Is it just me

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Or are we becoming more miserable/insular as a society.

Im a nosey/curious soul so will happily gab to anyone given half the chance, but nipped out for hours and hardly anyone spoke, just went about pretending everyone else isn't there.

I just think it's a shame people feel the need to be like this.
 
We all lead busy lives. Far too many people around and not enough time to be gabbing to everyone!

Though I never have a problem starting a conversation with someone. Are you even trying?
 
Hah actually im not far from lands end :D

Surius, i suppose so many people wrapped up in their own little world.

Just strikes me as a tad ignorant.

This isn't a sulk btw!!!
 
I have to admit that I'm a little like that myself. I dont go out of my way to be rude to people or anything, but I dont like it when strangers talk to me on the street or on a bus/train/whatever. Prefer to be left alone.
 
Nothing has changed, everyone is busy and running around and never stops to talk. But we all stop to talk to neighbours. Someone must be leading a very lonely existence.
 
I think this is area dependent as much as anything. I'm from a small Lancashire town and it's normal to say good morning, have a chat etc to people you come across, who you don't know; shop keepers, people at the bus stop, people you cross on the street, whatever.

It was a massive culture shock when I first went to London (for example). Everyone just bangs into you, pushing their way down the streets etc. I spent the first three hours saying 'pardon me, excuse me, very sorry, after you'... then I realised I wasn't really getting anywhere as nobody reciprocated and I was just getting bashed around like a ping pong ball. :o :p

I think it's rude and impersonal, lacking in manners. But I also realise it's a sub-cultural thing, and that in a big city (for example) the things I consider daily common courtesies just wouldn't work out on such a big scale. :p
 
Sm, i'll leave you think about that one ;) :D

Rainmaker, yeah i think that's partly what it is. Cornwall being the tourist hub that it is, we get all sorts coming down so it goes mental from april to around october, after that the grey rinse brigade takes over.

I can understand some not wanting to talk, but some folk really do need an attitude adjustment imo :)

I think it's also that down here people have always talked to each other, nowadays it's the total opposite.
 
Hux - you live in Cornwall!

Normally there aren't many of you about so you have time and energy to be friendly and chatty. I'll bet you that all those insular people today were holidaymakers OR locals already battening down the hatches against the swarm of tourists descending on Cornwall 'cos the weather's nice...
 
Unless it's going to be an interesting conversation I don't like talking to people I don't know or for no reason at all.

I don't feel the need to be like this, it's just how I am.
 
Dino, yeah i know us true cornish are a dieing breed. :(

'Cornish born, cornish bred, strong in the arm thick in the head' :p

I think also im used to a slower pace of life, haven't spent a lot of time in big cities but i can imagine now nuts it must be by comparison.
 
That is another aspect of it. I lived in Southport for years, which is likewise a seaside/holiday resort. As you said, we did 'batten the hatches' ready for the influx of tourists lol However that didn't negate common courtesy.

As hux says, there's a difference between not fancying a chat and being plain rude. The amount of times you see an old person trying to strike up a chat over the veggies in the supermarket, for example, only to be given a strange look and ignored, is astounding.

That could have been the only engagement with another person they managed that week, it's awful to just snub them. I always make sure I have a right good chinwag even if I am stressed or in a rush, for that very reason. But like I said that's probably down to my small-town northern upbringing. :D
 
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