We're on a break

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Having never been in the situation of having a break in a relationship and always going for the option of 'keep trying' or 'end it' in the past, I've been presented with the scenario and quite frankly I'm left scratching my head.

So my question is, has having a break, some space and time apart effective and has it worked for you personally in the past?

Discuss.
 
I dont think having a break works, if you cant work at it then is there any point?
There may be others that it works for but i see it as a way of saying, Its over but i dont want to say that in case i miss you. Or something along those lines.
This is just my opinion though.
 
Yup. "Going on a break" is how a woman dumps you if you havent done something to warrant it.
 
Sometimes it can make you miss someone and appreciate them, reaise that you cant be apart.. but more often than not its as others have said, a way to say its over. It usually follows with them immediately going on a date with someone else and the excuse of "well we were on a break" and then your supposed to automatically know its over.

I hope were all wrong, but dont hang on too long. Good luck with it all :)
 
Married or just seeing her?

Never heard that phrase followed by a permanent reunion personally, but stranger things have happened.
eidt: actually I do recall a friend's parents having a break of about 12 months and they got back together and still are - they had been married for about 30 years first though
 
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From my experiance... if your gf sleeps with someone while you on are the break thats perfectly fine and you have no cause for complaining and being annoyed.

If you sleep with someone then you are a scumbag and never loved her and just agreed to the break so you could sleep around.

Thats how it works im afraid.


Now of course not knowing either of you this could be far from the mark, but USUALLY if someone suggests a break its because they want to get jiggy with someone else they have seen.

If its got to the break stage its usually just too far gone to save it.
 
Bleek said:
Having never been in the situation of having a break in a relationship and always going for the option of 'keep trying' or 'end it' in the past, I've been presented with the scenario and quite frankly I'm left scratching my head.

So my question is, has having a break, some space and time apart effective and has it worked for you personally in the past?

Discuss.
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No, it is simply a way for someone to dump you without having the courage to tell you.

The only time things like trial separations work (albeit not often) is when a couple have been married for years and on occasion the time apart simply reminds them that they are better together and reminds them of what they took for granted.
 
My current gf and I have been together for 7 years, with a couple of 4 month breaks in between... I feel that we've found ourselves now and we're stronger for it, though things that happened in those months we both regret.
 
Throw these two criteria in to the mix. Firstly it's not public knowledge ie as far as others are concerned we're still partners and secondly she has said we're exclusive, this isn't about someone else as she wants to be with me.

To be honest I'm with you lot, no matter how much she has said don't take it personally and that she wants to be with me, it feels like the end game. I keep getting told it's not.
 
Shes lying to you because she (and most woman) can never be honest about thier feelings.

A break is a spineless persons way of breaking up with you without having to deal with all the other persons emotions.

get over her as she is obviously one of the many women out there who just want to make things difficult.

If the relationship is worth it you wouldnt require a break, and you would both concentrate and work at the problems

Relationships are not easy. If they where everyone would be in a successful one.
 
I disagree with a lot of others and really don't think you should throw in the towel yet. Yes see other people etc but don't write off a future with her at some point. It sounds like she's trying to make sure you're the one for her, by leaving you and seeing if the grass is greener... stupid as it sounds, both myself and my gf have done that to each other.
 
It worked for my wife and I.

I felt that after 7 years together the relationship had stagnated a bit and wanted to try different things (Code for i wanted to bang anything that i could).

We took a break of about 6 months where we both went our seperate ways and did what we had to do and to be perfectly honest it drove me crazy...it was nice "doing other things" but all i wanted after about 3 months was to get back with the ex.

Anyways long story short....we got back together after 6 months, and another 7 years down the line we are still happily married with 2 amazing kids.

I would agree that for the majority of people the need to "Have a break" is a distinct indicator as to the end of said relationship....it just wasnt with ours.
 
Time to move on, fella. I don't know anyone who went on a break only to return to their partner and enjoy a worthwhile relationship. It's not impossible but it is unlikely. I take it she instigated it?
 
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