Mummy V Daddy

GJ02 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:05

Has any of you parents out there come across this ?
Your Son or Daughter seems to like mummy more than daddy or vise versa ?

As it happens at the mo he cant get enough of me, telling me im his best friend, asking me to show him Ken Block on utube, and sitting with me through benchmarking sessions.
But my wife is starting to get upset now because he wipes her kisses off, tells her that she isnt his best friend daddy is etc etc

Although its uber nice to hear him say im his best friend I sort of feel bad becuase he doesnt say it to his mummy.

he is 3 and i know it will be her turn next week / month and then change in another month

has this ever happened to any of the other mummy and daddys on here ?

kae2 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:06

Thought this was pretty much par for the course?

Ian_Eb · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:09

This happens to us all the time

I think initially it can be a pain, but now it is more amusing than anything. Especially as she can swing from mum to dad and back again in the course of an afternoon.

w3bbo · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:09

Happens all the time. They chop and change daily in our household.

GJ02 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:11

its been a month on my side so far since he started to cling / choose

Vonhelmet · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:12

Business as usual.

My 4 year old has gone through phases. These days she's less fussy, unless she's just been told off by one of us in which case she'll be all over the other!

My one year old seems to much prefer me. She always comes to find me when I get home. If she hurts herself and my wife picks her up she'll lunge towards me as soon as she sees me. No idea why. Sometimes she'll be held by me for half an hour at a time. She's a funny fish.

[FnG]magnolia · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:19

I think we all experience this so I wouldn't worry

LordSplodge · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:21

GJ02 said:
its been a month on my side so far since he started to cling / choose

Lay down some discipline. They'll go running back to mummy soon as the role of daddy has been applied.

Oh and lay to law down on the wife whilst your at it. Nobody likes a cry baby!

D.Roberts · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:25

Its normal.

[FnG]magnolia · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:27

LordSplodge said:
Lay down some discipline. They'll go running back to mummy soon as the role of daddy has been applied.

What do you mean by this? Your wife doesn't apply discipline? I'm curious, not having a go.

RickST · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:45

Not a parent, but I remember when i was little i used to be the same with my mum, used to make her do everything even if my dad offered. Just one of those things i think.

thedoc46 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:47

GJ02 said:
Has any of you parents out there come across this ?
Your Son or Daughter seems to like mummy more than daddy or vise versa ?

As it happens at the mo he cant get enough of me, telling me im his best friend, asking me to show him Ken Block on utube, and sitting with me through benchmarking sessions.
But my wife is starting to get upset now because he wipes her kisses off, tells her that she isnt his best friend daddy is etc etc

Although its uber nice to hear him say im his best friend I sort of feel bad becuase he doesnt say it to his mummy.

he is 3 and i know it will be her turn next week / month and then change in another month

has this ever happened to any of the other mummy and daddys on here ?

Tell her to be a better mum then !!!

Just kidding

Slam62 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:48

pirate said:
Your son is actually manipulating you.

yes and he will do it for most of the rest of his life in some way or another.

marcus_667 · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:52

i remember with my brother and sister and myself we used to be like that usually its the one who did least shouting or telling us off could vary from day to day id say its normal myself

Bloomfield · 2 Dec 2010 at 20:54

[FnG]magnolia;17918840 said:
What do you mean by this? Your wife doesn't apply discipline? I'm curious, not having a go.

I think he means that if just one person is disciplining the child, the child will always prefer the one that isn't as they'll appear more like a friend to them, rather than a parent.

So if he were to start disciplining the child he would start to prefer his "mummy" (i hate that word

).

Obviously they may already be sharing the disciplining, but if the mother is doing most/all of it currently, then what's happening is pretty likely to happen.

GJ02 · 2 Dec 2010 at 21:00

tbh, i do most of the telling him what to do, and giving him jobs to do ( tidy up, put stuff in the bin for me, clean his table )

its got nothing to do with discipline

Slime101 · 2 Dec 2010 at 21:04

Changes as the wind blows!! My daughter can love me one min and hate me the next (which is when mummy becomes favorite), it generally follows with interesting activities, being told off or made to tidy up or something like that.

LordSplodge · 2 Dec 2010 at 21:11

[FnG]magnolia;17918840 said:
What do you mean by this? Your wife doesn't apply discipline? I'm curious, not having a go.

It tends to be the male role model (I.e "daddy") that does most of the discipline whereas the female is the more caring.

Of course both parents should be applying discipline but it is my view that the bias should be on the male. I certainly laid down the law far more that Mrs. LordSplodge but then again in her words I am a little Victorian.

Did LordSplodge Jr. no harm. He does like his mum more than me but I like my mum more than my dad. I think that's the way with sons.

Hope that makes sense as I'm laid up with a cold...

nydryl · 2 Dec 2010 at 21:14

Happens all the time. My mum still gets annoyed when I go home and start kissing my dad.

Anewbe4u · 2 Dec 2010 at 21:23

At dinner today, my girl told me she didn't want any men in her family any more apart from her granddads, uncles and cousins......

So, basically just me out. Didn't let it get to me though. She also said I'm due a stabbing with a fork and some one has taught her "the I'm watching you" where she does a v with her fingers, points to her eyes then me. Basically. I'm being bullied.