Your grandma must have been smoking the crazy pipe because if all you ever say to people you know is good things then they're never going to learn from mistakes, and mistakes are always made, by everyone!
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Your grandma must have been smoking the crazy pipe because if all you ever say to people you know is good things then they're never going to learn from mistakes, and mistakes are always made, by everyone!
I think, (and am reading into things now) that what your being told shows in this quote.
If something "doesn't sound right" you correct them? If it doesn't sound right averge person would ask wtf are you on about? Rather than correct someone??
In the end if thats the kind of person you are (as you say) then people need to accept it or move along.
Directness or aggressiveness do not make you correct. I know a few people who think what they say is gospel, and it'd be an understatement to say that opinions on them are mixed. Some think they are 'right on', others think they are profoundly arrogant. Sooner or later, people get sick of the alienating timebomb in the corner going off and ****ing off their other mates. People like that are hard to deal with and rarely worth the bother.
Anyway, it's impossible to tell online if you are someone who simply doesn't mince their words or is actually an insufferable loud-mouth, but it's probably the latter if you are constantly offending others.
I think you mean if i did care i would still be able to post in motors. Not really like im missing out much, the only big threads at the moment is everyone jumping on someone who sold a decent car to buy a newer rubbish one. Same old **** different day
Good guess, but you are wrong.
The fact that you asked to be stopped from posting shows that you care about what you write and the opinions and reponse that follow it
sooner or later you are going to offend the kind of thin skinned knuckle dragging numpty with large friends, who nearly allways makes the headlines in the dailyfail.
before then you need to learn to count to ten & walk away, if that won't do it count to 50, but either way you need to learn that most important of all lifes skills, when to keep your piehole shut & say nothing.
Totally agree with this. I too struggle with keeping my mouth shut but I am getting better at it.
Whoever has hoodwinked people into this strange theory that being a tool is alright as long as you are being "real" is a tit.
People change over time for one reason or another and just sitting there accepting the person you currently are without any introspection is just stupid. I have seen plenty of people who don't get on with many people and they always live in a little dream world with a few other people who are similar to themselves. They feel like the rest of the world is wrong and they are right.
What you don't realise is that you are not always right, its just those other "idiots" couldn't care enough about you to even care. There will always be someone smarter than yourself around and as mentioned, the tables will be turned one day. Its usually a sign that you have a bit of an empty life if you have to try and correct people over irrelevant issues when you are just having a few drinks down the pub.
If people think you are obnoxious, then you probably are. You just havn't got to the stage where you look at yourself as the problem yet.
People change over time for one reason or another and just sitting there accepting the person you currently are without any introspection is just stupid. I have seen plenty of people who don't get on with many people and they always live in a little dream world with a few other people who are similar to themselves. They feel like the rest of the world is wrong and they are right.
What you don't realise is that you are not always right, its just those other "idiots" couldn't care enough about you to even care. There will always be someone smarter than yourself around and as mentioned, the tables will be turned one day. Its usually a sign that you have a bit of an empty life if you have to try and correct people over irrelevant issues when you are just having a few drinks down the pub.
If people think you are obnoxious, then you probably are. You just havn't got to the stage where you look at yourself as the problem yet.
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I used to be very much like this, but I think I've come a long way since.
One of my sayings used to be "Everyone is entitled to my opinion". One day a friend had a come back that has stuck: "Yes, but not everyone deserves it".
There are sometimes when you should just keep quiet. There are other times that you need to use a bit of tact. Being direct doesn't always work, because people become defensive and so your point is often lost on them.
One of my sayings used to be "Everyone is entitled to my opinion". One day a friend had a come back that has stuck: "Yes, but not everyone deserves it".
There are sometimes when you should just keep quiet. There are other times that you need to use a bit of tact. Being direct doesn't always work, because people become defensive and so your point is often lost on them.
By whom? If you're continually told by different people then you probably should try and do something about it. Many people will no doubt disagree with me, saying that you shouldn't change who you are, but I know people who constantly offend others without even realising it and they usually end up depressed and lonely. They also never admit they have a problem.
It's absolutely fine to correct people if you believe they are wrong. However, sometimes it's best to keep your opinions to yourself if you believe it will offend someone who shouldn't be offended.
People do things that are wrong day in and day out.
If you're the type who is always looking to correct people then, no matter your intentions and how you see it, people will start to see you as arrogant yes.
The trick is to know when it's worth correcting people and when it isn't.
I.e. Somebody is about to connect a gas tap to a butane bottle incorrectly.. step in, however if somebody gets the name of song wrong and you know it to be the case, just bite your tongue and don't bother. You don't end up looking arrogant, the mistake was tiny and inconsequential, and (if you wish) you can be a little happier with yourself that you knew the right answer and they didn't.
If you're the type who is always looking to correct people then, no matter your intentions and how you see it, people will start to see you as arrogant yes.
The trick is to know when it's worth correcting people and when it isn't.
I.e. Somebody is about to connect a gas tap to a butane bottle incorrectly.. step in, however if somebody gets the name of song wrong and you know it to be the case, just bite your tongue and don't bother. You don't end up looking arrogant, the mistake was tiny and inconsequential, and (if you wish) you can be a little happier with yourself that you knew the right answer and they didn't.
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Stop mixing with lefty liberals
and all will be well
Stop mixing with lefty liberals
and all will be well
I am good at analysing and using sterotypes because I am Dr. Phil.
Jeremy Kyle's the name; my decision is final.
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I disagree.
You are wrong.
Then how come you're always flappin yer lips?
I have a friend who is exactly the same, and is largely unaware. Yes, I have to tell you, tact is an important part of social interaction, and adds massively to charisma. Personalities like yours, while not your "fault" per se, are generally not charismatic. However, if you're not too fussed about being popular, then ignore it and continue regardless. I love my friend for it.
Exactly.