FAO married people

Rings 2k
Dress 1k
Suits £500
Ceremony and Reception 6k
Evening Meal 15k
Honeymoon 4k

Fortunately we got about 15k back in gifts. Baby is due in 2 weeks :)
 
cm1179 said:
how much did the wedding cost?
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Wedding ?

About £180

Las vegas Baby !

Full costs

Flights: £1400 for both of us.
Hotel: can't remember the total but take your pick from £30 a night to £200
Rings: about £500 for the pair.
Photographer: included with the £180 wedding package
Clothes: i wore my interview suit, wife bought a dress from debenhams in the sale for £50. Just a nice summery dress, in cream.
that was it !

We doubled the trip up as our honeymoon and wedding in one. Why did we do it ?

Well your wedding day won't become about your special day. It will become your parents special day, and your friends and family's special day. You will be constanting having them give you "input" as to what they would like, choice of venue, choice of colours, choice of food etc..

You end up being dictated so much its no longer about you want, its about what everybody else wants. And on the day, you end up spending that much time hob nobbing with friends and family and guests you spend hardly any time together as a couple. Its spent with everybody else.

Screw everybody else, go abroad, have the wedding YOU want away from everybody else and let them watch it on the internet. If they want to come with you, fine but you can pay for flights (this sorts out who really wants to see you get married and who wants to attend a free lunch paid for by you)

yes its heartless and selfish, but by god it was the best day of our lives, so much more stress free and enjoyable than a normal wedding, and 1/10th of the price some people pay !
 
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Ours was pretty expensive but we did have the wedding in the UK and then a ceremony in NZ. I think it's easy to spend far, far too much on weddings these days; I remember reading one of the wedding mags and it was just obscene.
 
[TW]Fox;18466396 said:
At the moment I have this idea I'd rather spend as little as possible on the wedding and spend the entire saving on the honeymoon.

Because the perfect DAY followed by 2 weeks in Spain sucks compared to a nice day followed by a 2 month tour of the world. I think the latter offers the better memory.

I'm sure the flaws will present themselve soon enough :(
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See my post above about getting married in Vegas, Do it !!

Go to Vegas, spend that £20k you would have spent on a wedding on a week in vegas and have the time of your ****ing lives. If you have parents that really want to be there, then maybe pay for their flights. But i've lost my mother to cancer and my father to an evil step mother who only wants him for his money. My wife has lost her mother to a heart attack so it didn't really apply to us.

Can't recommend it enough.

People struggle with their parents ideas of what a wedding should be. It should be in a church, with a nice reception afterwards, and food and drink for everybody, and lots of people, and the bride should wear white, and everybody you care for and like should be there etc...

At your expense.

Think about it though, why ? why does it have to be that way ? Who is this day actually about. Its YOUR wedding day, why the hell can't you be selfish and have what YOU want on YOUR wedding day. Its your day, not everybody else's. Do what YOU want.
 
My view was that we could go on an amazing holiday at any time, the honeymoon was brilliant but easily repeated at other points in the future. It was more important for us to spend the few days with the people who have been there and supported us through our entire lives. I would not ever consider coming out the other side of a wedding in massive debt, but for us the expense was more than worth it and I have no regrets.
 
[TW]Fox;18466904 said:
Err I think I'd want more than a week in Vegas for £20k :p
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1 week in vegas, and spend the other £15k on gambling ? :D ? no ? :D

Well ok, do a week in vegas, followed by 1 week somewhere else, then another week somewhere else etc..

Do that 2 month round the world tour.

**** everybody else. Its your day.

We actually planned a wedding in the UK. We booked a photographer (rG-Tom actually), we booked a nice venue to have the reception, we booked food and flowers, and everything.

Then the criticism started, lots of people felt they should be invted we didn't really want to spend £100 a head on a wedding breakfast for, and people weren't happy with only being invited to the £40 a head evening buffet. And then family were critical of the venue, and then people were critizing that i wasn't hearing a proper suit with tops and tails and the full shebang and then people started arguing about who sat where and who sat on the top table and it just descended into chaos.

So we just cancelled the lot. Lost about £500s worth of deposits, but the wedding cost was into 5 figures, and that was without a honeymoon. We were going to be getting ourselves seriously into debt for it. So yes we lost £500, but that was nothing compared to the 5 figure debt we were looking at getting into.

So we thought, **** it, and got married abroad for what you see 1 page back. Can't recommend it enough.
 
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about £2k four years ago, wifes family couldnt make it so we didnt want a big event just ended up with my close relatives.

My brother had a big expensive wedding then split up less than a year later, they had been together 10years.
 
5k including honeymoon. We decided we weren't going to spend silly money, as there were better and more useful things money could be spent on.
 
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cm1179 said:
just need a bit of info to tell my friend that he's nuts if he thinks he can get married for less than a grand, i can only assume (and hope) he's winding me up

i thought the average marriage these days was circa 20k
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You can get married for about £100 - the cost of legally registering the wedding.

You can spend any amount you like on clothes, food, drinks, vehicles, renting a building, musicians, etc, etc, but none of that is actually a wedding. It's optional extras on top, stuff that you could do at any time without a wedding.
 
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