Am I crazy to want more?

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Now I'm sure many readers of this post will probably be thinking WTF is he whining on about and they are most probably right.

I appreciate that I have attained many of life's goals that most people strive desperately to attain throughout their life - I'm self employed, reasonably sucessful, have a relatively secure income, nice 4 bed det home in a good area, no mortgage, debts or other financial issues, I run 3 cars icluding a sports car, been to university and enjoy a very reasonable standard of living together with my lovely and attractive long term 26 year old partner of 8 years who is around half my age and we have what could be described as an ideal relationship or as near as it's possible to get in any relationship.

Effectively I realise I have what most guys would be more than content with... so why do I always have this restless feeling at the back of my mind that there is more to life?
I'm certainly not going through a mid life crisis as I have always had these feelings ever since I first left school and went self employed and I'm not really in search of or place too much importance on accumulating more money/wealth or material things though of course they do help - I just miss that buzz and excitement one gets when stepping out into the unknown in a new phase in one's life where everything isn't guaranteed or so predictable and relatively secure.

I've always worked hard and been Mr' Responsible and I doubt that side of me would change but I have this yearning that I want to drop everything, perhaps later this year and start out all over again and do something completely different which is completely out of my comfort zone - not because I'm remotely unhappy with any part of my present life or work, but simply for the challenge of facing something new and uncharted for me.
My partner is fully supportive and understanding and I could afford to take time out for at least 2 or 3 years and still not have to work and although I could never see myself compromising my long tern security, I would like more challenge and calculated risk to my life

The question is:
Am I alone in thinking like this or more to the point, am I crazy to want more from life at this stage of life or should I simply settle for and appreciate what I already have and grow old gracefully if somewhat predictably and without hassle?
 
Take up MMA/BJJ/Thai boxing. I always feel like there's more so I came up with two solutions.
A) Become a serial killer - this had lots of Pros but also some really bad Cons.
B) Start fighting as I said take up MMA/BJJ/Thai boxing.
 
Midlife crisis tbh

Take up an extreme hobby or something else that will give you the excitement your yearning for start a new venture if you want a challenge pref something out of your field of expertise that way it will involve developing new skills and hold more of a challenge
 
So you can afford to take 2-3 years out but don't want to compromise long term security?

Why not take just 1 year out, sell one of your cars if needs be, and do something interesting, go travelling or something, get it out of your system before it's too late.
 
success can me measured in many different ways

if you feel that way then you obviously have some desires or goals that are not being met

sounds like you need a challenge in your life
 
I suppose im in a similar position as in mortgage free and secure ,we are at the crossroads now and are saving for the next move ,maybe just an area and job move or maybe rent our house and have a few years on a greek island,who knows but i know the feeling
 
I think by the sounds of things you're now set in your way. You feel like every day you wake up and do the same daily routine over and over again. As you've stated you do live a comfortable lifestyle and run a successful career/business and that you've been with your partner for a long time.

You sound like someone who wants new challenges whether these be career challenges or a personal challenge. As you're self employed perhaps, if money permits and you're willing to take a risk, you could start on a small business. That for one should be a fairly big challenge. If you're not looking in the direction of a career challenge maybe look closer to home. I noticed when reading you said you lived in a 4 bedroomed house but didn't mention any children. Not been there myself yet but pretty sure you could ask most parents and they will say bringing a child up is a huge challenge.

You could also look at challenges that suit your personality. Such as sports. Try out some new sports or maybe a sport you'd like to get better at.

Choose a challenge that you feel suits your lifestyle and personality. Something that you'd enjoy doing and something that you can keep challenging yourself with.
 
Combat squirrel said:
I think u shud b happy, you've got it made. Do u have kids? Maybe that's what's missing
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My kids are grown now - I lost my wife prematurely many years ago and my partner is of the same thinking as myself that we don't want any.

I agree, that for most people I have it made but I've always had this thing about wanting something more from life but it's not really material wealth... I sometimes just wish I could settle for what I have but I simply can't! There isn't anything about my present lifestyle that is wrong or makes me even remotely unhappy...I just enjoy more of a challenge to life!
 
Sounds like a midlife crisis of sorts to me. You need to have some excitement or a challenge in your life. Take up climbing, race cars or something similar. Adopt some kids that will give you what you are missing.
 
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