Guilty Pleasures

Admiral Huddy · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:26

Is guilt a wasted emotion or not?

For a few years now, I've been wanting this new Home Cinema System I’ve been after but I hadn't the balls with younger children around the home plus we've been paying out for extension work which has left spare cash at a premium. As a result, a few things were left off our agenda last year but these needs to be sorted out sooner rather than later. However, last week, with the credit cards all flat I get this impromptu feeling to buy this new system I’ve been after which now sits proudly in the living room like the crown jewels of Lower Gonad St.

Then, quite unexpectedly, this guilt hit me hard as cricket bat to an Aussie ball. Did I really need this? No. Were there other things that we need? Yes. Are you an idiot? Totally.. I even thought about feeling it on or sending it back.. even a with small loss. I spoke to my wife about how I felt and she was cool with saying you are allowed to spoil yourself from time to time.

Stupid thing is before my youngest son came along (nearly 4 now) I would have never gave this a second though. I've even been feeling this way towards my PC stuff.. “New Graphics card? Nahh.. The one I have works fine”

So tell me, why the sudden change in behaviour? Have you ever felt like this? And why the Long face?

Nitefly · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:28

Come on, how much did it set you back?

AHarvey · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:29

Just getting old and the things that you know are important change

matt_fsr · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:29

Cost + Spec pls

We only want to drool.... and advise you that it was money well spent

Gilly · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:30

You've grown up Huddy, wonders will never cease

eatcustard · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:33

Middle age crisis?

but a good one to have

Tefal · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:35

Gilly said:
You've grown up Huddy, wonders will never cease

A couple more steps like this and he'll have mentally reached his shoe size!

Cosimo · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:37

So have you spent enough to warrant a divorce or is she just saving that up for after Christmas?

Mr-White · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:42

Somebody please think of the children :eek:

Seriously though if the wifes ok'd it then if it goes **** up she's now half to blame

MW

Dano · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:45

Bah, came here expecting another classic foot in mouth Huddy story, thread fails to deliver

I expected better from the Admiral

Phoenixdancer · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:47

I have been feeling like that... BUT i brush those feelings aside and carry on... then get shouted at by the missus

4T5 · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:47

Leave the kids in a Lay by & get rid of All your Guilt in one go, Plain sailing from then on.

Cosimo · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:49

FortyFive said:
Leave the kids in a Lay by & get rid of All your Guilt in one go, Plain sailing from then on.

.... and don't forget to leave the wife with them.

ScarySquirrel · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:53

I hope I get this one day, then maybe I'll stop spending money as soon as I get it!! (or in most cases, before I get it!)

Sp00n · 13 Dec 2010 at 14:56

Life's to short to concern yourself, as long as it doesn't land you in a serious financial situation then I don't think you need to feel guilty about it.

dannyjo22 · 13 Dec 2010 at 15:18

Admiral Huddy said:
So tell me, why the sudden change in behaviour? Have you ever felt like this? And why the Long face?

Yes it happens to me at all the time these days. Even if I do extra work to save money to buy something I feel guilty spending it on myself.

I got a new lems recently and it took me weeks of debate with myself whether I really needed it and what i could spend the money on instead. Despite my wife not caring and giving me the money herself to pay for it I just kept thinking of the awesome stuff I could buy my son instead with the money.

Then you get to thinking all the stuff I have will end up being his one day, the house and if we have any money etc. Might as well enjoy a bit of my own money for myself.

Admiral Huddy · 13 Dec 2010 at 15:29

Nitefly said:
Come on, how much did it set you back?

Not a great deal.. but would have paid for a new replacement back door we need.

eatcustard said:
Middle age crisis?

but a good one to have

I've had plenty of them with the motorbike and girlfriend.. And sometimes at the same time

Thinking back, maybe my guilt stems from falling off may ladder ans into the Christmas tree whilst installing the speaker cable. Damn fairy went up my backside !!

Tefal · 13 Dec 2010 at 15:35

Admiral Huddy said:
I've had plenty of them with the motorbike and girlfriend.. And sometimes at the same time

Does the wife know!?

TheDean · 13 Dec 2010 at 15:36

"Tickets please!"

Still laugh at that story

Knubje · 13 Dec 2010 at 15:47

I get that feeling these days Huddy. Since now owning a house and gaining responsibilities in life if I buy anything beyond marginally showy/extravagant I feel bad for thinking about it/spending the money.

I don't have kids yet, either! Too true about the old graphics card statement. If it works, no need to have the newest one, just wait til the current one dies, etc.

When I was younger I was a bit more reckless and carefree about wanting/buying stuff. Although I must say half the anticipation and preparation of getting something new is actually better than the item itself in most cases I've found.