Maybe she feels the excitements gone and isn't ready to settle into the cuddles and kids of marriage. Do something fun, crazy and romantic to win her over. Shes probably just scared and although you might ask why bother.. Women are strange creatures and don't always express themselves in the right way or make rational decisions.. You can at least try and then see how it pans out. I'd think if my fiancé was willing to lose me without any fight or effort then he wasn't worth spending the rest of my life with. Don't think the worst, she probably got a taste of excitement and freedom in s Africa and isn't willing to give that up.. Show her you can help her keep that feeling rather than snuffing it out?
Women and there reasons for breaking up with you
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This is about right I think.
Lots of people realise they are happier without their partners when they are parted for a while. However, she was on holiday, so obviously she is going to have had a good time.
To be honest, I'd stick around and give it a bit of time. If it continues then have a serious chat and ask her whats going on.
and on the other side is someone willing to do such a head **** on you for their own mind games worth staying with?
Who said anything about Individualism ? I meant go with the Flow meaning give it a few days and see what his instincts are telling him.
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Usually when this happens you have to assume that she's found somebody else. Or worse that this somebody else hasn't ****ed off with her for two weeks.
Though perhaps - she's had a long talk with her parents and they've come to the conclusion that marrying you, isn't the best situation for her to be in at this time. As said above, 14 months is that long.
Though perhaps - she's had a long talk with her parents and they've come to the conclusion that marrying you, isn't the best situation for her to be in at this time. As said above, 14 months is that long.
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Going with the flow is such a passive way to handle things.
Bottom line is, this girl
- 99.99% cheated on him
- played him
- thinks it's okay
While the OP is too beta to act on it - and you're advising him to just sit back and go with the flow? OP needs to learn to stand on his own two feet and sort this cow out.
Give her some space. Wait for a week or two then talk to her again and press her for a more definitive answer. I think you need to prepare yourself for the worst though.
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Just leave her n dont look back.. she wants to be alone and she isnt sure about things? then her loss you move on before she comes back n hits u in the face n breaks ur heart.
Dont let it happen.
She will string you along and hurt you and you will be waiting with false hope.
if for some amazing reason she comes back and tells you she loves u so much..
Make it difficult dont just TAKE her back.....
N dig deep down the reason why the **** she wanted you to give her space.
Dont let it happen.
She will string you along and hurt you and you will be waiting with false hope.
if for some amazing reason she comes back and tells you she loves u so much..
Make it difficult dont just TAKE her back.....
N dig deep down the reason why the **** she wanted you to give her space.
What odds do I get that she hasn't cheated?
You dont know for sure if she cheated on him or played him etc.
Going with the flow IE sussing situations out before acting on them is not passive its common sense !
I am advising the OP to suss the situation out before acting or making descisions. Whats the Harm in that ?
Poor girl I bet she's Jet Lagged. lol
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Sound advice here.
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Yeah dude, your to keen, its the least attractive thing ever. Just ignore her and you will get what you want.
She may or may not cheated on you but I'm sorry to say your relationship is basically over.
When a chick says stuff like "i dont want to hurt you, i need space.... blah blah blah" it generally means thats she no longer attacted to you and wants to see other guys.
When a chick says stuff like "i dont want to hurt you, i need space.... blah blah blah" it generally means thats she no longer attacted to you and wants to see other guys.
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I was like this with my ex, Liam, a few years ago - one day I just woke up and thought "What on earth am I doing, I'm 19 and wasting my life" we got our own place very quickly and everything moved far too quickly. I didn't cheat on him but I was getting other male attention and realised that I was bored of being tied down. I no longer missed him when I spent time away and I always made excuses to get away from him. I was bored of the same routine, we did break up in the end and it was down to me but it took me a further year to do it, the whole year was the most miserable time of my life. He was so boring though, didn't want to work due to 'illness' and played runescape all day and night, we never slept at the same time as I was work when he was asleep and then I was asleep when he was playing runescape. He was so lazy as well and didn't let me see my friends etc. As soon as I broke up with him, I met up with a good male friend and made up for what I'd missed out on.. as soon as I did that, I realised that I'd most definitely done the right thing.
I think you just need to let her do what she wants, don't chase her or pussy foot around her cos it'll make her resent you more. DON'T let her mess you around though. Give it a month and see how it is then. Don't waste 3 years of your life like I did.
I'm 22 now and in a very happy relationship
I think you just need to let her do what she wants, don't chase her or pussy foot around her cos it'll make her resent you more. DON'T let her mess you around though. Give it a month and see how it is then. Don't waste 3 years of your life like I did.
I'm 22 now and in a very happy relationship
she's had time on her own and enjoyed, enjoyed it more than time she has with you. unlucky squire but better it happens now than after you tie the knot after a relatively short time togethor and then realise you not only don't even know each other that well, you'd rather be away from them than with them.
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Definitely.. or perhaps go one better? Does she have a family pet?
So, ive been with my fiance for 14 months or so.
Everything was going great, we had good relationship. Went on holiday a few months back and had a blast of a time. 2 weeks ago, she went on holiday with her family to south africa. She came back Tuesday, and its just all gone to ****.
She came round last night, and must admit, i missed her like crazy so i was really excited about seeing her. i thought we had a nice night in, some laughs, tickles and cuddle ( i know i know).
But she says today, that she doesnt know where her head is, and that she wants to be on her own for a while. Now, this came out of the blue, and just shattered me tbh. Her reasons are "i dont want to hurt you, and staying with you when my emotions are everywhere isnt fair on you". Followed by a loverly little " but i do love you so much". i was like ok..... she also said "you was so excited to see me and i just wasnt that excited, and that aint normal".
now, i know she hasnt cheated on me or anything like that, but what gives?
Should i stick around and wait to see what happens or just do one? Really dont know what to do tbh
I know EXACTLY how you feel.. some of you may remember my relationship thread on here.. But my girlfriend is long gone now, and even though I still miss her like crazy - I guess it was for the best.