the friend who has now split up with his gf

Dkore-DeX said:
Lots of people see their friends less when they are in a serious relationship.
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Yep, one of my closest friends lives in Aus with his missus and child, I've been to visit him once and it was like I had only seen him the day before, we took the **** out of each other as usual and that was that, nothing had changed really
 
Real decent friends should be able to pick up where they left, whether this be a week a mont ha year or longer. Situations like this people find out who their friends really are...
 
I can pretty much echo what everyone above has pointed out really, friends are friends unless they do something heinous that causes you to no longer be friends. As you grow up, friends move away or have other life priorities and you lose contact, you still have your shared experiences, memories and things in common (yes, people can change but you still have the fact that you were friends in common at the minimum).
 
Be there for him is all i can say, leave the ego at the door and just have a beer or 10. Hes probably in a rough situation and feeling like hes done you dirty already, so giving him jip isnt going to make anything better :)
 
Pigeon_Killer said:
**** him! Friendship works both ways, if he didn't want to have contact with you while he had a GF why should you now they've split up?
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How do we know he didn't want contact? I'm sure we've all had that situation where we were so wrapped up in someone that time goes by so quickly and you don't realise how much time has gone.

I think it's easy to dismiss, but it's important to be the "bigger" person, and accept them back into your life and rekindle that friendship.

Sure, if it's someone that just uses you all the time then I'd agree it may be time to stop being a mug - but life's too short for grudges and negativity.
 
Quite consistently, i found people like the OP to be:

- Exactly the same/worse when they're in a relationship, yet they tend to forget that when they're taking the **** and making the remarks about you not seeing them as much anymore.

- Jealous/resentful of the relationship (even though they'd never admit it).
 
Gaygle said:
Quite consistently, i found people like the OP to be:

- Exactly the same/worse when they're in a relationship, yet they tend to forget that when they're taking the **** and making the remarks about you not seeing them as much anymore.

- Jealous/resentful of the relationship (even though they'd never admit it).
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you're wrong

the person in question is a long term friend who i have known for over 25 years. however, when he gets a girlfriend, he puts his friends on the backburner, he does this everytime. i remain in contact through text, fb, etc but whenever me and other friends would try and involve him in something it was always ''i can't mate, me and the missus are xyz''. fair enough, i understand this, however, although he will always be a friend, i find it hard to understand that he feels he can simply fit back in to the social scence, when as soon as he finds someone else, he will slip straight back out of it and repeat.
 
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