a little more easily, and if anything - if you just try to make life easier for those people around you, you will have a lot more success then if you tried to change the world.
 
There is something in the attention-seeking - but I'm not saying you know it.

As established on here just now, a lot of people find themselves less than happy about life in general.

And, as someone else picked up - I think it is indeed rather pompous to think that maybe it's because you're very bright/intellectual that woe is you, all these myriad things are awash inside that huge brain of yours.

I don't mean that to sound like a personal insult, it just reminds me of this clip of a guy in a documentary about interesting things that can happen to people when something's up with their brain. He had epilepsy, and he had the side effect of 'visions', or bouts of extreme 'understanding' during/after them. It showed him after one fit, talking to the interviewer with tears streaming down his face - he was crying for the World and all its badness and cruelty and awfulness, he'd seen it all in this big moment of clarity and understanding - BUT he also had this slightly frightening, smug-but-sideways grin on his face, which almost said "I've seen all this, it's really really crap, and I've seen it because I know and understand so much more than you ever will".

So, I dunno, maybe some people have more of this 'clarity' than others - but you also have to be other-people-aware as well as self-aware, and realise that many many many people think as deep and feel as crap as you do.

It's not just you. You're not seeing all this just because you're clever. But maybe you're over-thinking because you haven't learned that we all need to make the best of what we've got access to.
 
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Bleek said:
Which sounds very simple in writing, but in reality it really isn't.
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Unfortunately that's life; learning from experiences as they come and eventually getting to a point where you can change your perception of it for the better.

Each of your posts in this thread describes exactly how I was 5+ years ago. Its a horrible and lonely time, but its just something you've gotta get through. Its OK being intellectual about things, but don't be a smartarse when trying to understand your feelings as it'll just further bury you in melancholy.
 
Sara - there's nothing pompous about opening up on a public forum and asking questions, surely?

I'm not taking offence either, I have a long enough fuse. :)
 
Not everyone puts up a false front, but those that do are usually trying to spare others from being upset by them being upset. Myself I'm a happy person who doesn't like to dwell on ****, after all **** will happen you can't change this!
 
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eggyoke said:
Unfortunately that's life; learning from experiences as they come and eventually getting to a point where you can change your perception of it for the better.

Each of your posts in this thread describes exactly how I was 5+ years ago. Its a horrible and lonely time, but its just something you've gotta get through. Its OK being intellectual about things, but don't be a smartarse when trying to understand your feelings as it'll just further bury you in melancholy.
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Can I ask how old you are and what five years on changed your outlook?
 
tbh I love melancholy, I always have (and I don't mean in an emo way). I'm at my very most creative when I'm bit low, rainy Sundays and all that :) but its about channelling that felling rather than being over run by it.

Sara, sadly not everyone is "other aware". there's a lot of people who simply don't give a ****. They usually end up amassing large amounts of cash.
 
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Not everyone puts up a false front, but those that do are usually trying to spare others from being upset by them being upset.
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Definitely, I don't like to think my friends and family are worrying about me. The last thing I want or need is sympathy, I'd just feel patronised.
 
Dan87 said:
there is when the questions you're asking obviously don't have answers.
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You make it sound like I just sit here and ponder the cosmos. :rolleyes:

There are many tiers to the conscious thought process, some items very simplistic and of which, most certainly have answers! And no I'm not trying to be cryptic, either.
 
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Definitely, I don't like to think my friends and family are worrying about me. The last thing I want or need is sympathy, I'd just feel patronised.
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is that because you don't think you are worthy of others care and sympathy or because you think of it as a display of weekness ?
 
They are adults, they can deal with it, its also what they are there for. In addition their feelings would be far more damaged by not telling them. They would want to help.
 
Bleek said:
There are many tiers to the conscious thought process, some items very simplistic and of which, most certainly have answers! And no I'm not trying to be cryptic, either.
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I spent a couple of months a few years back thinking like you.

Then I realised that I was the result of a race between 50 million sperm on a specific day in a life spanning thousands of days, that at the same time I won a raffle between a population of 6 billion to be in a first world country and be given the opportunities so many millions do not have, to live a life of relative shortness comparative to the existence of humanity and life.

Now I appreciate the moments that make this one in a billion chance at life, rather than question them. For all I know i'll only get one shot.
 
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There's nothing pompous about opening up on a public forum and asking questions, surely?

I'm not taking offence either, I have a long enough fuse. :)
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No, and I'm glad you didn't take that personally :)

I'm not sure how much you're like this, but there are folk out there who think they're the first to feel certain ways about the world, universe, and how it works - or doesn't.

It grates hugely on me when they spill out these revelations, and use that authoritative tone as if they've clearly understood something that no one else really has - because everyone else is just a drone going about their unenlightened lives - living and working and getting on without worrying about existentialism.

In answer to your actual question - I think yes, a lot of people do put up a front - but also that a lot of people put existential thoughts behind them - because it's just not worth it.


If it's any help - I'm frequently up in the middle of the night. Sometimes heart-a-thumping but that's usually only after nightmares. I read fantasy fiction to get myself to sleep, otherwise I never do fall asleep because of thoughts and worries of the coming day (like your music drowning out your thoughts).

I need to find people to drag me out of depressing little holes which I stumble into - sometimes a hug from my bloke - sometimes an evening's dancing with good friends - sometimes even yes, a forum.

EVERYONE is more sensitive than they let on. All men I have been a girlfriend of has shown me a /much/ softer and more vulnerable side. We all have one.

Oh, and we were all rather more care-free as kids..!


It's OK, you know. Everyone's a bit like this. As I say, I think you're just lacking in something that makes you tick.
 
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