FAO married people

I think our wedding was about £4k all in. We're saving for our own place so decided to skimp on it, in hindsight there's lots we would have done differently so thinking about throwing a big 10 year anniversary for all our friends to make up for our lameness.
 
Todge said:
I honestly feel for you that you had that kind of experience.

*snip*

If my family had caused issues similar to what you describe then we would have probably done something similar. Fortunately it didn't even cross their minds.
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Thing is i'm not alone.

Watch any of the wedding related reality TV that's about and you'll see this is repeated all over the country.

But people just accept it because of their preconceived ideas as to what a wedding should be. Doing it any different, ie without huge amounts of friends and family and with a big lavish ceremony is often seen as something to be ashamed of.

Not in the 21st century its not.

You sound like you had it lucky. Very few can hold a reception for a large ammount of people and have 2 families and have no arguments over seating arrangements at least.
 
MrLOL said:
Watch any of the wedding related reality TV
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I've tried, I cant, they are all appalling people lol.

MrLOL said:
You sound like you had it lucky. Very few can hold a reception for a large ammount of people and have 2 families and have no arguments over seating arrangements at least.
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And yes I think we probably were lucky. I don't think we realised it at the time. We are also fortunate that both families get on very well and are mostly very jolly happy people who are all quite close and so seating was really easy.

Honest to god the biggest issue we had was when I told the wife I wanted Chocolate Brown suits for me and the lads. This didn't fit with her grand plan! Fortunately once she saw them she understood and all was well with the world.

KNiVES said:
Instead it's on a ceremony that stresses the hell out of both families and is a massive strain mentally, physically and financially.

Madness.
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Not for us it wasn't. Couldn't have been further from that.

How many people that don't have a big wedding will go and spend £50k on a brand new car on HP or a loan? that for me is madness. How many people spend thousands of pounds every year following a football team across the continent every year. Again, this baffles me. How many people in this very thread spend 500-1000 a year upgrading the PC to play Solitaire at 3000fps?

To say that you get nothing from it, in my opinion having spent the money and having had the day, couldn't be more wrong.

It's all dependant on the couple really.
 
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Mint_Sauce said:
to make up for our lameness.
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This saddens me that you think you didn't have a proper wedding because you didn't spend 15k+.
Every day on these forums people laugh at scams but the wedding scam is the biggest of all.
You are made to feel inferior if you haven't spent X amount on stuff - what a crock.
My 22 year old work colleague is getting married this year so I have to listen to about 10 women chatting about it - that's fair enough but when I hear the prices for the most stupidest of things I have to reach fo ranother heart tablet.
I'm pretty sure my daughters have got the same thoughts as me on weddings and they will do theirs as cheap as possible.
 
[TW]Fox;18466396 said:
At the moment I have this idea I'd rather spend as little as possible on the wedding and spend the entire saving on the honeymoon.

Because the perfect DAY followed by 2 weeks in Spain sucks compared to a nice day followed by a 2 month tour of the world. I think the latter offers the better memory.

I'm sure the flaws will present themselve soon enough :(
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Dude she will have been planning this her entire life assuming you become hubby no. 1. Rules 1 to 100, its all about her. Ask her, maybe she would be up for that or maybe she would want a massive wedding.

We spent 3 to 4k in total, dress, rings, honeymoon etc 9 years ago. Your wedding is to be the first of many wise investments in your marriage not the last so make sure it can be bettered.
 
We're just in the process of booking all our wedding stuff.
Including the honeymoon our budget is £16000 give or take a little.

This includes 60 guests for the Ceremony and Wedding Breakfast and 150+ guests for the night time party.
Also 2 weeks in Mexico at the same hotel where I proposed.
 
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All in with wedding in St Lucia for 10 days
Ring
Dress
Suit
Reception when we got back

Approx 8k all in, be a year in May :)
 
Havent added it all together but I think it was around 30k including honeymoon.
The missus has a spreadsheet I could dig out if you are after specifics.
 
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cm1179 said:
just need a bit of info to tell my friend that he's nuts if he thinks he can get married for less than a grand, i can only assume (and hope) he's winding me up

i thought the average marriage these days was circa 20k
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I'd imagine it's entirely possible. We spent around £1100 on the day and night (30 guests) and £300ish on dress/ hire suits.

It's not about how much you spend, it's about what the person you're marrying means to you, and you can't put a price on that.
 
We spent around 10k on our wedding (2006). We found that most places inflated their prices dramatically for weddings. Try ringing a venue to book a private function and the call back another day and ask for a price for a wedding reception.
 
My first wedding cost little over 4k but it cost me just over 25k to get rid 8 years later..:(

My current wedding was around 10k and was perfect and we are still going strong...:D
 
oneilldo said:
Havent added it all together but I think it was around 30k including honeymoon.
The missus has a spreadsheet I could dig out if you are after specifics.
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Christ on a bike.
My first house cost £6,000 and my second house £14,000.
26 years I've lived in my 2nd house and your 1 day cost more than double that.
You must get the most amazing sex EVER - FOR LIFE.
 
dmpoole said:
Christ on a bike.
My first house cost £6,000 and my second house £14,000.
26 years I've lived in my 2nd house and your 1 day cost more than double that.
You must get the most amazing sex EVER - FOR LIFE.
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You live in Stoke. House prices aren't much higher now :p
 
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