Going to lose my Dad soon

Sorry to hear, lost my grandad to cancer last year only 8 weeks from diagnosis to passing away and in a way i'm glad he didnt suffer any longer. It had spread by the time they found it so treatment wasn't guarenteed to work. Turns your world upside down just do as much as you can to help him!
 
Thank you so much for the kind reply's everyone.
Me and the missus have just come away from seeing him, he seems happy enough in himself, little or no pain at the moment due to the drugs.
Stuffing his face with grapes watching the England match.
 
Sorry to hear this mate
Keep you head up and make sure your dad knows how much you love him.
Lost my dad 3 years ago, would do anything to tell him I love him again.

As for your brother, you need to have a word and tell him to drop it
 
Really sorry to hear that mate.

Tell your bother if he hasn't got anything to say about your situation other than what he can get out of to it to bugger off. Not what you need now.
 
brucey034 said:
Just got off the phone to my brother, he was asking about dads car ie how much is it worth etc, he want's to get it sold already. :rolleyes:
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I would try to ignore any anger your brother causes you at the moment.

Obviously spend as much time with him as you can and tell him how much you love him. I just read/sent my fathers Eulogy (he died almost a year and a half ago) as ancient colleagues/friends often try to make contact with him so I have to pass the bad news. Reading it always makes me smile and he is missed dearly.

Does your father have anybody else he can appoint as executors to his estate with you and your brother as beneficiaries as then it's not on the pair of you to deal with his will which can be stressful and very time consuming. I know it's not what you want to be thinking about but taking it out of your brothers control is a little 'one up' for you.

All the best.
 
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Sorry mate :(
Try to keep things with your brother friendly as you dont want to break up your family any further.
As said, it does help to be practical and can be a way of overcoming grief.
 
All the best buddy, stay strong... I can tell you are a good, genuine guy else you wouldnt have said the things you did, thinking of his care and needs first.
 
Vegetarian said:
I lost my mum to liver cancer last year and I know how you feel. She started to feel ill just before my wedding and once we came back from honeymoon I found she was so ill she could not walk. She was diagnosed with liver cancer and given 8 weeks. She died 8 weeks later.

Spend as much time with your dad as possible. You will be worrying about what you can do for him etc but all he needs is you. I'll be honest, with liver cancer... he will soon enter a coma stage as liver wont be able to filter the blood of toxins. Keep telling him you love him and talk about happy times together in the past.

If you need to talk just my email is in my trust.
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you are a star thankyou, thankyou to everyone.
My thoughts are with everyone who has had to go through this and who is going through this.
I get really upset when I talk to dad about the happy times.
The hospital is not really keeping us informed, can only assume they are waiting on some of the scans before they know life expectancy etc.
 
Not really any advice, but my family is currently going through problems with lawyers and stuff that is slowly turning into a brother sister feud from a grandparent that passed away last year.

Worse still, my dad was recently diagnosed with cancer that less than 10% of people diagnosed live past 5 years, still waiting for test results and stuff but it doesnt sound good.

Its a terrible situation, but I hope you stay strong and get through it.
 
brucey034 said:
My dad has been in a lot of pain since Christmas, the doctor has done numerous tests but was unable to locate the problem.
My dad collapsed on Friday while he was at home, luckily I was there at his house.
We have been told by the hospital that my Dad has lung,liver and bone cancer.
It's only been four years since we lost my Mum.
Where do you start ? my dads home is rented and it's full of stuff, a lot of it sentimental.
My younger brother and his wife travelled down too see dad which was nice or so I thought.
They are making noises about who is having what etc, they have even sorted what they want to do with my dads television.
Unreal just crazy, my concern is my dad, and making sure he has the best care possible for the short time he has left.
It had not even entered my head about the financial stuff etc.
My dad does'nt really have any money, just an old car and usual household stuff.
He hasn't done a will and I know that has to be done.
Numb is probably the best way to describe how im feeling.
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Not a nice thing to read mate. Sorry to hear. :(
 
Shame on your brother.

^TANK^ said:
Thats an insane amount of bad news to take in all at once, even more so for your dad :(. Just spend as much time as possible with him and try to forget about the selfishness of others at this time.
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Sums up my thoughts, hopfully you can spend some good quality time together.
 
slambo69 said:
Not really any advice, but my family is currently going through problems with lawyers and stuff that is slowly turning into a brother sister feud from a grandparent that passed away last year.

Worse still, my dad was recently diagnosed with cancer that less than 10% of people diagnosed live past 5 years, still waiting for test results and stuff but it doesnt sound good.

Its a terrible situation, but I hope you stay strong and get through it.
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I hope your dad will be ok.
I need my dad to draw up a will while he is still coherent.
I would rather he gives the very little he has to charity.
Just bringing up the subject of a will with him is gonna be so hard.
He keeps talking about when he gets home.
 
Thanks, my dad had a heart scare a few years back and drew up a will then.

Hopefully you can say it in a way that doesnt sound too depressing, which will be hard because it will probably hit someone pretty hard.

Hmmm, what a depressing thread. :(
 
Monserrat said:
There's not much else I can add than is already said. I hope that you can spend as much time with your dad as possible and I hope your bro does too. Is it just you 2 as descendants? Any more siblings that you can discuss your bro's selfishness with?
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Only me and my bro, he is three years younger than me.
 
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