Walk past her on the way to work. Wanna ask her out. Anyone done this, suggestions!?

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Haha naah honestly - havent seen her this week @ all...

But what I will totally admit to at *this* stage is: yea...at this time I do have cold feet, I know I have to kinda hurry up and say something cuz as u lot have pointed out - someone else will do it!
 
KatanaDV20 said:
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Ill be sure to jump on here when I decide to go for it and ask her ha! Im not flapping too much but theres a small seed of worry cuz I havent seen her since Monday. Maybe her hours have changed or shes gone someplace. With my luck she probably moved to Alaska....mleh..will see what happens!
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OMG........what if she's a forum member and has read this thread :eek:

I wonder? Has anyone posted a, "Spec me a new route to work", thread lately?
 
KatanaDV20 said:
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Ill be sure to jump on here when I decide to go for it and ask her ha! Im not flapping too much but theres a small seed of worry cuz I havent seen her since Monday. Maybe her hours have changed or shes gone someplace. With my luck she probably moved to Alaska....mleh..will see what happens!
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You could even update us when your talking to her, girls love that sort of stuff!

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cuz as u lot have pointed out - someone else will do it!
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Unless she's a munter in which case .....ya got all day bruv!
 
OMG........what if she's a forum member and has read this thread
I wonder? Has anyone posted a, "Spec me a new route to work", thread lately?
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Yikes! Murphys Law cant be THAT cruel....right?!! Lol.

You could even update us when your talking to her, girls love that sort of stuff!
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Hahaha...Twitter feed?
 
She's probably seen the way you've been oggling her across the road and has decided to choose a new way to get to wherever it is she wants to go.
 
KatanaDV20 said:
Hahaha...Twitter feed?
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Possibly, maybe even a live feed. Employ a mate to broadcast your love to the world without even knowing the girl. She'll go wobbly at the knees!

You see what i'm doing here? any subliminal messages getting through?
 
She's probably seen the way you've been oggling her across the road and has decided to choose a new way to get to wherever it is she wants to go.
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Thats the part I wanna point out though...I never oogle at her :) I walk as normal looking dead straight and only take note of her as she passes (which of us hasnt turned our head as a pretty gal walks by?)

She hasnt even noticed me yet....lost in her iPod! (yes I see the white headphones & wire!)
 
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She may well find it flattering, but may also be intimidated if you confront her and put her on the spot.

Depending on the situation, and given the fact I've never been one to chase women, I'd be tempted to write on the back of a business card "A.) I'm shy B.) I didn't want to put you on the spot :-p Drink sometime?"

Give it to her in the street and smile and walk off.

Pretentious? Maybe. Cheesy? Probably. But you've done the job and put the ball in her court.
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Telling women you're shy or any kind of self-deprecation is a sure-fire way to erode any attraction they have for you, the exception being when you're clearly not shy and flirting with them, and using self put-downs when they're testing your reactions to see if you like to brag, e.g. "ooo that shirt looks expensive", "...yeah, Primani bbz!" Confidence is sexy to women, which is the whole point of not trying to make your approach over-elaborate or meek.

OP, as you've found out, dilly-dallying is costly! Regret is far more painful than rejection. You have NOTHING TO LOSE by asking her out when you see her again. Just be real when you speak; you've passed her a few times on the way to work, there's something about her (you can be specific) that makes you want to get to know her... you get the gist. Giving her a note because you can't get the words out of your mouth... what kind of first impression is that? It's all about the confidence you deliver the words with. If it feels to her like you're a bundle of nerves or are expecting to get rejected, if asking her to have a coffee with you sounds like a question, then to her it'll feel very different than if you're bold, friendly, slightly cheeky and proposing coffee as a statement. There's no denying that the probability of success isn't sky-high given the logistics, but then lack of action is no different to failure, so you won't be any worse off for trying. Also, iPods are irrelevant, you can still get her attention.

Now just go to work as normal and if you see her again, convince yourself you're Kenshiro from Fist of the North Star and you can knock down skyscrapers with your head, so asking a girl out for coffee is a piece of cake.

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Funny how blokes reckon all women find "confidence" attractive, when a lot of my (fit, I add) female friends usually mutter "what a ****" after some wide boy has tried chatting them up in the pub.

It's all subjective - different horses etc. You just have to go with an approach and hope that it's the right one for that person. ;)
 
PianoBasher said:
Funny how blokes reckon all women find "confidence" attractive, when a lot of my (fit, I add) female friends usually mutter "what a ****" after some wide boy has tried chatting them up in the pub.

It's all subjective - different horses etc. You just have to go with an approach and hope that it's the right one for that person. ;)
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Confidence =/ arrogance or cockiness. And certainly doesn't equate to obvious attempts to chat up, which most men are useless at and women have years of experience with in social gatherings like pubs/bars/clubs.

That kind of approach is a pure numbers game. It's like going to nightclubs and asking girls if they want to f*ck (cavemanning). It's been tested numerous times and about 1 or 2 out of 100 will say yes, you just have to deal with most of the others being shocked, outraged, disgusted or physically attacking you with a handbag.

Obviously you'll never be successful 100% of the time, which is why I said the whole game is more like fishing than deer-hunting, but projecting confidence and charisma is totally different to just sliming up to random girls and telling them they're fit.
 
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Somnambulist said:
Telling women you're shy or any kind of self-deprecation is a sure-fire way to erode any attraction they have for you, the exception being when you're clearly not shy and flirting with them, and using self put-downs when they're testing your reactions to see if you like to brag, e.g. "ooo that shirt looks expensive", "...yeah, Primani bbz!" Confidence is sexy to women, which is the whole point of not trying to make your approach over-elaborate or meek.
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Perhaps, but I've done alright this way :)
 
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