What would you do? (girl thread..)

Relationships these days are messed up. Always a love triangle, and somehow it always starts from Facebook.

Smash her pasty, then smash everyone else's, and then just go on a pasty smashing rampage.
 
you seem a little selfish tbh. i'd say let her get on with it and don't cloud her mind with thoughts of being with you. if she leaves him and you're still around then maybe you can be together, however until then i'd say let her do what she wants and not try to change her mind just so you can have her instead.

also boyfriend sounds like a guy who thinks he's in love and i doubt he means anything nasty from it, but then he would sound like a bad guy as not only is the girl not going to tell someone she fancies how good her boy is, but also it's then passed on to us through you who will naturally only see the bad in him. bet you've never told her how he clearly must care about her a lot because he's afraid to lose her, but told her many times to leave so you can have her.
 
Swifty55 said:
Actually, that only really applies if she's cheated on her current BF.

Once a cheat, always a cheat and so forth.
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I point you to this comment by the OP

Fast forward 3 weeks upto the present day and now they are "supposedly" on a break which I later found out to be garbage

She lied about being in a relationship.
 
Dan Dan said:
I point you to this comment by the OP

Fast forward 3 weeks upto the present day and now they are "supposedly" on a break which I later found out to be garbage

She lied about being in a relationship.
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If she will lie to him, then lie to you about being on a break, is she lying about how he is with her. For all you know this guy is just mentally unstable due to her lies, maybe he's cracked and shes starting on you.... Fast forward 6 months, Will you be the 'possesive boyfriend' calling her while shes with her 'new friend' ? Hope you work it out and whatever the outcome are happy.
 
She's got more baggage than Heathrow. As hard as it might be, back off till she makes a decision or all three of you are going to get messed up.
 
Mammalian said:
you seem a little selfish tbh. i'd say let her get on with it and don't cloud her mind with thoughts of being with you. if she leaves him and you're still around then maybe you can be together, however until then i'd say let her do what she wants and not try to change her mind just so you can have her instead.

also boyfriend sounds like a guy who thinks he's in love and i doubt he means anything nasty from it, but then he would sound like a bad guy as not only is the girl not going to tell someone she fancies how good her boy is, but also it's then passed on to us through you who will naturally only see the bad in him. bet you've never told her how he clearly must care about her a lot because he's afraid to lose her, but told her many times to leave so you can have her.
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I've told her he does love her and obviously made her happy, but I have told her that its emotional blackmail to threaten suicide to keep someone, which is the truth. I've tried to be as impartial as possible which is why I'm basically destroying my own mind at the moment. It cannot go on forever though and even someone with the patience of a saint will not be able to withstand for long.
 
Laylah said:
If she will lie to him, then lie to you about being on a break, is she lying about how he is with her. For all you know this guy is just mentally unstable due to her lies, maybe he's cracked and shes starting on you.... Fast forward 6 months, Will you be the 'possesive boyfriend' calling her while shes with her 'new friend' ? Hope you work it out and whatever the outcome are happy.
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Thats actually pretty damn good advice. Definitely not worth it looking at it like that!
 
If he's threatening her with emotional blackmail, to me that's a strong indication of 'romantic terrorism' which probably means the relationship is coming to an uncomfortable and volatile conclusion of its own accord. There are from my own observations, few relationships that seem to last the distance of one partner going to university whilst the other stays behind.

My advice: back off, let them deal with what is their business and not yours. If they split now, you're nothing but a rebound anyway - that is, if you're not already the de facto emotional blanket. Keep her at an arm's length and go do something else with your time.
 
We need to bring a fitness factor in to this...

Is she smokingly hot? If so she's worth the trouble

Is she's average? Then it's debatable

Is she Fugly? Don't bother
 
Nix said:
If he's threatening her with emotional blackmail, to me that's a strong indication of 'romantic terrorism' which probably means the relationship is coming to an uncomfortable and volatile conclusion of its own accord. There are from my own observations, few relationships that seem to last the distance of one partner going to university whilst the other stays behind.

My advice: back off, let them deal with what is their business and not yours. If they split now, you're nothing but a rebound anyway - that is, if you're not already the de facto emotional blanket. Keep her at an arm's length and go do something else with your time.
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Aye this is the plan pretty much, can just concentrate on uni work right upto christmas then I've got plenty of time away from her anyway.
 
Its really simple.

Tell her she's the one who needs to decide who to be with, she cant have it both ways, and it's not right on you or the other guy.

If she wants to be with you then she needs to finish with the other guy.

Until she makes a decision just cut off all contact with her, like you said you would.
 
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