Personally I'd go for the NZXT Phantom in white these days.
I Would stick to the black one, but thats just me
"nil wife acceptance factor"?
Whipped much? Just slap her upside the head and get her to bring a sammich - she won't see the "puter thingy" from the kitchen where she's supposed to be anyway.
Seriously, I guess I've been fortunate in never having a relationship in which my partner was bothered with computer cases. And to be honest, given the majority of designs these days, I think the gaming case market is focused on people who don't have co-habiting partners to worry about.
Have you seen the white one in the "flesh"? It's surprisingly stunning. There's a few things I'd do to it personally (like actually paint the areas behind the mesh areas black so it actually looks black, not murky grey) but I was very surprised just how great it looks.
The limited edition white and red one is a bit grim though - nice red fans, but the red stripe is more pink and out of place.