Ignore I read it wrong.
Pretty sure GF is cheating on me.
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Have you dumped her yet? if not your a fool and I have no sympathy for you
I didn't know the OP swung both ways, maybe they could have a threesome?
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She works with this guy. When my girlfriend and I fell out a few weeks back, I looked on her facebook a few days later and there were messages between this guy and her organising to do something together.My girlfriend was on about washing her new car and this guy was like "Well come pick me up and we'll go wash it at soandso car wash together" which I found out they did, so that was kinda like the first 'outing' together.
Then.. a few days later, she tells me she's going to the cinema with a few mates from work one evening and she wont be back till real late so im like ok.. Then I find, the next day the guy messages me on facebook explaining that he told my girlfriend that he liked her at the cinema and she apparently told him that she liked him too (whilst still with me - she could have meant as a friend I dunno? Makes me wonder if she did go with some "mates" from work, or with him by his-self) and he messaged me on facebook saying "omg im so sorry, I wouldnt have said I liked her if I had realised she was still with you", "I feel so bad man, sorry". Anyway, then he sent me some texts that she supposedly had been sending him "Come help me cook dinner, you're better than me at itand im on my own xx" etc. Which I confronted my girlfriend about and she denied everything saying that he made it all up.
She then said after quite a bit of talking that we should both delete him from FB and she'll tell him via text and at work what a complete **** he is trying to ruin our relationship. I believed her, so I deleted him and then when it came to her deleting him, she was reluctant to which got me wondering. She said she wanted to "have a word with him" first about what he had nearly done. So I left it.
I logged onto her fb this morning and there's messages between them.. and to cut a long story short he says "So, are we together? xx" and my girlfriend says "I dunno babe, although Adam is a **** I dont wanna rub it in his face. Lets take it slow and see how it goes.xx" which really ****ed me off after what she had been saying. She even suggested going out for a meal on Friday to 'sort our relationship out' and she meant it in a good way. I looked on the guys profile and it said "Had a great time with INSERTMYGIRLFRIENDHERE yesterday (Saturday)" which got me even more annoyed.
I rang my girlfriend just now and acted normal and she said "im at work, ring me back later" so I was like "ok, I love you with all my heart" and her response was "ok, bye".. I was like "Dont you love me too?" she said.. "I dunno, bye" and I just said "bye". Makes me wonder if this guy was there too and that was the reason she didnt want to tell me she "Loved me". :/
Cruel world. Especially when it's your first real relationship.
Awful way to find out OP.
You need to talk to her, or leave her, or both.
Only you can decide.
I'd suggest not giving her back her nudie pics though.
That's enough said tbh, no need to confront her - just end it. Shes already at the point where she doesn't care that she's cheating on you, at the moment shes probably trying to think of a nice way to finish you. Why don't you be one step ahead of her and end it first? Send her a 'congratulations' card and give both of them your blessing or something?I logged onto her fb this morning and there's messages between them.. and to cut a long story short he says "So, are we together? xx" and my girlfriend says "I dunno babe, although Adam is a **** I dont wanna rub it in his face. Lets take it slow and see how it goes.
Best revenge is to be happy and act like you're not hurt at all. She will probably be curious as to why you're fine - maybe she would start to think that you're cheating on her as well.
It happens to the best of us OP. Being cheated on in your first relationship is a hard lesson to learn, but you'll be stronger for it in the long run. Few months and you'll be a new man, promise.
This is the truth, it sucks, but it's spot on.
That's enough said tbh, no need to confront her - just end it. Shes already at the point where she doesn't care that she's cheating on you, at the moment shes probably trying to think of a nice way to finish you. Why don't you be one step ahead of her and end it first? Send her a 'congratulations' card and give both of them your blessing or something?
Best revenge is to be happy and act like you're not hurt at all. She will probably be curious as to why you're fine - maybe she would start to think that you're cheating on her as well.
or just steal all her shoes, that'd annoy her
You're a doormat, do the decent thing and preserve any dignity you might still have a dump her in a way that will humiliate her like he has humiliated you!
She's probably laughing about you right now!
Treat them mean and keep em keen, it's not just a saying it's true!
She's probably laughing about you right now!
