Yet another Cancer thread.
My mum had breast cancer 6 years ago which she managed to overcome and was fine for 5 years, then she was told that the cancer had come back in her bones. The secondary bone cancer was uncurable but was manageable and we were hoping that she would be around for a good few years to come. Over the last few months she has became very tired and dizzy, she went into hospital a couple of weeks ago to try and find the source of the dizziness. Last week we had the terrible news that the cancer had spread to the lining of her brain and that she only has months left to live. The speed at which she has went downhill is scary, only a month ago she was out shopping with us and feeling fine, this week she can barely get out of her hospital bed and is frequently very confused and very tired.
I have come to terms with it over the past couple of days but still occasionally have to fight back the tears. Overall feeling of numbness is the best way to describe it.
This couldn't have come at a worst possible time, for the past 2 years I've been training towards validation as an Air Traffic Controller at Aberdeen Airport, living 130 miles away from my mum. I applied for a compassionate transfer last year when my mum was diagnosed with the bone cancer but it was refused. In March this year I failed my validation training at Aberdeen. A few weeks ago I had an interview with HR to discuss my future options, they agreed that there had been some major issues with my training at Aberdeen and that worrying about my mother probably hadn't helped so I've been given another shot at Edinburgh.
It was hoped that my mother was going to be able to come home with a care package set up at home, but I'm not so sure now. She has good days and bad days and is still getting used to the steroids that they are giving her. I'm hoping that she is going to get better before she gets worse. Her one wish was to see me settled in a job and house with my wife and 3 kids. It's not looking like she is going to see it tbh. I start at Edinburgh Airport in 3 weeks and part of me is excited as it is where I always wanted to be but part of me is worried that I won't be able to concentrate on the training through worry.
Sorry to be all doom and gloom, just needed to get it off my chest.
My mum had breast cancer 6 years ago which she managed to overcome and was fine for 5 years, then she was told that the cancer had come back in her bones. The secondary bone cancer was uncurable but was manageable and we were hoping that she would be around for a good few years to come. Over the last few months she has became very tired and dizzy, she went into hospital a couple of weeks ago to try and find the source of the dizziness. Last week we had the terrible news that the cancer had spread to the lining of her brain and that she only has months left to live. The speed at which she has went downhill is scary, only a month ago she was out shopping with us and feeling fine, this week she can barely get out of her hospital bed and is frequently very confused and very tired.
I have come to terms with it over the past couple of days but still occasionally have to fight back the tears. Overall feeling of numbness is the best way to describe it.
This couldn't have come at a worst possible time, for the past 2 years I've been training towards validation as an Air Traffic Controller at Aberdeen Airport, living 130 miles away from my mum. I applied for a compassionate transfer last year when my mum was diagnosed with the bone cancer but it was refused. In March this year I failed my validation training at Aberdeen. A few weeks ago I had an interview with HR to discuss my future options, they agreed that there had been some major issues with my training at Aberdeen and that worrying about my mother probably hadn't helped so I've been given another shot at Edinburgh.
It was hoped that my mother was going to be able to come home with a care package set up at home, but I'm not so sure now. She has good days and bad days and is still getting used to the steroids that they are giving her. I'm hoping that she is going to get better before she gets worse. Her one wish was to see me settled in a job and house with my wife and 3 kids. It's not looking like she is going to see it tbh. I start at Edinburgh Airport in 3 weeks and part of me is excited as it is where I always wanted to be but part of me is worried that I won't be able to concentrate on the training through worry.
Sorry to be all doom and gloom, just needed to get it off my chest.
