Dating..

Eliot

Eliot

Eliot

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I've promised myself sooooo many times i would never do this, i cant actually believe i am but there we go...

Anyways long story short, I went out with my ex since i was 16, we broke up 3-4 months ago (im now 20). I never actually went on a 'date' with her, its weird i mean we were in school so it was basically talking in classes then one day we went for a walk and all of a sudden we are going out. Yeah we went out for meals and stuff but only after already knowing each other...

Anyway Present day and i was out on the town last saturday and i met this girl (shes 18), anyway we really hit it off and got talking and i took her number and we basically arranged to go out sometime there and then, i think we talked for like an hour and a half. She seems very nice and i think we have a lot in common, thing is the dating thing is totally new to me and im just FREAKING OUT, like seriously im never nervous about anything but this is making me dissappointed in myself lol. Atm the plan is food and a movie,
Gimme advice/ Moral support lol my friends are all 1 night stand types or are in a situation similar to my previous one.
 
Do something fun. Don't just go sit in a pub or something as that could really fall on its arse. Go do an activity - but make sure she knows what to be prepared for! Can't do go-karting or such in heels :p
 
i know i am properly worried about going somewhere and having nothing to say, but at the same time it seems strange to not no someone that well and just be like, Yo so you wanna come karting?
You know what i mean? i dunno... im pretty sure we should talk fine, we did when we were out, but i had dutch courage on my side then.
 
Dj_Jestar said:
Do something fun. Don't just go sit in a pub or something as that could really fall on its arse. Go do an activity - but make sure she knows what to be prepared for! Can't do go-karting or such in heels :p
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This.

Think your worrying too much about it really. I asked my girlfriend out for a couple of drinks and then bowling, was a good laugh, got to know each other and was no pressure
 
My first date choice is a pub crawl. It's better than just sitting in a pub and will result in more drinks and you'll get to know yourself better. But then again, I don't think I could see someone who didn't like a drink...
 
I'm so dissapointed in this thread so far there has been no mention of pasty smashing! lol

To the OP, Just relax... crack one out before you shower if you have too... it really helps de'stress when going on a big date
 
I have been on a grand total of 4 dates.

1 has become a good friend, the other my gf.

I hate dating, my exes were all met by way of social circle, much easier.
 
pretend shes a boy
a boy youve known
what would you do
youd make the plans
so make a plan
have fun
most likely youre gonna have awkward silences
she'll realise youre not the guy she thought you were in the club
talking for an hour and a half and now struggling to put a decent
coherent sensible string of words together?
were you on weed at the time?
 
A 'date' just adds more pressure.

Just meet up and go for a drink, play some pool or something. It's something fun to do but isn't as akward as sitting next to someone for an hour and a half/two hours, in silence, in the dark. Not really a great chance to get to know each other. Though if it's going badly it'll be a god send! Also if your meal doesn't agree with you that could be akward.

I don't think I'll ever go on a date again, I've been on them but there's just far too much pressure to 'hit it off' I found. I'd rather meet someone, get along well and decide to see more of them and hang out as good friends where there's no pressure than put myself into a potentially confidence crippling situation.

Social circle introductions are usually the best. Lots of my friends and my encounters have been this way too.

Jesus ***** ******* christ kapows your posting style is so god damn special.
 
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cm1179 said:
i hate going on dates, i'd much rather just have a drink and a chat at mine or theirs, where we can both relax
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Agreed, dating makes it sound so formal. When I was internet dating it became a chore to think up dates...

My gf likes date nights. I tend to try and say its not a date night. Its just getting out the house and enjoying some quality time together.

too many times on dates did it seem to become almost like an interview... Rubbish. Just relex and go with the flow... Drinks, maybe followed by light dinner and take it from there with the chat and who knows where it will lead..!!
 
If your friends are into 1 nighters and nothing else then it's clearly best to stay away from their advice lol.
My advice (based on the dates I have been on) is to just be yourself and also listen to what she is saying :) That helps.

Then again you'd probably be best to avoid anything I say as I don't exactly hit it off with the ladies :o
 
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