Leaving teenages home alone..

Yeah…. I’m going to say to his mum, leave him to it. Provided the fridge has food that is easy to prepare, he has contact numbers and a key then as said sure his gf will do the rest.. lol

I’m kinda pleased he’s got a gf, he’s a good lad. We’re eventually just going to leave the house his mum lives in for him to use as he pleases, as we’re in the process of getting our own place anyhow… Its only a two bed terrace but this might be a good proving ground..

I just don’t like to feel we’ve abandoned him, however he seems to be pushing for space and always asks when are we going to be gone for a few days etc…. Obvious he wants the house to himself with his gf.. Can you blame him?#

Thanks for the encouragement… He’s trustworthy, I’ll pass this on to his mum tonight, and well leave him this weekend. We’d already planned to do so anyhow, as he’s left school now, and to be honest don’t mind a party. Provided they don’t smash the place up, and they clean up afterwards… Hey, they’re still kids in a way…. Can’t stop them having fun..

Thanks all.. Puts my mind at rest..
 
I would say you'll be fine. If he's switched on and responsible talk to him man to man explain the situation, that you trust him, you're giving him a chance to show he's responsible and that you're counting on him not to let you down.

I'm not a parent but I think being honest and talking to kids like adults (when the situation permits) is the best way to get a message across.
 
Biohazard said:
Leave a condom on his pillow ;)

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lol we did that a few weeks back. Me and his mum went and got a condom container with a selection of 'suitable' protection...

We left it under his pillow, he found it a few days later.... Said he'd already put them to use:eek:, and can he have a refill... Said this, as his neck was covered in bites..

Said he needs to start feeding his bird..!! lol
 
iv-tecman said:
Just out of interest, what do you all reckon to leaving a 16 year old, well he’ll be 17 in about 5 months on their own for a few days, provided they are given mobile phone numbers to ring in emergencies, food and money to get phone credit and they can –

Cook perfectly fine
Have a gf who will be stopping over with him

Just asking, as I’m not too sure… I know when I was 16 I remember coming home to an empty house a lot, but I was never left on my own till I hit 18… He has a gf and she is 17 but his mum, and me to be honest feel once they are both 18 then its pretty much fend for themselves.. Till then, I feel adult supervision overnight is still required….

Thoughts, is it even legal to leave a 16 and a 17 year old on their own for a few nights? Or am I being a bit paranoid? Basically, he’s asking for space from his mum and we’re not too sure to be honest.. I think he’s quite mature for his age, but you never know…. All it takes is for one to say – ‘hey party time’ and that’s it, house trashed..

He is though quite trustworthy – its friends I fear, easy to reduce teenagers with peer pressure.. gf seems quite mature as well.
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You need to trust him sometime and at 16 he should realise the consequences of his actions and act accordingly, especially as you say he is trustworthy.

I wouldn't worry about parties, he will probably enjoy the time alone with his GF.

As a father myself, I would have no worries about leaving my Son overnight at age 16, he is almost an adult and old enough to fend for himself.
 
Marky said:
Seems fine - and sounds like your son is gunna get laaaaaaiiiiidddd...


A lot :p



And in your bed :p
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He's not my son, his real dad left him when he was 2. He's always called me dad though, so far as I'm concerned I look after him as he is my son...

and I think he's already planted the seed... lol His mum is worried sick she'll be a grandmother soon..
 
i was left alone for a few days when i was 17, i had a party and the house got very messy, and an expensive living room table got broken. i was actually pretty responsible most of the time and the party was meant to just a few mates round but it got bigger as you can imagine and went beyond my control.
 
iv-tecman said:
He's not my son, his real dad left him when he was 2. He's always called me dad though, so far as I'm concerned I look after him as he is my son...

and I think he's already planted the seed... lol His mum is worried sick she'll be a grandmother soon..
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Ahhh I see :p

Haha I think it's definitely time to use the "leave the condoms under the pillow" :p

Maybe with a note... "Have fun!" "Give her one for me!" "Try the wheelbarrow!"
 
He'll be fine.
He will definitely have a party but it doesn't mean the house will be destroyed - just make it clear that as long as he respects the house then there won't be a problem
He will be drunk for pretty much the entire time.
He will empty your spirits cabinet.

Nevertheless he won't starve, he probably won't burn the house down, and if his gf is staying he will walk with a limp :D

Best part of being 16/17 in my view, that first holiday where you're left behind...
 
it'll be fine.. i was left with my little brother at 11 he was 7.. and we were all right and it was 6 days a week.. and yes we had a hard time so its not the parents that just did it because they didn't care.. :)

so 16 is more than safe.. :] heck.. i was left alone for 1 month at 15 and all was good.. just instead of leaving cash or something buy food.. if you leave cash it'll be wasted for booze i assure you that ;)
 
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