kissed a mates girlfriend last night

"Meet Grady, a twenty-nine year old construction worker.
After coming home from a hard day's work,
he walks in the door of his trailer park home
to find his wife in bed with another man."
 
Over-reacting?
Have you a serious girlfriend? Can you even comprehend how gutwrenching it would be to see another guy kiss your girlfriend? The person you thought was your life, to be taken away from you in a second.

Like I said, i've done the same to people for a lot less. So not really over-reacting, no.
 
Kissing a friends bird is a ***** trick, especially when it was planned with the whole jealous line. The fact you can laugh about it now means you dont feel real remorse for it, you just dont want a smack.
 
converse_uprise said:
Over-reacting?
Have you a serious girlfriend? Can you even comprehend how gutwrenching it would be to see another guy kiss your girlfriend? The person you thought was your life, to be taken away from you in a second.

Like I said, i've done the same to people for a lot less. So not really over-reacting, no.
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It's gut-wrenching but let's step back shall we? Punching a complete stranger because he's copped off with your girlfriend (and chances are doesn't know any better) won't solve anything will it? It's you just venting your emotion physically. If it was your friend, then very unpleasant words should normally suffice. If the chap in question starts being a tit about it, then I'd say you're justified to plant one on him. It's not the immediate solution though; it never is.

It takes two to tango, remember? Your main concern should be with having it out with your so-called girlfriend, not trying to assert your offended masculinity.

You've beaten up people for less, have you? So have I, but I grew out of it. It's about time you did too really.
 
It's easy to say step back when you're on a forum talking about it. But we're talking about.. in the moment. You don't have a choice, you're going to be fuming. And you're going to react.

Not just go back to the bar and laugh about it with your mates.

And don't worry about it. Ive grown up out of it. I had to. Thats the exact reason I nearly lost my girlfriend in the first place.
 
Nix said:
There's sticking up for yourself and then there's over-reacting. Guess which one you fall into?
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Why comment about his comment though ? Its pretty hypocritical your calling him a keyboard warrior to try to bolster your own image, making you a keyboard warrior :P. I agree with the dude as I have experienced this myself and I can tell you when you love the girl like nothing else on earth it is soul shattering. You dont know how you will react but 90% of men will resort to physical violence. Trust me there is no better therapy. ^^

edit= this was in relation to a friend doing the kissing, or at the very least an aquaintance who knew of the existing relationship. Not some randomer.
 
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converse_uprise said:
It's easy to say step back when you're on a forum talking about it. But we're talking about.. in the moment. You don't have a choice, you're going to be fuming. And you're going to react.

Not just go back to the bar and laugh about it with your mates.
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I'd grab my girlfriend by the arm and whip her off to have a very stern talk. If the guy got funky then he'd get a pop in the mouth but not before. The guy is irrelevent, my girlfriend is what matters to me. What's so hard to understand there?

Your immediate reaction is to batter the other guy and quite frankly, you're a child for doing so.
 
converse_uprise said:
I can't even believe what i'm hearing. You wouldn't hit a bloke if you saw him kissing your girlfriend?

In my eyes thats an understandable human reaction.
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Understandable if you're a meat head.

Is it worth getting that angry/emotional to actually hit someone over such an action?

Neither friend or partner at the point of disregarding your relationship really care about what you think or feel.

Why give them more than they deserve by even getting angry?

It's called being the better/bigger man, telling both parties to **** off as they've made their beds and can go lie in it. They were never true in the first place. The friend will lose a good friend and the partner would hopefuly feel gutted knowing, thinking or believing they actually meant nothing. Exactly how they made you feel kissing someone else.

If it turns out they don't actually feel guilty at all then even better for cutting your losses. Violence solves nothing.
 
4Play said:
Why comment about his comment though ? Its pretty hypocritical your calling him a keyboard warrior to try to bolster your own image, making you a keyboard warrior :P. I agree with the dude as I have experienced this myself and I can tell you when you love the girl like nothing else on earth it is soul shattering. You dont know how you will react but 90% of men will resort to physical violence. Trust me there is no better therapy. ^^
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Watch out, you'll be a keyboard warrior if you talk like that. After all, we are all little boys that hide behind computer screens to act tough and scary. It almosts sounds like you're trying to boast to a bunch of computer geeks. :o
 
Easy to talk the calm collected game.

On a night out, with alcohol involved aswell. I'm just saying, in my opinion, I feel it would be a different matter. The vast majority of the time.

If you can be that better man, fine, fair play to you.

I would never be able to control myself in that situation. And i would put money a lot of other people would be exactly the same.

And all this besides. I think its disgusting the OP went to kiss his friends girlfriend. Whether or not the kiss was returned, that is irrelevant. It speaks volume about the type of person he is.
 
converse_uprise said:
Watch out, you'll be a keyboard warrior if you talk like that. After all, we are all little boys that hide behind computer screens to act tough and scary. It almosts sounds like you're trying to boast to a bunch of computer geeks. :o
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Hahaha people talk about this bigger man to walk away. Its really not the case if the guy who kissed her knew she was in a relationship then there are no excuses. KO him, never speak to him again and ditch the broad. People commenting here will have no idea how they would react unless they have been through it.
 
Were I in the OPs shoes I'd have expected to be hit during the act, that this didn't occur means violence is probably not on the cards now either. Were I in his mates shoes, I'd be annoyed but likely to forgive the friend and replace the girlfriend.

50/50 whether I'd have hit the OP, situation dependent.
 
Nix said:
Then my advice to you is to learn how. It's not impossible.
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Right can I just ask you something what is gained by simply walking away ? What lesson is taught ? So he can go off and do it again ? Live by the sword and die by it, an eye for an eye thats the way that the world works. Cause and effect, every action in this life comes with a consequence. Whats so bad to give back a little pain ?
 
Sone said:
Went to the pub last night for St Paddys day and got pretty drunk. Was sitting with a guy and his bird and spent most of my night chatting to her. All is fine untill i leave, everyone is outside having a smoke so i say let do something to make Gregg jelous then give her a kiss (not just a peck on the cheek). Got to work tonight so can't go out try and sort things out. Got a feeling i am going to get owned on friday night :(

Any ideas how to get me out of the ****?
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I hope he stoves your head in, I would what a **** friend you are:)!
 
4Play said:
Right can I just ask you something what is gained by simply walking away ? What lesson is taught ? So he can go off and do it again ? Live by the sword and die by it, an eye for an eye thats the way that the world works. Cause and effect, every action in this life comes with a consequence. Whats so bad to give back a little pain ?
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What lesson needs to be taught? If it's a stranger, the chances are he didn't know she was your girlfriend and should be given benefit of the doubt - the blame lies entirely with the girl. If he somehow knew you were an item and you knew this (say he did it as you were literally just doing couply things) then a strong word is still the first response. If he gets funky, then by all means go nuts.

If the guy was a friend, then what good does punching a 'friend' solve? You should be past violence with those closest to you. A strong talking to, or even removal from your life is enough in this circumstance.

You only want to hurt the other guy because you see him as some form of threat to your masculinity. Try and put your masculinity aside for a change; it's not in question.
 
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