Poll: Is it ever okay to 'cheat'?

Is it OK to be involved in "cheating"? (Scenario inside)

  • 1. It's absolutely fine to sleep with her. The 'morality' has absolutely nothing to do with me.

    Votes: 26 8.1%

  • 2. What I'm doing is a little wrong, but it's not really my problem so it's okay to sleep with her.

    Votes: 79 24.6%

  • 3. I'll do anything that moves. Situation doesn't come into it.

    Votes: 21 6.5%

  • 4. I'm not totally to blame, but I wouldn't do it as I feel I'm facilitating an immoral act.

    Votes: 60 18.7%

  • 5. I wouldn't sleep with her. I'd be just as guilty as she is.

    Votes: 135 42.1%
  • Total voters
    321
KaHn said:
Revenge, you sound very bitter about something, wife done the dirty on you?

KaHn
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I think you are beginning to be overly critical. I imagine most men would want to beat seven shades of crap out of someone they found had been sleeping with their wife in full knowledge of the situation, including me. Hell yes I'd want revenge.
 
arknor said:
no as i said we still live together... shes all yours if you want her
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You sure she didn't and you just don't know? But thanks for the offer dude but with all the travelling I'm doing at the moment wouldn't be worth it.

KaHn

Edit:- that's with any gf at the moment not just your ex arknor
 
I've been in this situation before and I slept with and saw the woman for some months, I would do it again too.
 
arknor said:
just spread word they abused a 15year old , get their life destroyed like they did yours :D

i would find out where they live and work which is very easy in the digital age and spread a few nonce rumours.

love to see the face of some people in this thread who would happily sleep with a married woman and blame her for it all as they turn up for work and find spomeone has plastered hes a nonse all over the doors/carpark
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Wow, such maturity. I'd reply with a simple; "still bitter that I slept with your wife?" remark.

Spreading rumours about people abusing a 15 year old is only believable when a 15 year old actually says it...

What's next, going to rape their pets?
 
Nitefly said:
I think you are beginning to be overly critical. I imagine most men would want to beat seven shades of crap out of someone they found had been sleeping with their wife in full knowledge of the situation, including me. Hell yes I'd want revenge.
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people on here post as if they would be doing you a favour... maybe they want expect some kind of reward
 
You should tell her not to do such thing and work it out with her husband, you should make sure you do not go ahead of it, because if you are a guy and you are in a relationship in the future it may happen to you.

So try to avoid it as her husband is just the same as yourself.
 
I think I'd probably be a number 4 in the long run but a number 2 on a night out.

I wouldn't be able to avoid thinking about how crap it would be if you were in the other guys shoes.
 
Nix said:
Okay, to jump on that GL - what's changed?
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I'm going to sound like a right old man for saying this but err..'life' has.

What I mean is as above. Started off with lots of morals, and having been cheated on when I was 17 I vowed never to do it myself to anybody. But the more stories you hear, the more your friends/co workers/colleagues do stuff, and as time goes by you yourself do stuff as well. There just isn't enough moral behaviour out there for 1 and 2 to be nothing more than values on paper if that makes any sense. So..can't beat 'em, join 'em.

Could also be the location as well which has a big part in this. Northerners, compared to Southerners live for a few beers on the weekend, where as we know things like this happen.
 
No I think it would be out of order. Wouldn't get involved with a girl in a relationship - or at least I would tell her to end it first.
 
Would entirely depend on my knowledge of the strength of their relationship.

If they've been married a long time and have kids, then I think it's a no no and don't even go their. It's one thing being a part of a relationship break up but being part of a family break up is a whole different ball game.

If it's a case of you've met her, shes in a bad marriage no kids and kind of wants out to be with you, then I think it's ok but any knowledge of it could damage her divorce settlement bla bla bla.

In conclusion, there's way too many variables in each individual situation to give an out and out answer.
 
Nix said:
Mods, can we have a poll please? Sans pancake.

Inspired in part from the other thread and a debate we've had a couple of times, I thought it would be interesting to branch off and have it as a discussion in its own right.

Scenario:

You're single. She's married. You do not know how strong the marriage is or any other variable regarding it, nor who the husband is. She's propositioned you. Is it okay to cheat?

1. It's absolutely fine to sleep with her. The 'morality' has absolutely nothing to do with me.

2. I accept what I'm doing is a little wrong, but it's not really my problem so it's okay to sleep with her.

3. I'll do anything that moves. Situation doesn't come into it.

4. I'm not totally to blame, but I wouldn't sleep with her as I feel I'm helping to facilitate an immoral act.

5. I wouldn't ever sleep with her. I'd be just as guilty as she is.

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Another point for discussion: does your position change regarding the seriousness of the relationship?

e.g.

Is it okay to 'cheat' if it's a fresh relationship? Does it make a difference if it's long-term, they're married or if children are involved?
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1st This is a disgrace a ocuk poll without pancake.

2nd if you are single who are you cheating on?

You have made no promises of fidelity to anyone.
 
J-FRO said:
Would entirely depend on my knowledge of the strength of their relationship.

If they've been married a long time and have kids, then I think it's a no no and don't even go their. It's one thing being a part of a relationship break up but being part of a family break up is a whole different ball game.

If it's a case of you've met her, shes in a bad marriage no kids and kind of wants out to be with you, then I think it's ok but any knowledge of it could damage her divorce settlement bla bla bla.

In conclusion, there's way too many variables in each individual situation to give an out and out answer.
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wtf? sounds like your more worried about her divorce settlement than thr poor bloke whos beeing cheated on :S

if it were a bad marriage she would be out of it right away not patiently waiting for something better to come along
2nd if you are single who are you cheating on?
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it takes two to cheat, if your doing it knowingly with a person already in a relationship then imo you are part of the cheating
 
Nix said:
You're single. She's married. You do not know how strong the marriage is or any other variable regarding it, nor who the husband is. She's propositioned you. Is it okay to cheat?
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You're not cheating; she is.
 
Having been there before - it would be hypocritical of me to say no I'd never do it, but it does depend on how much I know... I wouldn't actively go out of my way to do it, in fact I wouldn't chase for it at all.

Hmm tough call.
 
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