Am i being Homophobic?

arknor · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:17

Morlock said:
Poorly educated, semi-literate man is homophobic shocker.

my wife has some gay friends and they are all seedy people who only care about sex its disgusting how they go on, i wouldnt get showered naked around a gay person either.

Fenris · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:24

arknor said:
my wife has some gay friends and they are all seedy people who only care about sex its disgusting how they go on.

Yet she is friends with them, that either says something about you (most likely), or about your wife.

Deadbeat · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:31

arknor said:
my wife has some gay friends and they are all seedy people who only care about sex its disgusting how they go on, i wouldnt get showered naked around a gay person either.

I know some straight people who are really seedy and obsessed with sex, should I generalise about them too?

arknor · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:32

Fenris said:
Yet she is friends with them, that either says something about you (most likely), or about your wife.

says she grew up with a guy who turned out to be gay, he was her best friend for a along time before i knew her

I know some straight people who are really seedy and obsessed with sex, should I generalise about them too?

im not generalising ive heard all of the storys about what goes on in some of the clubs and ive seen pictures on this guys face book of gay holiday resorts

Fenris · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:34

arknor said:
says she grew up with a guy who turned out to be gay, he was her best friend for a along time before i knew her

So what exactly is your point? Your wife thinks her best friend is seedy and obsessed with sex? Or is he not her friend any more, in which case how would she, or you, be able to establish such an opinion?

Also, what makes you think gay people are worse than straights? I could tell you far more nasty stories about straight people than I could about gay people.

titaniumx3 · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:39

If it's ok for a gay to enter a mens shower room, it should be ok for a man to enter a womens shower room.

:mad:

^TANK^ · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:42

Fenris said:
Yet she is friends with them, that either says something about you (most likely), or about your wife.

arknor is straight and his wife likes men

This Side Up · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:43

I once saw a, very obvious, homosexual staring intently as I was showering after a gym session (many, MANY years ago, mind. Gym is the spawn of Satan dontchaknow!). Didn't bother me as I only noticed him when I turned around to leave the shower area and gave him a quick "Mornin'" to my new fan-club member.

The poor sod just stood there, staring. I asked him if he was "OK" and whether he "saw what he came to see" to sniggers from the other blokes around. He went bright red. Bless.

Mr^B · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:46

Yes, you are.

I wouldn't worry about it unduly, it's not as though you're in the minority.

RetiredGreyFox · 31 Jan 2011 at 19:55

I'm that confident with my sexuality that I've always been quite made up when a bloke comes on to me (and it has happened a lot).
I would quite happily walk in a shower full of gay men as long as they didn't laugh.

1LANCS · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:04

titaniumx3 said:
If it's ok for a gay to enter a mens shower room, it should be ok for a man to enter a womens shower room.

Yeah because changing rooms are segregated by sexual preference........oh wait.

Kazz · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:05

Clicks OP'S profile...

25? I could understand the post if you were 14.

Lol

Sorry, nothing more to add

hurfdurf · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:05

arknor said:
says she grew up with a guy who turned out to be gay, he was her best friend for a along time before i knew her
im not generalising ive heard all of the storys about what goes on in some of the clubs and ive seen pictures on this guys face book of gay holiday resorts

All gay men go on gay holidays to gay sex resorts, all of them, and you spend time looking at the pictures on facebook.

PapaLazaru · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:07

OP is scared of showing his penis to a homosexual man in case it turns him on a little.

Phog · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:09

I can't shower in public places because all the men thinking they're hiding their wang from me wearing something in the shower, when they're just pandering to my wet underwear fetish. Making me horny.

Someone please think of the children.

[FnG]magnolia · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:09

OP, the next time you're aroused by a gay man in the showers, just tell him it's yours and you'll wash it as fast as you like. That'll learn him.

Angilion · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:11

Craterloads said:
Is that a normal response

Yes.

or am I being homophobic?

No.

You're uneasy about being naked in front of strangers if there's any possibility of any sexual context. It's normal for your culture. It's not the same thing as being scared of homosexuality (and being scared of homosexuality isn't the same thing as being irrationally prejudiced against homosexuality).

Personally, I don't care. If someone gets a thrill from looking at me, no problem. I'm not harmed by them looking. In this culture at this time, I'm the one who is abnormal, not you.

Castiel · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:11

Craterloads said:
Long story short, back at gym this morning after a long while. Finished workout went back to changing rooms to get a shower and get changed. Anyhow there was a gay dude also getting changed after a workout (I know he's gay as I’ve seen him about before) which made me a little uncomfortable. In the end I decided to keep on my boxers and have a shower as I didn’t want this guy looking at me naked.

Yes I know every gay guy doesn’t want to "bum" me (or any other guys in general) but neither do I fancy every girl i see but that doesn’t make it ok for me to go sit in the women’s changing rooms..

And on a other note I remember watching big brother ages ago with that transsexual Nadia. Other BB female housemates felt uncomfortable with her/him as well whilst in the bathroom as at the end of the day she/he still had a penis. Even if she had the penis removed (lol) I still would fine it uncomfortable.

Personally I wouldn’t want to be in the company of gay/transsexual people whilst getting changed, using the toilet etc.

Is that a normal response or am I being homophobic?

No it is not homophobic, you feel uncomfortable is all. Frankly I don't like showering in front of strangers full stop whatever sex or orientation they are.

If the chap was offended then he is being silly.

Craterloads · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:12

Just to mix this up a bit for those who think its ok to shower with gay men.

Would you also be OK with transexual men showering with your wives, daughters or your sisters?

hurfdurf · 31 Jan 2011 at 20:16

Once again homophobia because of a fear of being raped or of ones own repressed desires strikes again. Learn to stand and bang, it will give you the confidence to repel off any would be bum rapist and if its because you are secretly wanting some man love, just accept it.