Ahhh crazy , lady problem alert! ( long read! )

Just got a text that she got lost and abit upset(worried) and now she's not far from me sitting on a bench and that she wanted to see me before she went away for a few days. I ended up not going to the club

God damn , then the guilt kicks in.
 
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If you like her then it'll be hard to not get sucked in and ever harder to walk away. In fact, it seems you're already that point.

I would just lay down the law and giv her clear boundaries and terms of your relationship. If you give in all the time and don't give yourself a get out clause you'll end up going the same way. She obviously needs someone to be firm and honest with her without beating her. It's probably just a confidence thing and it must be very degrading to have your boyfriend beat you then be "lumbered" with his kid afterwards making moving on very difficult.
 
just leave it man - let her get on with things

sounds like you don't need to be a part of her life - for your own good

and also...one piece of advice - being on "anti depressants" is not a character fault - there are thousands of people who are on them...like me...and i'm fine, thanks
 
I had a friend who was an alcoholic, and I thought that I did the right thing by trying to help and being there for him. In the end, all that resulted was he carried on drinking, sucked all the energy out of me and made me depressed. If I were you I wouldnt even be friends, easier to walk away now than later.
 
Get out. You shouldn't base a relationship on sympathy/feeling sorry for someone/wanting to help. Kudos to you for being a nice guy who wants to do that but it's gonna make things very one-sided and eventually you'll resent her for it (if she doesn't destroy you first).

TLDR - RUN MAN RUN!
 
Dude, only YOU can make this choice not us.
Does she make u happy? does she tick the boxes? do you see things working out? how does she want things to go?

Ask yourself this, would you ask her to move in with you?
If not, walk away. If you would. see where it goes.
 
This isn't a fairy tale and you're not going to get in there, "fix" her and make everything all right.

It's already doomed, and if you get any more involved you're just asking to enter a world of ****.

RUN.
 
run Forrest run!!!!!

If you really want to try it, be careful there's plenty to go wrong here, maybe try to not let yourself get too attached and lay down some rules early. Personally i would stay away, up to you though buddy.
 
She sounds like a never ending project that you will never be rid of, regardless of how you feel in the future.

I would say to get out now as you are obviously having doubts.
If you really saw a future with her it would never cross your mind to ask.

Good luck.
 
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i'm really thankful for all your support!
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Do you honestly lack the aptitude to think for yourself in such an easy matter? Support? For crying out loud she's the one with the kid, with a violent ex, depressed and on medication, possibly having an alcohol problem with no job and you're thankful for support on if you should stay with a crazy lady or not.

Wake up, it's a no brainer, if you don't like something and have the option for it to stop, stop it. It's fruitless to go on when you don't want to or see problems.

You needed us to tell you that.
 
My youngest (5) suffers from AS so I have a rough idea how hard it is for you.

My advice, like the rest, walk away! Life is difficult enough without worrying about extra complications and awkward social situations. Escape while you can!
 
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