Treat them mean and keep em keen, it's not just a saying it's true!
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End it mate, and if she wants to be with you and only you she will beg for you to take her back. Its the only way really you will know if she does love you. Anyone who has loved or loves anyone will try to be with that person.
Good luck with whatever happens mate .
Good luck with whatever happens mate .
Pointless confronting her, she will deny everything.. AGAIN.
Tell her to make up her mind or foxtrot oscar. Don't be doing any of this two timing bull****.
Oh and you are asking OCUK after all the evidence you have found / been given..
Dude, have a word with yourself.. SHE IS
Anyone that is telling you to humiliate her, or get revenge on her, is just childish and petty. Trust me, I handled it in probably the worst way I could've and what it taught me is if you walk away without doing anything to hurt her, it will only come back to bite her on the ass, not you- what goes around, comes around. If you want to handle this situation like a real, adult man, you'll walk away from it rather than doing anything stupid, and you really will be better off in the long run.
By doing anything like humiliating her, posting on her fb wall, posting nudie pics, saying anything nasty, you'll probably feel better in the short term, but when you look back on this in a couple of years, you'll wish you handled it with more dignity, so if you want to feel good about yourself in the long run, just leave her and move on.
Oh, and don't let it affect your future relationships or make you bitter about women in general- I know it'll be hard to trust anyone after this, especially when you feel yourself starting to care about another woman and getting close to her, but I've just messed up an amazing relationship by letting my residual trust issues into it- trust me, don't do it!!
By doing anything like humiliating her, posting on her fb wall, posting nudie pics, saying anything nasty, you'll probably feel better in the short term, but when you look back on this in a couple of years, you'll wish you handled it with more dignity, so if you want to feel good about yourself in the long run, just leave her and move on.
Oh, and don't let it affect your future relationships or make you bitter about women in general- I know it'll be hard to trust anyone after this, especially when you feel yourself starting to care about another woman and getting close to her, but I've just messed up an amazing relationship by letting my residual trust issues into it- trust me, don't do it!!
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I definitely think you need to abuse the use of her facebook...
Update her status to something pretty bad, change her email and password to her account and then after a day or 2, just delete the account and never talk to her again.
Update her status to something pretty bad, change her email and password to her account and then after a day or 2, just delete the account and never talk to her again.
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Send her a 'congratulations' card and give both of them your blessing or something?
I did something similar, found out my other half had been cheating on me. We were supposed to be going to the cinema after I'd finished work. She text me asking what time I finished because she couldn't remember. So I told her, but I actually managed to finish a bit earlier than I thought.
Anyway I walked out of work and got to the corner of the orad where I parked so I could dump my stuff off and heard her telling somebody they had better be quick because I would be out in a couple of minutes. So I waited until I could hear them kissing and stepped out. The look on there faces were absolute pictures. She said something like **** sorry babe didn't know you were going to be early. I just walked up to her and told it was over then looked at the other guy who looked terrified and just handed him the tickets and told him to take her to the cinema instead as it would be a nice date for them.
Next day I walked out of work to find her sat by my car crying her heart out so I thought I would be "nice" and asked her what was wrong. The guy she was cheating on me with had split up with her about 10 mins before hand telling her that what she did to me was cruel and heartless.
He then came into where I work and we had a chat, he told that had he realised she was with somebody he would never have got together with her, he seemed really sincere about it as well so I believed him.
@OP You're best off finishing with her as nicely as you possibly can and make a point of lettimg him know that he has your blessing or something. If he is a true gentleman she will be single again very quickly and there's your revenge without being nasty.
Good idea but pointless, i wont change anything she's done. Best thing to do is cut all connections and never see/speak to her again. Easier said than done but it's the best way to make them feel loss, women go a bit nutty over it.
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Get rid....now and I mean now.
Good idea about her facecrack account too
Good idea about her facecrack account too
SHE IS cheating on you, Get rid of her it's going to be hard (very hard) but better in the long run,
While your at it sleep with one of her mates, cus that will make you feel way better and it REALLY will **** her off
Or just sleep with someone else
While your at it sleep with one of her mates, cus that will make you feel way better and it REALLY will **** her off
Or just sleep with someone else