What advice would you give?

Tell him to sit it out. Wait until she gets back from Holiday next year and check up on her again. If it's then blatently obvious what's been going on then he can ditch the *****.

Not saying I'd recommend reading your partners phone/facebook but he seems quite happy to do it once, so once more wont hurt.

In the meantime degrade her as much as possible in the bedroom just incase she is a total wench.
 
Well he could check up on this guy if he knows his face book and stuff, they just could be old friends or something depends how flirty these messages was.

But as others have said if he feels like shes done something and feels the need to check up on her the relationship isnt really going anywhere.

If he confronts her about it hes gonna look liek a jealous insecure freak who has to check up on his gf. Women don like that sorta thing :P
 
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DooMeR said:
If he confronts her about it hes gonna look liek a jealous insecure freak who has to check up on his gf. Women don like that sorta thing :P
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Sorry to <snip> you but he is the jealous, insecure freak who has already 'checked up on his woman'. A couple of previous posters have already said that they know their other half's passwords to bookface etc and that's cool. Snooping through your supposed partner's phone without his/her knowledge is completely different, regardless of reason, and shows a complete lack of trust.

Without trust, all you're really left with is doubt, insecurity and maybe a little bit of hope. That's not a great place to be.
 
Some of the relationship counselling given on here is moronic and in any case the originally OP friend is where he is now and apportioning any blame on him for checking his partners account is pointless.

Simple thing here is what would the girlfriend think if he was talking to some bird and saying I miss you - the answer is absolutely obvious!

We all hear about women being more emotional beings and looks to me she has an emotional attachment to this chap she is speaking too - I would say her boyfriend should confront and dump.

She broke any trust when she started all the sneaky cyber chattering and who knows what else happened when she was actually on holiday!
 
Well just had lunch and my advice was just to talk to her, to think up some way of confronting the issue without the bookface Reading ever coming up. Ultimately told him that if he can't trust her or if he doubts her what is the point. Probably won't hear what happens until Monday though so guess this will be a slow burner until then.


Keeping things slightly on topic let's say your las went away and did cheat. If she admits it all and says it was a big mistake would you chuck away a long term relationship over a fling someone did?

I don't know how I would react. Give up your happy life over a one off mistake or live knowing your partner cheated, could you ever them fully trust them again? Without being in the situation myself I don't know how I would react.
 
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Keeping things slightly on topic let's say your las went away and did cheat. If she admits it all and says it was a big mistake would you chuck away a long term relationship over a fling someone did
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Probably...

Once the trust has gone, what of substance is left?

The only time I might consider otherwise is if there were kids involved.
 
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Keeping things slightly on topic let's say your las went away and did cheat. If she admits it all and says it was a big mistake would you chuck away a long term relationship over a fling someone did?

I don't know how I would react. Give up your happy life over a one off mistake or live knowing your partner cheated, could you ever them fully trust them again? Without being in the situation myself I don't know how I would react.
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Come on, man. This question has been going on for ever and if it ever had an answer that worked for everyone, it would never be asked again.
 
Why dont you or your mate add this Italian stallion to your facebook page? Cant you then message him, try and get him to admit he has been spewing his man fat all up in her?

I dont know how Facebook works ive not got one or used it, but surely there is a way to get this information from them?
 
Heres a completely ****** up idea! Why don't you sit your girlfriend down and tell her about your paranoid theories? Regardless if you've done a little bit of snooping or not, just get things off your chest!
 
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... Keeping things slightly on topic let's say your las went away and did cheat. If she admits it all and says it was a big mistake would you chuck away a long term relationship over a fling someone did? ...
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Admits why :confused:

Picture the scene - young couple in happy, loving, long-term, stable relationship sitting on sofa in front of nice warm fire after supper and savouring a rather fine cognac - nothing on telly - no unread books lying about - "lass", feeling somewhat bored, pipes up "Apropos of nothing in particular, when I was on holiday in Magaluf without you last August, I had a wild passionate affair with a waiter; is that OK?"

Nope, definitely doesn't work for me ;)

So the answer to your question is YES.
 
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